How To Be More Attractive to Women


what women want

In a previous post, I promised to share with you 7 subtle things you can do to increase your charisma, enjoy a more robust sex life and transform that little woman from a busy, frumpy soccer mom into a red-hot love machine. Remember; don’t try to be someone you are not! Woman can spot a fake in 4 seconds. Be the best YOU possible. If you are a “Bad Boy” then use that energy to become less of a jerk and more responsible. Don’t lose your edge, of course. I am sure it works for you. If you are Jimmy Stewart re-incarnated, then use those boyish good looks and laid back attitude to your benefit. Don’t get so lost in your coolness that you get trampled on.

Regardless of which side of the coin you are on, borrowing a few qualities from the other makes sense, as long as you don’t go overboard. Be true to your nature at all times. THAT is what creates authenticity and charisma that can turn your woman (or any woman) from a prospect into a magnetized hottie! Here are 7 ideas:

1. Books about Wisdom: Intelligence

Who you are is determined largely by the people you associate with and the books you read. Chicks dig a smart guy. Dump your comic books in the trash and hide the “How to Seduce a Cougar” book for later reference. Books about history, biographies of famous figures and spirituality are all winners. When she comes over and sees you actually read, you’ll be ahead of the pack. Reading to make a difference in your life and the lives of others will make her tingle with delight. It will make you look more attractive because you’ll be more attractive!

2. Passion for Your Career: Confidence

General Norma Schwartskopf brilliantly stated, “When in command, take charge.” It didn’t matter that the guy was 40 pounds overweight. His charisma and confidence easily translated into sex appeal. So you’re a mail clerk at a no-name company, so what? Your job is either a stepping stone to something else or you are doing your life’s work. Be proud! The more confidence you display in your career, the more attractive you are to women. It used to be the best hunters who had the hottest cavewomen, so you better show her how important you are at communication distribution (Your real title in the mail room) and how the whole enterprise would collapse without you. This is a biggie. Your confidence is the foundation of being an alpha male. Weak men with a tendency to indecisiveness are not attractive.

3. Volunteering: Activist

Put down the xBox and DO something with your spare time! You’ve got 24 hours in a day, buster. I know you want to spend at least 2 of those hours in the sack with Sylvia, so if you want your fair-haired maiden to be totally into you, be sure to invest a few hours per month at the soup kitchen or begging for quarters at the intersection for cerebral palsy. Pick a volunteer organization that actually means something to you or relates to a friend of family member. Who knows, you may actually feel better about yourself in the process and score points with the boss or your mom. All kinds of collateral benefits pop up when you do the right thing, including being more attractive to women!

4. Gray Hair: Experience

Sales of color treatment for men’s hair are down. We can all thank George Clooney for that! A touch of gray (Especially at the temples) usually drives women wild. Even a full head of gray hair can signify experience, sex appeal and confidence. If you need further proof that silver is the new black, a survey by found that a whopping 72% of women think gray hair is hot.  Just lose the white beard and gut; otherwise she’ll think you have a part-time job at Macy’s during Christmas.

5. Cat or Dog: Father figure

Nothing attracts strangers to each other faster than walking a baby or puppy. The innocence and 100% openness to strangers is a sure conversation starter and ice breaker. Babies grow into full blow teenagers pretty quickly, so opting for the puppy is a lot less work and less responsibility. I had a dog named Max years ago. My friends called him the “Chick Magnet” because I could guarantee a casual stroll down the boulevard with him would garner no less than 3 new conversations with women. Now, if only he could sniff out the cute, single, horny women…

6. Scar: Risk Taker

Scars provide men with a rugged manliness and mystery, which is always sexy. Women want a man who is strong so she can depend on him to protect her and the family. Research backs up why scars are a hit with women. According to science news website, Science Daily, scientists have found that women may associate scars with health and bravery. Scars not only show you’re a courageous guy who’ll take on his opponents, but you’re tough enough to outlive them. Be sure not to lie, but embellish if your scar was the result of a drunken fall off the back porch. “As I reached out to save the baby, I managed to pull her back from the ledge, but went over it myself. Thankfully, the 3 shots of Jack Daniels I had numbed the pain.” Just don’t be a dork and get a scar on purpose. Being more attractive to women includes being honest. They ALL hate liars.

7. T-shirt & Blazer: Style-savvy

Your favorite sports team t-shirt is very comfortable I am sure. But the pit stains and holes are a definite no-no with her. When you go out, at least try to look like you actually care about your wardrobe. After all, she does! Get an occasional copy of GQ, Men’s Health or other magazine that will give you a clue about what to wear. Be sure to make it age appropriate. Those Ed Hardy shirts just don’t compliment your 401K like the Florsheims did. If you are completely clueless and know it, ask your woman to take you shopping. You’ll get the double dip effect of letting her dress you, getting you looking snappy and giving her the endorphin rush of shopping, all on your dime.

The laws of attraction are sometimes simple and often out of order. What women want is a man that is a leader, provider and supportive partner. Women like sensitive, caring men, of course. But being sensitive in lieu of being masculine won’t get you the hot girl or get back the hot wife you once had. Being balanced isn’t that tough, guys. Become an alpha male with a conscious.

The way you look more attractive to women is through confidence, style and look them in the eye. Of course there is more! For more ideas on understanding what women want and getting more sex in your life, visit today.

Below is a charming video showcasing Mel’s charisma…

Midlife Crisis? 8 Reasons to Listen to Your Inner Penis


Governor Sanford, Mel Gibson, and 38 million men in their midlife can’t all be wrong! Midlife crisis (Or midlife transformation if you are a Buddhist or Zen expert) is a temporary situation. Your life isn’t over, but by the time your crisis is, you’ll be three years closer to the grave. Maybe you’ve had thoughts of taking up oil painting or taking up adrenaline-based activities like bungee jumping or  hiring hookers in Panama.

Not sure if you are in a midlife crisis? Have you had thoughts such as:

•You are seriously thinking about “hiring a pro” next time you are in Vegas.
•You recently looked in the mirror and saw your dad.
•Your wife is not appealing to you anymore (and Stacey in accounting definitely is!)
•Your sex drive is waning or you just can’t go as long as you did a few years ago.
•Your wife and you have drifted apart and don’t share the same enthusiasm for life.
•You flirt more than before and/or you have looked at more porn than usual.
•Your midsection is flabby no matter how much you diet or exercise
•You think more about the past than the future.

Hello, chump…you are in a midlife crisis!

A midlife crisis cannot be treated like any problem or challenge previously experienced. There is no article, book, or therapy session that will fix it all today. Going to a fantasy ball camp or going across the country on Harley’s with your friends won’t fix it all by itself either. The journey one must go through is just that-a journey. In order to come out of this phase BETTER, STRONGER and HAPPIER one will need to reflect, grow, and map out their personal journey. Here are 8 tips to help you cry, rejoice or stay miserable:

1. Stop reading stories about success! When a guy in MLC (midlife crisis) reads about some 11 year old learning to fly or some 28 year old billionaire, not only is it an EXTREME exception, it makes us normal guys physically sick. Read about Colonel Sanders or Ray Kroc. These guys didn’t hit their business stride until their MLC was over, and their pecker was gathering dust.

2. Share ALL your perverted thoughts with your spouse. Don’t hold back. Who cares that you “thought” about a three-some when you were in Vegas! Studies have shown that 82% of guys fantasize about it, 17% pull it off, and only 1% talk to their spouses about ANYTHING! Be a contrarian and let her know. That way she won’t be surprised if you leave her for a Peruvian cage dancer. Who knows, she may be one of the 12% of women who will entertain the idea of a three-some! If you want to try to beat these odds, go ahead and read “How to Convince your Wife to Bring Home a Girlfriend” on my blog.

3. Take some time every day to reflect, think, and beat off. Listen, your life may be at a crossroad and you may decide to keep sucking up to your boss and stay with your frumpy wife. Hell, you may even elect not to get a hooker, stay faithful and suck it up, so at least take some amount of time for yourself and be happy for 8-10 minutes!

4. Definitely exercise more. Your MLC isn’t because the world is moving faster than your Nike’s, it is because you have one Florsheim in the grave already. Don’t worry, dude, everybody returns to their youth, and just because you may be wearing diapers in a few years doesn’t mean you can’t have a sexy nurse feed you your oatmeal or leave a good looking corpse. The more you convert your frustration and anxiety into meaningful exercise, the better you will feel. Plus, if you decide to get a divorce your chances of landing a nubile 29 year old with father issues instead of your mom’s friends increases ten-fold.

5. Don’t hire an escort. It is simple psychology, really. You are getting old and your body craves young, fertile females to breed with. If you are married, you run a few risks (Duh!). I shouldn’t have to remind you, but since your brain has relocated 4 inches below your belt, you need a reminder. Your 15 minutes of pleasure will be a temporary escape from the reality of your age. You didn’t REALLY impress her, Chuck. You aren’t REALLY going to marry Julia Roberts like in Pretty Woman. (Unless you look like Richard Gere and have a few million of disposable cash)

6. Cry every once in a while in front of your wife. Go ahead, let go and let it out. When the guys get together, we won’t share THAT information! But when you let your guard down in front of her, she’ll see your vulnerability, get in touch with your sensitive side, and probably give you a hummer. In any case, you’ll win points for sharing and you deserve some kind of reward for that!

7. Find a person or venue to vent…really vent. Of all the things that will make you feel better temporarily (including physical exercise, basket weaving, or blowing stuff up) the ability to talk it out, scream, or just get the crap out of your head is very important. Many of us tend to ponder the same garbage over and over again in our brains. Dumping those thoughts either on paper, to a therapist, or a non-judgemental friend is important. (NOTE: Be sure not to dump TOO much on your buddy, otherwise you may bore him to death as he pretends to care about your garbage. Or worse, he may open up and share how HIS life is even more miserable than yours!)

8. Read a few articles on midlife transformation (Eastern philosophy). The word midlife crisis is used as a Western reference point only. It isn’t really a crisis in the grand scheme of things, after all. You haven’t lost your kids and brothers in a Nazi concentration camp, chump. It’s just that our society has paved the way for you to have SO MUCH free time, that you can actually do something with your life, if you want to. Our great grandfathers were too busy working 90 hours per week to notice they were going to croak at 48. Your situation gives you the GIFT of a second life. Don’t cry too much about it. You really can take up skeet shooting as a career as long as you’ve socked away a few bucks for the trailer home in Okeechobee.

-Doug Steponin