Yeah…I know. You want to make sure you are reading this WITHOUT your partner noticing. You love him/her, but those extra pounds sometimes get in the way. My first bit of advice is to definitely take 2 specific action steps to improve your quality of life:
1. Eat less sugars and carbohydrates. A low-glycemic diet of 6 small meals per day (As opposed to 3 larger meals per day) is a sure way to drop pounds without being hungry. For more details, drop me a line at doug@makeyourwifehotcom. I lost 20 pounds PERMANENTLY a while ago and those last 20 are always the hardest.
2. Exercise more. Your time is precious and if you can’t make it to the gym everyday, at least enroll in some dance lessons, or start walking more. If you can’t walk to work, try taking a walk with your spouse every day. You’ll increase your connection and you’ll shed a few pounds. Moreover, your energy levels will rise and this can help in every area of your life…including your sex life!
Of course, while you are working on becoming the fit, trim Adonis you were born to be, let’s not WAIT to have great sex while you are shedding those extra pounds. Setting a good example for the Mrs. has a leveraged affect on your life. You’ll feel better, look better, probably make more money and be an encouraging healthy guy for her.
That doesn’t mean that you have to give up sex, of course, on your journey to new found health. Nearly anyone with any amount of extra baggage can have fun, euphoric sex regardless of their weight, extra padding or baby fat. Men and women alike can enjoy each other despite any “barriers” to entry.
If your gal has a few extra pounds, your mind probably falls into one of 3 distinct spheres of thought.
1. You enjoy the extra padding and don’t mind it at all. Her large breasts turn you on and you have no complaints. You like her JUST the way she is, thank you.
2. You don’t really like grabbing that enlarged rear end. You love her, but would be more “into it” if she was thinner. It’s not a deal killer and if you could simply increase HER comfort with her body and get a little crazy, you’d be OK with the extra padding.
3. The extra weight has affected your libido. Her attractiveness to you is definitely waning and you are fearful of being unfaithful. You want to have more and better sex, but your partner simply hasn’t taken care of herself and it bothers you.
Psychologically, those three profiles are what most people have to deal with. For those of you in category #1, you have it easy. You can go right to the classic positions indicated in this article and have a GREAT time. If you are in category #2 or #3, you need a two pronged approach to your situation.
You need to read my chapter in Make Your Wife Hot on the stealth, psychological techniques to get your gal to lose her “post-baby” flab. It doesn’t matter if those extra pounds are YEARS past childbirth. You are assured that the strategies and tactics for getting her to slim down work 100% of the time. There are tremendous psychological and physical forces in play here and you can easily say or do the wrong thing without knowing it. I STRONGLY encourage you to get the book, read and re-read that chapter on creating the physical trophy wife you want. My wife had packed on an extra 40+ pounds for nearly 7 years and it almost nearly killed an otherwise healthy sex life. Getting HER to be excited about being fit, trim and sexy again took nearly 7 months, but she has kept the weight off for over 3 years and looks hotter than ever. YUM!
Establishing sex positions for maximum pleasure with an overweight lover is easier than you think. The Kama Sutra, with over 60 positions will give you some great ideas. Here are the top ones that can create maximum penetration, regardless of the size of a person’s belly, rear or thighs.
Girl on Top
Having your gal on top of may be somewhat difficult considering her stomach may be in the way. However, there is still non-gymnastic gyration around this obstacle. Get on your own back, bend your knees and put a pillow or two under your own rear. Have her get on top of you and lean back on your knees. By placing her weight on her hands and using her feet to get the rhythm started you two can dance horizontally with full penetration. Allow her to turn around and reverse cowgirl this move should also work wonders at keeping the extra padding out of the way and relieving stress from your muscles and joints.
Ask you lady to relax on her side in a fetal-like position (on her side with knees bent). Careful placement of a pillow or two to increase your angle almost always helps. Place a few of them under her hip and before you get into it. Your position should have you kneeling as you would be doing it doggy style. If you can lift one of her legs and place it on your shoulder, you get extra points for effort depending on how limber she is. But the penetration you’ll get is worth a few stretching exercises!
With your woman on her back, raise her legs up and toss them over your shoulders in the missionary position. Again, you can use the pillows, or you can simply elevate her until her butt is barely touching the bed. This may take some bench press work on your part prior to doing a good job, but believe me, a heavy woman has the same internal structure as a thin one. Take good care of her and she will do the same for YOU!
For more ideas on creating a sexually charged relationship, visit www.makeyourwifehot.com today. Our book and system to create a trophy wife begins with YOU, buster! Treating her like a princess is the first start. Your consistent efforts there and by utilizing the stealth psychological tactics in our workbook, you’ll have a relationship that will be the envy of your peers. Make YOUR wife hot today!