Why Being Bad is Good


Why is it that we want a “good” girl in public? You know, the one you can bring home to mom, raise the kids, drive ’em to soccer and attend PTA meetings. But, in private we want a “bad” girl?

Are we asking too much to want a polished, proper, loyal and stable wife for our public lives and a naughty, private whore in the bedroom? Some people profess to ‘want it all’ and spend their entire lives in pursuit of the elusive “perfect mate.” Here’s the ugly truth…

No such person exists!

Deep down inside everyone knows it, of course. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to understand that the core personality traits of that perfect mom don’t apply to the free-spirited, short-skirt, nymphomaniac who seduces you in the car after dropping the kids off at school.

If you need proof, all you need to do is watch an episode of the classic Star Trek series,

The Enemy Within:
-Premise: A transporter malfunction splits Kirk into two versions of himself- one calm and intellectual, the other raging and emotional.

Furthermore, the calm and intellectual version has ZERO libido and can’t make any decisions. The emotional one is a walking hard-on and has no discipline. Sound familiar? Do your thoughts betray you?

Of course every man and woman has a combination of these qualities. We use them for work, play and social interaction. Being “bad” can be tempered with sensibility and decorum. Similarly, “good” girls can be encouraged, educated and even trained to pull out the naughty qualities that are within themselves.

So there you have it. If you married a slut, chances are she’s cheated on you and you’re either going to deal with it or move on to sweet-polly-purebred for your next girl. Or, perhaps you’ve acquired the necessary attitude and skills to harness that pony and keep her loyal to you. My cuckold friends, of course, laugh at the ridiculousness of it all and ENCOURAGE their women to bring home an occasional additional lover. Nothing can turn him on more than to watch his wife in a live porn show!

On the other side of the coin, what if you selected that “I’d like to bring you home to meet my parents” type of girl. If you chose well for breeding and family life, you may have done well for those duties, but what about the “bad” girl? Is is possible to transform that perfect, Mother of the Year role model into a dual-role bed warmer?


Readers of my blog and book understand that it is up to us, the man of the house to treat our women with respect, adoration and understanding…without exception. Additionally, once you have mastered the sincere gratitude of your wife, you must also be 100% open and honest with your desires for the private, naughty, and steamy stuff you want.

Here’s another analogy from a completely different industry:

1. You go to a bank and make a deposit of $1,000. The next day you want to withdraw $50,000. The banker laughs at your lack of simple math skills. Game over.

2. You deposit $1,000 per day for 30 days. You earn interest on your money. You visit that bank every day. They know your name. You bring them a small gift every once in a while. You listen to the teller’s story. At the end of the month you make a simple withdraw of $$2,000. You do this consistently and with sincerity for over a year. You’ve accumulated over $340,000 plus interest and the tellers think you are the greatest. You then ask the cutest teller to give you a blow job in the walk-in safe.

No…wait a minute, that last metaphor was meant for your wife!

You see, most men think that a bouquet of flowers or doing the dishes once in a while is “payment” for a romp in the hay. While that may work short term, imagine what kind of leverage and influence you would have if you REALLY were prince charming?

By making consistent deposits in your wife’s emotional bank account (Details in my book) you are able to create tremendous withdraws for taking her to strip clubs, buying her a nurse’s outfit, and slowly and carefully opening up her naughty side for your mutual pleasure. Like any worthwhile investment, it takes time, patience and some open manipulation.

Your wife CAN be a bad girl…and that’s good!


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Make Your Wife Horny with a SEXY Gift Card!


Making your wife horny is probably easier than you think.

If you don’t have the time or patience to read my book (Big mistake!) or think that flowers and chocolates won’t do the trick, you can always whip out the credit card and do BOTH of you a huge favor.

gift-cardGet you wife something that will make her feel fabulous, sexy and get her wet. It really doesn’t matter what kind of mood a woman is in or if she’s had a bad day. Your thoughtful gift of love and appreciation can do wonders for her self-esteem and your sex life.

You don’t really have to think about this, do you?

What woman wouldn’t be touched (And want to BE touched) by your selfless act of love? What girl isn’t deeply moved by the fact that her man WANTS her to feel sexy for him? I don’t care how conservative your woman is, deep down inside she wants to feel attractive and when it comes from her man, all the better.

This act of giving works wonders especially if there is any Holiday stress, angst, or even a recent fight. Giving your wife a gift that shows her how much you desire her can move you out of the dog house and into the bedroom with the click of your mouse! Try it! Fire her up and get her wet by clicking here right now.

Admittedly, my wife isn’t even a big shopper. Her primary love language isn’t physical touch, time together, words of affirmation, or gifts…it’s acts of service. (Read “The 5 Love  Languages”, it’s a very good insight into how women and men respond to a variety of ways of the expression of love) In fact, she could care less about the diamonds on her hand or the Lexus in her driveway. She is more impressed when I cook her a meal or do the laundry.

Actually, I am very lucky! Some women are more passionate about “keeping up with the Joneses” and have an appreciation for the finer things in life. The bottom line is it doesn’t matter if your wife or girl is a shopper or not because ALL women love being thought of. ANY expression of your thoughts will give her the feeling of love and security that she craves.

Now, don’t go and waste this opportunity for  Holiday sex by giving her a blender, chump. If you are going to go all out and get her some nice things, be sure to add a few items that will not only make her feel like the princess she is, but instill in her self-esteem, the vision of her sex appeal to you!SexySantaChick

Get her a sexy gift card! Click here right now and you can bet she will have a GREAT time window shopping online at a variety of lingerie, oils, toys, and more! Buy her a gift card right now and dont’ wait for Christmas to give it to her, she’ll want to give it to you sooner than that!

Of course, you will BOTH benefit from such a gift of love (Duh!). But the ongoing benefit of lingerie, toys, etc. is that it truly is the gift that keeps on giving.

If you opt for the “Rabbit” vibrator, be sure to get an extra set of batteries. Last time I was out of town, my wife went through two sets of them!

Ho, Ho, Ho ! (Double meaning optional)

Hot Wife Culture


What is the culture of a Hot wife?

For many men and women it means a forbidden lifestyle of a married couple allowing and encouraging a wife to take on additional sex partners. For many men (I mean a great many) this is a common fantasy.

For most couples, however, the emotional stress and jealousy is too great for a relationship to survive, let alone thrive. Don’t despair if you have the fetish, but not the open relationship with the wife. There are plenty of role play and fantasy games you can enjoy together to simulate the hot wife experience without the emotional baggage of a third player in the bedroom. In fact, the more you understand and manipulate the emotional and psychological triggers of sexuality, the easier it will be to heighten the stimulation of a cuckold relationship without the baggage or frustrations associated with the introduction of a third party.

For those of you who have the confidence and communication of a full-fledged cuckold situation, congratulations. This article is for the rest of us…those who would love the excitement and passion of seeing our wives with a bull, but lack the compatibility for the agreed upon affair.

Exploring the culture in detail, many forums show the man being dominated by his wife. The dominatrix fantasy is a logical extension of the culture. There is nothing embarrassing about this. However, there are more men who simply enjoy the pornographic experience of seeing their wife with another man, who are not into being dominated by their mistress. For most men with this fantasy, it is simply an extension of pornography. Only this time, their wife is in the movie! (Or live show as it were) Every person, no matter who they are, has specific fantasies and scenarios that create sexual stimulation. Some are common, some are not. Some fantasies are called fetishes and can make the average person raise an eyebrow or shake their head in disgust. However, EVERY person has thought about creative sexual techniques or stimulation.

Be grateful if you and/or your partner can discuss it openly and honestly. You are a rare breed.

If you would like to join our group of free-spirited, honest lovers, and your partner is a bit shy, don’t lose hope. There are specific strategies you can use to travel down this path. How far will your fantasies go? Will you be able to turn them into reality? That will ultimately be up to how well you manipulate the conversations, actions and relationship.

Ultimately, the biggest challenge will be how well you manipulate your own mind.

For the majority of couples, however, jealousy, STD’s and emotional challenges prevent most men and women from living out this fantasy. Here are a few ideas to re-create the culture, mood, and excitement of your own, personal and sexually-charged cuckold relationship.

  1. Set the mood for an affair. Creating the right atmosphere is critical in any sexual situation. Candles, music, and atmosphere do more to turn us on then words which are temporary. With the right mood, a couple can become aroused and stay aroused longer. Find out what scents turn your partner on and use them sparingly. If your fantasy takes place in a crowded bar or seedy hotel, go there. Nothing sets the mood and re-creates the fantasy better than a well dressed set. Like James Cameron did for the filming of the Titanic, build the perfect set for your affair. You don’t have to be an Oscar-nominated actor to get in the spirit of things!
  2. Create the PERFECT partner. The fantasy of another man with your wife can be both her fantasy and yours. Chances are one of you may be embarrassed to admit being attracted to another type of person. It’s OK. Nobody can be everything to anyone. So you married a blonde…of course you want an affair with a brunette. Variety is the spice of life! My wife is crazy for accents so find out what country or accent turns your wife on and practices it. The better job you do of recreating her “mystery” lover, the more realistic your fantasy will seem to the both of you.
  3. Be courageous. You are probably experimenting with some new stuff here. Of course you are going to make some mistakes, say the wrong thing or embarrass yourself. Get over it! Practice makes perfect. You are already married and have had embarrassing moments before. Just make them all in private in case one of your fantasies is sex in public places. You’ll want to get that right the first time, just in case it is your last!
  4. Be forgiving of yourself and each other. I am assuming that the hot wife culture appeals to only one of you. (If it appeals to both of you, be safe and smart about your emotions and health) Since this topic is rife with jealousy, be sure to discuss it outside of the bedroom when the time is right. My wife and I had to see a few movies and have some calm discussions about sexuality before she was comfortable bringing our “fantasy man” into the bedroom. In her mind, if the roles were reversed (And they were sometimes!) she wanted to be the #1 girl. I understood completely and always talked up our bi-sexual fantasy girl as the warm up person. Sure, she would play with both of us during intercourse, but I always dismissed her after a while and focused on my wife. The same is true for her fantasy man.  Be respectful and forgiving of your partner during this time of discovery.

In conclusion, don’t be embarrassed about the hot wife culture. It is a very common fantasy and one that can be explored safely with the two of you. In fact, there are many advantages to keeping this fantasy a fantasy! With an imaginary playmate there is no uncomfortable moments of Q and A. There is no jealousy. The fantasy person can instantly teleport into and out of our bedroom whenever we want and neither of us can catch an STD!


If you and your wife are both prepared to take it out of the world of fantasy and into the real world, have plenty of discussions and go ahead and role play it out a few times before you do it for real. Like test pilots flying simulators, you’ll cover some of the issues, but not all of them! For more ideas, strategies and tactics for creating a smokin’ hot wife, visit http://www.makeyourwifehot.com today!

Artistic Sex


Stop watching porn!

I confess that I have never, ever actually watched a complete pornographic movie. Oh sure, I’ve put a few movies on and the wife and I have used the imagery and titillation to arouse the mood. But we never watched the entire movie…sorry about the ridiculousness of it, but there isn’t much difference from the first 10 mintues to the last!

But, seriously, has there ever been an ‘artistic’ movie around sex?

Sure, Doug…”9 1/2 weeks” “Gone with the Wind” and…uhm…Screech! Wait. I said SEX not ROMANCE!

You see, artistic sex is a lost art in the United States. Our microwave society has generated a new breed of instant gratification when it comes to everything including fast food, lottery millionaires and love on demand.

Artistic sex reminds me of a symphony. When two people go at it like dogs they are procreating. Nothing wrong with that if you want to make puppies. But a true artful lover enjoys the warm up, the dance, the fast interlude, the steady and slow pacing and the cymbal crash at the end of the song. Artful lovemaking always reminds me of classical music with its depth, variety of pace, rhythm, crescendos, frequency and amplitude. Listening to good classical music is actually terrific training for becoming and artistic lover.

If you are into rap music, then all the skills you need are available for $4.99 per download. Bang like animals and enjoy your repetitive boredom of sameness.

Don’t be embarrassed by the fact that 90% of us usually have sex in the same 2 or 3 positions. Heck, we know what creates an orgasm for our partner and ourselves. After a few years, however, don’t you want to try something new?

I don’t mean JUST a new position. You can get any number of the kama sutra positions from this blog and our new edition of www.makeyourwifehot.com coming out next year. (Complete with tasteful images for you and your spouse) You spouse will be thrilled that you consider more than just a new position. Your assignment is to create a new experience!

A good start is the book “500 Lovemaking Secrets” by Michael Webb. Michael has been featured on Oprah, CBS, NBC and dozens of other magazines and media. His advice is solid and he has a wealth of details he reveals in this book.

So don’t settle for simply a new toy, gizmo, position or underwear. Create a new experience that can transform not only your sex life, but your love life as well. Who knows, somebody should be writing that tasteful sexual movie one day…why not you!

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How To Be More Attractive to Women


what women want

In a previous post, I promised to share with you 7 subtle things you can do to increase your charisma, enjoy a more robust sex life and transform that little woman from a busy, frumpy soccer mom into a red-hot love machine. Remember; don’t try to be someone you are not! Woman can spot a fake in 4 seconds. Be the best YOU possible. If you are a “Bad Boy” then use that energy to become less of a jerk and more responsible. Don’t lose your edge, of course. I am sure it works for you. If you are Jimmy Stewart re-incarnated, then use those boyish good looks and laid back attitude to your benefit. Don’t get so lost in your coolness that you get trampled on.

Regardless of which side of the coin you are on, borrowing a few qualities from the other makes sense, as long as you don’t go overboard. Be true to your nature at all times. THAT is what creates authenticity and charisma that can turn your woman (or any woman) from a prospect into a magnetized hottie! Here are 7 ideas:

1. Books about Wisdom: Intelligence

Who you are is determined largely by the people you associate with and the books you read. Chicks dig a smart guy. Dump your comic books in the trash and hide the “How to Seduce a Cougar” book for later reference. Books about history, biographies of famous figures and spirituality are all winners. When she comes over and sees you actually read, you’ll be ahead of the pack. Reading to make a difference in your life and the lives of others will make her tingle with delight. It will make you look more attractive because you’ll be more attractive!

2. Passion for Your Career: Confidence

General Norma Schwartskopf brilliantly stated, “When in command, take charge.” It didn’t matter that the guy was 40 pounds overweight. His charisma and confidence easily translated into sex appeal. So you’re a mail clerk at a no-name company, so what? Your job is either a stepping stone to something else or you are doing your life’s work. Be proud! The more confidence you display in your career, the more attractive you are to women. It used to be the best hunters who had the hottest cavewomen, so you better show her how important you are at communication distribution (Your real title in the mail room) and how the whole enterprise would collapse without you. This is a biggie. Your confidence is the foundation of being an alpha male. Weak men with a tendency to indecisiveness are not attractive.

3. Volunteering: Activist

Put down the xBox and DO something with your spare time! You’ve got 24 hours in a day, buster. I know you want to spend at least 2 of those hours in the sack with Sylvia, so if you want your fair-haired maiden to be totally into you, be sure to invest a few hours per month at the soup kitchen or begging for quarters at the intersection for cerebral palsy. Pick a volunteer organization that actually means something to you or relates to a friend of family member. Who knows, you may actually feel better about yourself in the process and score points with the boss or your mom. All kinds of collateral benefits pop up when you do the right thing, including being more attractive to women!

4. Gray Hair: Experience

Sales of color treatment for men’s hair are down. We can all thank George Clooney for that! A touch of gray (Especially at the temples) usually drives women wild. Even a full head of gray hair can signify experience, sex appeal and confidence. If you need further proof that silver is the new black, a survey by Match.com found that a whopping 72% of women think gray hair is hot.  Just lose the white beard and gut; otherwise she’ll think you have a part-time job at Macy’s during Christmas.

5. Cat or Dog: Father figure

Nothing attracts strangers to each other faster than walking a baby or puppy. The innocence and 100% openness to strangers is a sure conversation starter and ice breaker. Babies grow into full blow teenagers pretty quickly, so opting for the puppy is a lot less work and less responsibility. I had a dog named Max years ago. My friends called him the “Chick Magnet” because I could guarantee a casual stroll down the boulevard with him would garner no less than 3 new conversations with women. Now, if only he could sniff out the cute, single, horny women…

6. Scar: Risk Taker

Scars provide men with a rugged manliness and mystery, which is always sexy. Women want a man who is strong so she can depend on him to protect her and the family. Research backs up why scars are a hit with women. According to science news website, Science Daily, scientists have found that women may associate scars with health and bravery. Scars not only show you’re a courageous guy who’ll take on his opponents, but you’re tough enough to outlive them. Be sure not to lie, but embellish if your scar was the result of a drunken fall off the back porch. “As I reached out to save the baby, I managed to pull her back from the ledge, but went over it myself. Thankfully, the 3 shots of Jack Daniels I had numbed the pain.” Just don’t be a dork and get a scar on purpose. Being more attractive to women includes being honest. They ALL hate liars.

7. T-shirt & Blazer: Style-savvy

Your favorite sports team t-shirt is very comfortable I am sure. But the pit stains and holes are a definite no-no with her. When you go out, at least try to look like you actually care about your wardrobe. After all, she does! Get an occasional copy of GQ, Men’s Health or other magazine that will give you a clue about what to wear. Be sure to make it age appropriate. Those Ed Hardy shirts just don’t compliment your 401K like the Florsheims did. If you are completely clueless and know it, ask your woman to take you shopping. You’ll get the double dip effect of letting her dress you, getting you looking snappy and giving her the endorphin rush of shopping, all on your dime.

The laws of attraction are sometimes simple and often out of order. What women want is a man that is a leader, provider and supportive partner. Women like sensitive, caring men, of course. But being sensitive in lieu of being masculine won’t get you the hot girl or get back the hot wife you once had. Being balanced isn’t that tough, guys. Become an alpha male with a conscious.

The way you look more attractive to women is through confidence, style and look them in the eye. Of course there is more! For more ideas on understanding what women want and getting more sex in your life, visit http://www.makeyourwifehot.com today.

Below is a charming video showcasing Mel’s charisma…

How to Get Your Wife Back


One day you wake up and don’t feel in love anymore…yuk.

Do you want to get your wife back? Why? Are you in love? How can that be, chump…I mean if she’s left (Either physically or emotionally) then is that love? Isn’t true love when BOTH parties feel the same way? Isn’t your emotion more out of desperation of loss or being alone than her? How can you love someone who doesn’t love you back?Get Your Wife Back

“Hey there…watch my video below…”

Love is pretty confusing, of course. Just when we think we have it all figured out, the world, our relationship, our health or attitude changes. Some people argue and bicker, ever realizing what the true issue is or what outcome they are after during a fight.

What is worse than fighting? What is worse than arguing or being jealous?


This indifference is actually worse than fighting. You see, the opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference. There are worse things than hate. Hate has emotion attached to it. It isn’t love, but it is an emotion nonetheless. There are strategies to transfer this emotion to a sexually charged evening! (see my post on make up sex…it works!) Get your wife back by thinking, believing and acting in love. It may sound simple, but it is not.

When indifference creeps into your head and heart, you are in serious trouble. Take some reflective time and go back to your past. Recall what you did, who you were and where you were when you felt in love. Go back and recall what circumstances created the thought “I want to spend the rest of my life with her.” Your circumstances may have changed, of course. But that doesn’t mean it is impossible to USE the past to rebuild a new future.

There are no guarantees that your heart or her heart will restore itself to the incredible lust, mystery and passion when you first met, of course. But, by thinking loving thoughts, reminding yourself of the feelings that went with those thoughts and acting “as if” they were all real, you’ve created the perfect storm to revitalize your love and create permanent change in her heart.

This may be the most difficult thing you’ve ever attempted. Getting your wife back isn’t easy, of course. Certainly “falling” in love wasn’t hard. But rekindling the passion, lust and mutual true love between 2 people may be more difficult than curing cancer. When it comes to love, we have more to fear than death, we could lose the chance to live.

Decide. Commit. Act.

After you have closed the escape hatch of an affair, divorce or indifference, face your spouse and commit to acting in love. Commit to doing the things you did naturally when you did feel in love. Once you start to act in love, the chances are much higher that your feelings will follow your actions.

magic_of_making_up3Sometimes we can all use a little help to rekindle that feeling. There are some who claim that the feeling of “love” can’t be controlled….it just is. Well, here’s a clue to help you out if you fall into the trap of “I love my spouse, I’m just not IN love with them.” syndrome. Get a copy of the popular book, “The Magic of Making Up” and learn how thousands of people have taken a hopeless situation and not just survived, but THRIVED with it after a break-up, affair, or a slow drift apart. Click here to order your copy today.

Watch the video below and create some clear, simple and straightforward actions you can take to get your wife back, rekindle your love affair and have a hot wife again.

Passion, living life to its fullest and creating outstanding memories for yourself is not limited to your honeymoon or vacation sex! You have the ability and knowledge to create off-the-chart sex, lust and passion whenever you want! The tools are simple and the path is clear. Make the commitment today, follow the video, read this blog and make your wife hot and your life hotter!

For more ideas, strategies and advice on making your wife hot and your relationship hotter, visit http://www.makeyourwifehot.com today!

Older Man Younger Woman Relationship


C’mon guys, if you are in the midlife zone, you know you have thoughts of younger women. There is no shame in knowing what you want and being upfront about it.

We are men and we are visual, predatory creatures. Yes?

Just don’t let nature make you look ridiculous.

I am reminded of a joke from Dave Barry’s book, Dave Barry Turns 40.

“Does that mean, as an aging person, you’re no longer capable of feeling lust that you felt as an 18 year old? “Not at all. You’re attracted just as strongly as ever were to 18 year olds! The problem is that everybody your own age seems repulsive.”

Sociology be damned! Man has created so many social rules that trying to figure out where God, the church, evolution, monogamy, love, lust and propagating the species all fit together is maddening.

Let’s focus on one issue at a time. Maybe by the year 2035 it will all come together, just in time for my application to a nursing home.

Age differential is currently an up and coming topic. With Courtney Cox debuting with Cougar Town and Mel Gibson’s divorce and remarriage to a girl ½ his age, it seems as though age differential is becoming more popular.

In fact, for MOST of human history, older men always coveted and wed younger women. The concept of having a woman your own age was actually less popular then, than it is today. Why is it more acceptable for older men to be with younger women? By younger, I am referring to guys in their 50’s and 60’s with women in their 30’s. “Daddy” syndrome is not to be confused with “Grandpa” syndrome. If a guy has a girl that looks like she could be her daughter, it catches our attention. If she looks like she could be his granddaughter, its disgusting.

There are two sides to this coin, of course; a woman’s perspective and a man’s.

Let’s begin with women.

If a woman is unappealing, a man does not necessarily want to breed with her. Attractive women guarantee the continuation of our species. There…lesson over.

Don’t send me emails talking about how insensitive I am or how hot women with big boobs are superficial. Leave your master’s degree at home, put on some heels and a short skirt and free yourself, ladies! Just because you are hot does not equate to being ignorant!

The most attractive woman is a CONFIDENT woman who knows what she wants, is smart, witty, sexy and fun. Isn’t that what YOU want in a man?

The difference is in the game of reproduction, a species, courting, displays of attraction and mating are always primary to act of reproduction. You can’t get to ‘know’ someone if you don’t see them first. Men are visual creatures. A woman who has large breasts signifies that she is able to bear children (See how ignorant WE are? Our libidos aren’t hip to plastic surgery!). Men, like most drones, are built for providing the necessary seed to reproduce. Women are given all the nurturing tools (breasts and a heart) in order to raise offspring properly. Our roles as men have always been simple, clear and short-lived.

Men have an advantage in this arena.

Men can be physically attractive and that quality guarantees good genes to be passed down to the offspring. However, since women crave security as much or MORE than producing healthy children, a modern man who is older but more secure gives the same benefit (Bonus if he is attractive).rich guy young woman

If he is unattractive, the woman is labeled a gold digger and the man is labeled “rich.”

Women are starting to confidently enter this arena (Ashton and Demi, for example) but it is not the same thing. You don’t see Judi Dench with a young, hot guy. Older woman/younger man scenarios may be more common place today, but the women are nearly always attractive. It is a double-standard.

Hey, I didn’t make the rules, but I understand them.

For more ideas on making YOUR wife or girl hot and sexy, visit http://www.makeyourwifehot.com today. Your intimacy and sex life is about to take a giant leap forward!

I found this ad today…the imagery caused me to post this blog. Look carefully. Who is the senior in this picture? If you are a senior citizen, what do YOU see?

Is Sex Better When You’re in Love?


How does the emotion of love relate to sex?

Sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn’t. Like many of us, we’ve had “sex” and we’ve “made love.” Ask anyone which is more satisfying and they’ll tell you that making love has way more power to it. (Even really great sex is better with someone whom you truly love!)

Love is one of the most misunderstood and complicated emotions in human existence. Perhaps that is why over 90% of songs and movies are about this topic! The approach you take to falling into, maintaining and nourishing your love is a job that never ends. I would be a fool to try and explain it. My hope for you is to simply shed a little light on love and perhaps give you some pointers to assist your personal navigation of the most confusing emotion imaginable-Love.

To deepen your understanding of the emotion love you need to delve into the subconscious mind. Your subconscious encompasses both directed emotions and indirect feelings. It is in this realm of the mind where you can open new corridors of new understanding of love.

Use of your cognitive thought process which is detached from your complex inner workings of the mind isn’t as easy as it sounds (Does that really sound easy to you?). Your mind may not be able to understand the emotional elements of your life but your personal self help approach can at least give you some light to cast on the dark and mysterious path of love.

You can automatically develop a loving relationship that can be complicated if certain components are not addressed. Step back from the question, “Is sex better when you are in love?” The bigger issue may be are you healthy enough to be in love? There may be various reasons that may get in the way of your marriage and romantic life.

Some of the most popular complications include low esteem and fear.

Low Self Esteem:
You may not believe that you are not deserving of a healthy and loving relationship. Your history and previous experiences shape who you are and your belief system. When your subconscious values are in conflict with your logical ones, love can get as confusing as these sentences!

The most effective way to deal with this is to re-wire your mind. To have a successful loving relationship, start by loving yourself. When a person has behaved badly or been treated poorly, a low self-esteem creates self-loathing. The extreme extension of this relates to child abuse and some forms of prostitution. A low self-esteem can create a desire to be loved and shallow manifestations or dangerous extensions of sex can resemble a type of love that one craves.

It’s the beginning of everything. If you cannot allow yourself to eradicate negative feelings within you, then you may feel a loving emotion but may internally suffer a conflict of emotion. This conflict needs immediate emotion and deeper understanding. Many people fail as they do not foster their love with their selves.

Fear of rejection is the reason public speaking is more feared than death itself. Your fear of being rejected by your selected mate can cause huge issues which also relate directly to self-esteem. Your fear of loss, rejection and being lonely can inhibit the free exchange of love; making it very difficult if not possible. Low esteem, fear and anxiety can be serious obstacles but you should have the power to control them through your subconscious mind. Gaining a deeper understanding of your loving emotion requires more positive self-talk. One of my favorite books on this subject is called “What to Say to When You Talk to Yourself” by Shad Helmstetter.

Is sex better when you are in love? Of course it is! Can anyone enjoy better sex by turning on the love machine. Not necessarily. Getting right with yourself, first is important. Many troubled marriages overlook this fundamental step. It is the reason 2nd marriages have a higher failure rate than first marriages. The person who left hasn’t fixed the root problem-themselves.

Developing a great self-esteem is step one to getting someone else to fall in love with you, be committed and develop the loving relationship and off the chart sex that you desire. For more ideas on creating a really smokin’ hot romance, check out my book at http://www.makeyourwifehot.com.

I Love You But I’m Not In Love With You


HA! Who’s not heard that phrase before?

If you’ve been married for more than a few years the odds are pretty good that you’ve either said it, had your spouse say it to you or one of you has thought it without saying it!

What do you DO with information like this? What can you do? What SHOULD you do? It doesn’t matter if you are saying it or hearing it, you cannot go on like this. Time to take some action, champ!

If you are the one who’s saying it; here’s some advice.

Love has several incarnations and even phases in life. The first form of love is those butterflies in your stomach (or bulge in your pants) that make you crazy. You may lose focus on other things, you are giddy, and you basically can’t keep your hands off of each other. “Puppy love” and newlyweds are only separated by age and experience. The feeling of love is intoxicating.

This single characteristic of love, by its very nature, changes over time.

This is not to say that you cannot resurrect those butterflies after 20 years of marriage-you can. However, when it was an effortless act when you first dated, it takes some purposeful thought and habits to keep the love alive.

When someone says, “I love you but I’m not in love with you” your mission is to NOT take it personally. The worst thing you can do is to blame you, your spouse or the economy. The proper response is not to blame, but to take this opportunity to INCREASE your communication, intimacy and chemistry with one another.

Creating feelings of euphoria, excitement and lust are feelings that CAN be created with 1/2 cup of psychology,  2 teaspoons of empathy, a cup of creativity, and a dash of courage.

1. Psychology: Understanding love and “in love” and developing a plan to bring those two ideas together is step one. I will be spending over 1/2 of the time at our Sex Workshop pulling those concepts together in order to increase the quantity and intensity of a couples sexual time together.  I guarantee the day or two you invest in Las Vegas will be worth 100X the investment. Our last workshop was a TOTALLY HOT success. We’ll do another one early in 2010.

2. Empathy: While empathy is an emotion normally reserved for grieving people, I use it here as a specific tool to create or restore a connection between two people. The more you empathize with your spouse, the more you manifest some very important qualities. You open up YOUR heart to his/her desires, pains, frustrations and needs. When you open up to another person-Shazam! They do the same for you! It must be sincere and you must listen more than you talk. That is empathy. It can bring you closer together emotionally and can translate into more intimacy and sex.

3. Creativity: Let’s face it, just because you KNOW how to make her cum, doesn’t mean you need to use that SAME technique the rest of her life! All human beings crave new experiences and discovery. The journey can be just as exciting as the destination (Sometimes MORE exciting!) so get out the porno, velvet handcuffs and play. You may create a few embarrassing moments with your experimentation; so what! You’ve been married for a while, you’ve seen each other naked for years. What’s wrong with spilling the chocolate sauce on her navel, only to realize in the dim lights that it is salsa? Get out the chips and have a party!

4. Courage: Naturally, when a couple has hit a crossroad and realizes their sex live, love and relationship is sliding down, ignoring it won’t make it better. Having the courage to talk-really talk about it and the courage to TRY different things is the main quality you need.

It may hurt to experiment with the dominatrix kit you got for Valentines Day, but it never hurts to talk about your relationship as long as you are open, honest and don’t take any of your spouse’s thoughts personally. Remember, if you aren’t happy, chances are neither is your spouse. You both have some changes to make if you want to be in love again.

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Cuckold: Are you demented?


Of all the fantasies that divide people cuckolding could be one of the most confusing. For the uninitiated, cuckolding is a husband’s desire to have his wife have sex with another man. It is most often when the husband is watching but can extend out to him not even being there.

When I think about this fantasy from a psychological view, I find it fascinating. On one hand, the stories I have read show a man who enjoys being dominated by a strong woman; a woman so powerful that he alone cannot satisfy her. This type of man may also embrace dominatrix fetishes and become stimulated by being dominated; sexually and otherwise.


On the other hand, some men who are NOT into the dominatrix stuff still enjoy seeing their wife having sex with another man. Their confidence and comfort with this activity is the exact opposite of the weaker man syndrome. A man who enjoys watching his wife having sex with another man is akin to watching pornography, only your WIFE is in the show!

Now, pornography is a visual stimulus many individuals and couples use to assist in arousal where average arousal has either tapered off or isn’t working at all. The logical extension of 2 dimensional stimulation is 3 dimensional. Going to gentleman’s clubs, getting a lap dance (for 2!) and considering cuckolding or group sex can raise the bar, your blood pressure, and sensual arousal to extreme heights.

This type of activity, however, is never for the couple who have any confidence or jealousy issues. Too many couples have tried to use extreme arousal techniques to rekindle a relationship when the REAL issue was communication and not sex.

That is one of the key drivers for our HUGELY successful workshop in Las Vegas, Nevada this past November. Our 1/2 day workshop in 2010 will focus on creating open, honest and complete communication with an emphasis on the sexual expression of your love and lust. It will be a enlightening afternoon and evening. Men, women are couples are all invited and I encourage you to email me about what weekend would work for you. If it is anything like our last one, you’ll go home charged up, enlightened and maybe a little sore!

In the meantime, visit http://www.makeyourwifehot.com and read how to create the hot wife of your dreams.