What Makes Sex a Scandal: Learning from Letterman
What is it about consenting adults relishing each others bodies that causes heads of state to stammer and talk show hosts confess to millions on air?
What is all the hoopla about, anyway?
The purpose of sex is to reproduce the species. Why our creator made it SO damn enjoyable is what has us all in a tizzy. You see, if we were like starfish or insects, we would be simply reproducing for the benefits of propagating the species.
Fortunately or unfortunately, our species LOVES sex. It is the brunt of more jokes, the intrigue of more movies, and dominates over 40% of all Internet sites. Obviously there is more to it than reproduction!
Somewhere along the way, sex became more than just reproduction. It became a symbol of marriage and fidelity to our partners. It became the physical manifestation of something intangible and mysterious-love.
For the perfect couple, the act of sex is the intertwining, not just of their legs, but their souls. The term “soul mate” is used often for two people who, regardless of sex, are connected eternally. This connection is celebrated in sex, but if the sex ever dies off, true soul mates stay together.
For less than perfect couples, the pursuit of sex (or the hunt) is a driving force of seeking pleasure. This driving need to have sex is what has allowed our species to proliferate the planet so successfully. What muddles our heads, hearts and news opinions is the societal opinion of what, where and who you have sex with.
Simply put, if you are married, you are supposed to have sex only with your spouse. There are biological, anthropological and social reasons for this. One of my favorite articles on this subject is The Monogamy Puzzle. Take some time and read through this. It is a fascinating piece.
If you are an employer, you are not supposed to have sex with your employees. In that case, sex is a weapon that can be used for advancement or even discharge. In David Letterman’s case, he was NOT married but living with his girl prior to marriage. He admitted to having sex with more than one other person during his co-habitation with his girlfriend. Clearly, as an unmarried man, he is free to do what he wants-right?
Women who live with a man, in this society, assume that a monogamous relationship is in place. “Moving in together” by common definition constitutes a covenant resembling marriage without the legal ties. If someone elects to see other people, living together would be cumbersome at best!
David, like many powerful men, chose to wield his charm and power without the common code that most of us adhere to. I am not judging him, mind you. Over half of married couples are victims of affairs during their marriage. This does not excuse infidelity, but it does point to a common thread that as monogamous as we claim to be, our legacy and heritage show us that it has been and will continue to be a constant struggle between sexual urges and societal mores.
Creating a lasting, loving and sexually charged relationship that spans years or decades is a very tall order. While half of couples do remain together, less than 10% claim to participate in active, vigorous, mind-blowing sex on a regular basis. If you want to be in the minority and have a smokin’ hot wife and off-the-chart sex, click on http://www.makeyourwifehot.com today. You, your heart and your body will be glad you did.