Encourage Your Wife to Cheat

Doug

Huh?

Cheating on your wife doesn’t sound like the right path if you want to make her hot…angry maybe but hot? Yeah, she’ll be boiling over with attorney letters if you do something as cowardly as cheat. If you want some sex on the side, but don’t want to get a divorce, I have the perfect and SAFE solution for you.

Cheat on your wife…with your wife.

In a previous post I mentioned how high-level role play can give you all the thrill and excitement of an affair without the fear of destroying your family or catching some nasty STD. Method #1 works wonders and while it can easily achieve 99% of the excitement of a real affair, it has zero liability. Pretty good trade off!

Method #2 involves an even higher level of persuasion, influence and work on your part. If you can pull it off, you will be in the top 10% of satisfied marriages. If you mess up any of the following procedures, you run the risk of months of therapy or worse.

Method #2 involves creating a bi-curious wife.

The strategy to do this STARTS in the mind and with a healthy dose of patience, almost anyone can pull it off. It will require some manipulation, but its all in good fun!

1. Be prince charming. Nothing warms up a woman like the perfect guy. Flowers, doing the dishes and lowering the toilet seat are the most overlooked acts of foreplay on the planet.

2. Schedule ongoing massages for her. Pamper your wife. As she gets used to the massages, start to change the provider. Move slooooowly over to erotic massage professionals ONLY after you accomplish steps 3-6.

3. Become an exceptional lover. Study cunnilingus techniques, Kama Sutra and simply spoil her rotten.

4. Introduce quality erotica into your bedroom. Start with a few toys for her and progress to some erotic stories, videos or other visual and sensory items to increase the quality of your lovemaking. Start to talk dirty and ask her to share some of her fantasies.

5. AFTER she shares some of hers, the next question is, “What about you, darling?” This is where you need to tread lightly. It’s OK to mention an asian flight attendant massaging her feet. It is not OK to suggest a three-some with your neighbor Buffy with the boob job. Talk only. Do it during sex. Create a three-some in your mind and hers during a passionate night of sex.

6. Let her know that having an affair is rooted in the excitement of things forbidden. The more forbidden it is, the more exciting it can be. Ask her openly about bi-sexuality. Do not ask her if she wants to perform, only ask her if she has ever thought about it. If you’ve planted enough visual and physical clues over the proceeding weeks, you have a shot.

7. Take her to a strip club. The classier the better. Touch her often and in the open. Find the classiest dancer there and buy a dance for your wife, not you! Alcohol always helps.

8. Schedule a wild evening at a swingers club. Most of them are BYOB. Bring her favorite libation to reduce her apprehension. When you go, assure her that you don’t have to DO anything. Many couples go there for the visual stimulation only. Touching is not expected, unless you are both ready.

If you’ve done a good job, you may have opened up your wife to being bi-curious. This is better than an affair! If you can get in a three-some every few months, you can have the excitement of a mistress with zero guilt and without destroying your marriage.

Good luck!
-Doug Steponin

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Cheating On Your Wife

Doug

Before you learn the unbreakable rules for cheating, you need to take a clear look at the pros and cons of infidelity. The costs (and benefits) of cheating is a decision that you are about to make (or have already made) and include financial, emotional, sexual and even medical.

You’ll discover the clear rules for how to cheat on your wife or husband and NOT get caught. You will learn exact methods that thousands of ‘successful’ cheaters have used to avoid detection and live the intriguing double life of infidelity. The rules will give you a squeaky clean record that is as untraceable as a CIA agent’s resume. You’ll read the details on how to avoid the obvious mistakes and learn some underground methods for the elimination of your double life, 100% of the evidence, 100% of the time. You’ll anticipate the moves and suspicions of your spouse and cleverly lay out credible excuses and reasons for your change in actions, attitude or behaviors.

None of these rules will work.

No matter what you say or do to justify your decision to lead a double life, the excuses, reasoning and rationale for your actions, beliefs and behaviors will all come at a cost.

No one ever PLANS on getting caught. Once you’ve successfully cheated on your wife or husband, there is no reason you won’t be successful again.The situations, evidence and “spy-like” maneuvers and services can withstand 100% scrutiny if you anticipate a highly skeptical and resourceful spouse. You may have already established rules like the following with your lover:

  1. Use of a separate email address at Yahoo, MSN, etc.
  2. Deletion of all emails after they are read.
  3. Clearing out your Internet history every day.
  4. Use of a separate cell phone for calls and text messages.
  5. Instant deletion of all text messages after they are read.
  6. Separate credit card for purchases or a strict use of cash for hotels.
  7. Out of town lover or meeting away from where people know you.
  8. Hiding in plain sight. Having a lover whom your spouse knows.
  9. Showing your spouse feigned attention and love.
  10. Situational compatibility (Also married and has as much to lose)
  11. Destroying hotel receipts in the lobby before you get in the car.
  12. Using independent alibi services to explain your movements.

The list can go on and on. Don’t think that your skills are unmatched, however. There are dozens of software programs your spouse can load onto your computer that memorizes key strokes. Even if you delete the email and take out the trash, your key strokes outlining your password and naughty talk is memorized and available for printing by your spouse…oops!

The same is true for text messages. Even after deletion, most back up programs store old messages even after they are deleted on the phone.

Think that hooking up out of town is the only way to do it right? That is the oldest one in the book. Being “anonymous” nowadays is not only difficult it is actually impossible. Video cameras, surveillance and other tactics to follow suspects are available not only to  private investigators, but the general public as well.

However, after years of deceit, your infidelity will create the proverbial “straw that broke the camel’s back.” It won’t be a leftover text message, an open email, or a scrap of paper with a number on it. You are too careful for that. Your undoing may very well be the internal conflict of a double life. You see, a double life contains a double edged sword.

An affair can be thrilling, passionate and incredibly intoxicating. The very thought of clandestine meetings, brief trysts in unusual places gets the heart beating and the libido in full swing. The chance of getting caught, like a good car chase, adds adrenaline to the system. You and your lover have an INCREDIBLE connection. The passion is 100X better than with your spouse and the sex is off the chart…why?

Because it is pure.

Your affair or the affair you are contemplating has your mind racing at an accelerated pace. Your thinking is clearer in one sense in that you are planning ahead on how NOT to get caught! You’ve thought it through and you’ve established all the contingencies.

Careful people rarely get caught cheating on their spouse. However, like the scene of a crime where nobody is present, there is always a single witness…you.

The emotional baggage of cheating will eventually weigh so heavy upon your back that the damage will spill over into other areas of your life. Like most people, you are too blind to see it today. It is only from talking with other people who have been in your situation that a long term view can be seen. Before you cheat or if you are trying to break from from an affair, it is best to understand why they occur in the first place. Is it because of a lack of sex, caring, understanding, compassion, intimacy, desire or attractiveness? Maybe, but at the core of all those words lies one simple reason.

You have unmet needs. These needs, you feel, cannot be met by your spouse. It may be a need for intellectual stimulation, affirmation of your ego, sexual gratification, or simply an intimate connection that you haven’t felt for a long time.

The idea that any single person can meet all of your needs is folly. Nobody can do that. Whatever need you have that your spouse cannot meet, it will be much cheaper, easier, safer and more honest to develop a strategy to communicate these needs in a non-judgmental, open and almost clinical fashion.

Your spouse may not want to hear that his beer-belly gut disgusts you or that her lack of interest in sex is a major concern of yours. He may not even understand how you just want to be heard once in a while. Whatever needs you are addressing CAN and SHOULD be brought up to your spouse before you have an affair.

Bringing them up may be hurtful. It may even cause arguments or divorce. However, by bringing these issues up now, you WILL be avoiding a MORE hurtful, painful and expensive alternative-the affair. By bringing these issues up now, if you do part ways, at least you can do it without the cloud of shame, guilt, deceit and betrayal hanging over your head.

Learn how to bring up sensitive issues with your spouse. Even letting them know that you have CONSIDERED an affair (but have not stepped out) should be a wake up call to work on the issues of your unmet needs. By bringing these issue into the open, you may also get a list from him/her about their needs.

Are you willing to change?

Can you compromise on some of your needs?

Can the two of you work together on creating the intimacy, connection, lust, affection, respect, sex, rapport and love you once had? Take some time to meditate and write down your inner thoughts, needs and wants. Don’t hold back. Don’t feel ashamed. Be clear and concise. Ask your spouse to do the same.

After you have your lists, make a rule that the discussion of these needs is for the purpose of increasing communication, intimacy and love. Some of the topics may be contrary to the preconceived notion of love, but the sharing of these thoughts always lead to an increase in communication and at least understanding of each other.

Stop touching yourself and get your WIFE to do it!

Dealing with your core issues isn’t easy. Obviously, it is more difficult than simply cheating on your spouse.

However, it will be less painful to deal with your unmet needs now, as opposed to dealing with them in divorce court. For a step by step system to create a sexually-charged relationship with your spouse, visit http://www.makeyourwifehot.com right now! You can begin enjoying a new sex life as early as tonight!


What Makes Sex a Scandal: Learning from Letterman

Doug

When is sex a scandal?

What is it about consenting adults relishing each others bodies that causes heads of state to stammer and talk show hosts confess to millions on air?

What is all the hoopla about, anyway?

The purpose of sex is to reproduce the species. Why our creator made it SO damn enjoyable is what has us all in a tizzy. You see, if we were like starfish or insects, we would be simply reproducing for the benefits of propagating the species.

Fortunately or unfortunately, our species LOVES sex. It is the brunt of more jokes, the intrigue of more movies, and dominates over 40% of all Internet sites. Obviously there is more to it than reproduction!

Somewhere along the way, sex became more than just reproduction. It became a symbol of marriage and fidelity to our partners. It became the physical manifestation of something intangible and mysterious-love.

For the perfect couple, the act of sex is the intertwining, not just of their legs, but their souls. The term “soul mate” is used often for two people who, regardless of sex, are connected eternally. This connection is celebrated in sex, but if the sex ever dies off, true soul mates stay together.

For less than perfect couples, the pursuit of sex (or the hunt) is a driving force of seeking pleasure. This driving need to have sex is what has allowed our species to proliferate the planet so successfully. What muddles our heads, hearts and news opinions is the societal opinion of what, where and who you have sex with.

Simply put, if you are married, you are supposed to have sex only with your spouse. There are biological, anthropological and social reasons for this. One of my favorite articles on this subject is The Monogamy Puzzle. Take some time and read through this. It is a fascinating piece.

If you are an employer, you are not supposed to have sex with your employees. In that case, sex is a weapon that can be used for advancement or even discharge. In David Letterman’s case, he was NOT married but living with his girl prior to marriage. He admitted to having sex with more than one other person during his co-habitation with his girlfriend. Clearly, as an unmarried man, he is free to do what he wants-right?

Wrong.

Women who live with a man, in this society, assume that a monogamous relationship is in place. “Moving in together” by common definition constitutes a covenant resembling marriage without the legal ties. If someone elects to see other people, living together would be cumbersome at best!

David, like many powerful men, chose to wield his charm and power without the common code that most of us adhere to. I am not judging him, mind you. Over half of married couples are victims of affairs during their marriage. This does not excuse infidelity, but it does point to a common thread that as monogamous as we claim to be, our legacy and heritage show us that it has been and will continue to be a constant struggle between sexual urges and societal mores.

Creating a lasting, loving and sexually charged relationship that spans years or decades is a very tall order. While half of couples do remain together, less than 10% claim to participate in active, vigorous, mind-blowing sex on a regular basis. If you want to be in the minority and have a smokin’ hot wife and off-the-chart sex, click on http://www.makeyourwifehot.com today. You, your heart and your body will be glad you did.