Why Being Bad is Good


Why is it that we want a “good” girl in public? You know, the one you can bring home to mom, raise the kids, drive ’em to soccer and attend PTA meetings. But, in private we want a “bad” girl?

Are we asking too much to want a polished, proper, loyal and stable wife for our public lives and a naughty, private whore in the bedroom? Some people profess to ‘want it all’ and spend their entire lives in pursuit of the elusive “perfect mate.” Here’s the ugly truth…

No such person exists!

Deep down inside everyone knows it, of course. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to understand that the core personality traits of that perfect mom don’t apply to the free-spirited, short-skirt, nymphomaniac who seduces you in the car after dropping the kids off at school.

If you need proof, all you need to do is watch an episode of the classic Star Trek series,

The Enemy Within:
-Premise: A transporter malfunction splits Kirk into two versions of himself- one calm and intellectual, the other raging and emotional.

Furthermore, the calm and intellectual version has ZERO libido and can’t make any decisions. The emotional one is a walking hard-on and has no discipline. Sound familiar? Do your thoughts betray you?

Of course every man and woman has a combination of these qualities. We use them for work, play and social interaction. Being “bad” can be tempered with sensibility and decorum. Similarly, “good” girls can be encouraged, educated and even trained to pull out the naughty qualities that are within themselves.

So there you have it. If you married a slut, chances are she’s cheated on you and you’re either going to deal with it or move on to sweet-polly-purebred for your next girl. Or, perhaps you’ve acquired the necessary attitude and skills to harness that pony and keep her loyal to you. My cuckold friends, of course, laugh at the ridiculousness of it all and ENCOURAGE their women to bring home an occasional additional lover. Nothing can turn him on more than to watch his wife in a live porn show!

On the other side of the coin, what if you selected that “I’d like to bring you home to meet my parents” type of girl. If you chose well for breeding and family life, you may have done well for those duties, but what about the “bad” girl? Is is possible to transform that perfect, Mother of the Year role model into a dual-role bed warmer?


Readers of my blog and book understand that it is up to us, the man of the house to treat our women with respect, adoration and understanding…without exception. Additionally, once you have mastered the sincere gratitude of your wife, you must also be 100% open and honest with your desires for the private, naughty, and steamy stuff you want.

Here’s another analogy from a completely different industry:

1. You go to a bank and make a deposit of $1,000. The next day you want to withdraw $50,000. The banker laughs at your lack of simple math skills. Game over.

2. You deposit $1,000 per day for 30 days. You earn interest on your money. You visit that bank every day. They know your name. You bring them a small gift every once in a while. You listen to the teller’s story. At the end of the month you make a simple withdraw of $$2,000. You do this consistently and with sincerity for over a year. You’ve accumulated over $340,000 plus interest and the tellers think you are the greatest. You then ask the cutest teller to give you a blow job in the walk-in safe.

No…wait a minute, that last metaphor was meant for your wife!

You see, most men think that a bouquet of flowers or doing the dishes once in a while is “payment” for a romp in the hay. While that may work short term, imagine what kind of leverage and influence you would have if you REALLY were prince charming?

By making consistent deposits in your wife’s emotional bank account (Details in my book) you are able to create tremendous withdraws for taking her to strip clubs, buying her a nurse’s outfit, and slowly and carefully opening up her naughty side for your mutual pleasure. Like any worthwhile investment, it takes time, patience and some open manipulation.

Your wife CAN be a bad girl…and that’s good!


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Hot Wife Culture


What is the culture of a Hot wife?

For many men and women it means a forbidden lifestyle of a married couple allowing and encouraging a wife to take on additional sex partners. For many men (I mean a great many) this is a common fantasy.

For most couples, however, the emotional stress and jealousy is too great for a relationship to survive, let alone thrive. Don’t despair if you have the fetish, but not the open relationship with the wife. There are plenty of role play and fantasy games you can enjoy together to simulate the hot wife experience without the emotional baggage of a third player in the bedroom. In fact, the more you understand and manipulate the emotional and psychological triggers of sexuality, the easier it will be to heighten the stimulation of a cuckold relationship without the baggage or frustrations associated with the introduction of a third party.

For those of you who have the confidence and communication of a full-fledged cuckold situation, congratulations. This article is for the rest of us…those who would love the excitement and passion of seeing our wives with a bull, but lack the compatibility for the agreed upon affair.

Exploring the culture in detail, many forums show the man being dominated by his wife. The dominatrix fantasy is a logical extension of the culture. There is nothing embarrassing about this. However, there are more men who simply enjoy the pornographic experience of seeing their wife with another man, who are not into being dominated by their mistress. For most men with this fantasy, it is simply an extension of pornography. Only this time, their wife is in the movie! (Or live show as it were) Every person, no matter who they are, has specific fantasies and scenarios that create sexual stimulation. Some are common, some are not. Some fantasies are called fetishes and can make the average person raise an eyebrow or shake their head in disgust. However, EVERY person has thought about creative sexual techniques or stimulation.

Be grateful if you and/or your partner can discuss it openly and honestly. You are a rare breed.

If you would like to join our group of free-spirited, honest lovers, and your partner is a bit shy, don’t lose hope. There are specific strategies you can use to travel down this path. How far will your fantasies go? Will you be able to turn them into reality? That will ultimately be up to how well you manipulate the conversations, actions and relationship.

Ultimately, the biggest challenge will be how well you manipulate your own mind.

For the majority of couples, however, jealousy, STD’s and emotional challenges prevent most men and women from living out this fantasy. Here are a few ideas to re-create the culture, mood, and excitement of your own, personal and sexually-charged cuckold relationship.

  1. Set the mood for an affair. Creating the right atmosphere is critical in any sexual situation. Candles, music, and atmosphere do more to turn us on then words which are temporary. With the right mood, a couple can become aroused and stay aroused longer. Find out what scents turn your partner on and use them sparingly. If your fantasy takes place in a crowded bar or seedy hotel, go there. Nothing sets the mood and re-creates the fantasy better than a well dressed set. Like James Cameron did for the filming of the Titanic, build the perfect set for your affair. You don’t have to be an Oscar-nominated actor to get in the spirit of things!
  2. Create the PERFECT partner. The fantasy of another man with your wife can be both her fantasy and yours. Chances are one of you may be embarrassed to admit being attracted to another type of person. It’s OK. Nobody can be everything to anyone. So you married a blonde…of course you want an affair with a brunette. Variety is the spice of life! My wife is crazy for accents so find out what country or accent turns your wife on and practices it. The better job you do of recreating her “mystery” lover, the more realistic your fantasy will seem to the both of you.
  3. Be courageous. You are probably experimenting with some new stuff here. Of course you are going to make some mistakes, say the wrong thing or embarrass yourself. Get over it! Practice makes perfect. You are already married and have had embarrassing moments before. Just make them all in private in case one of your fantasies is sex in public places. You’ll want to get that right the first time, just in case it is your last!
  4. Be forgiving of yourself and each other. I am assuming that the hot wife culture appeals to only one of you. (If it appeals to both of you, be safe and smart about your emotions and health) Since this topic is rife with jealousy, be sure to discuss it outside of the bedroom when the time is right. My wife and I had to see a few movies and have some calm discussions about sexuality before she was comfortable bringing our “fantasy man” into the bedroom. In her mind, if the roles were reversed (And they were sometimes!) she wanted to be the #1 girl. I understood completely and always talked up our bi-sexual fantasy girl as the warm up person. Sure, she would play with both of us during intercourse, but I always dismissed her after a while and focused on my wife. The same is true for her fantasy man.  Be respectful and forgiving of your partner during this time of discovery.

In conclusion, don’t be embarrassed about the hot wife culture. It is a very common fantasy and one that can be explored safely with the two of you. In fact, there are many advantages to keeping this fantasy a fantasy! With an imaginary playmate there is no uncomfortable moments of Q and A. There is no jealousy. The fantasy person can instantly teleport into and out of our bedroom whenever we want and neither of us can catch an STD!


If you and your wife are both prepared to take it out of the world of fantasy and into the real world, have plenty of discussions and go ahead and role play it out a few times before you do it for real. Like test pilots flying simulators, you’ll cover some of the issues, but not all of them! For more ideas, strategies and tactics for creating a smokin’ hot wife, visit http://www.makeyourwifehot.com today!

Cuckold: Are you demented?


Of all the fantasies that divide people cuckolding could be one of the most confusing. For the uninitiated, cuckolding is a husband’s desire to have his wife have sex with another man. It is most often when the husband is watching but can extend out to him not even being there.

When I think about this fantasy from a psychological view, I find it fascinating. On one hand, the stories I have read show a man who enjoys being dominated by a strong woman; a woman so powerful that he alone cannot satisfy her. This type of man may also embrace dominatrix fetishes and become stimulated by being dominated; sexually and otherwise.


On the other hand, some men who are NOT into the dominatrix stuff still enjoy seeing their wife having sex with another man. Their confidence and comfort with this activity is the exact opposite of the weaker man syndrome. A man who enjoys watching his wife having sex with another man is akin to watching pornography, only your WIFE is in the show!

Now, pornography is a visual stimulus many individuals and couples use to assist in arousal where average arousal has either tapered off or isn’t working at all. The logical extension of 2 dimensional stimulation is 3 dimensional. Going to gentleman’s clubs, getting a lap dance (for 2!) and considering cuckolding or group sex can raise the bar, your blood pressure, and sensual arousal to extreme heights.

This type of activity, however, is never for the couple who have any confidence or jealousy issues. Too many couples have tried to use extreme arousal techniques to rekindle a relationship when the REAL issue was communication and not sex.

That is one of the key drivers for our HUGELY successful workshop in Las Vegas, Nevada this past November. Our 1/2 day workshop in 2010 will focus on creating open, honest and complete communication with an emphasis on the sexual expression of your love and lust. It will be a enlightening afternoon and evening. Men, women are couples are all invited and I encourage you to email me about what weekend would work for you. If it is anything like our last one, you’ll go home charged up, enlightened and maybe a little sore!

In the meantime, visit http://www.makeyourwifehot.com and read how to create the hot wife of your dreams.