I Know What Your Wife is Thinking

Doug

While this isn’t a classic “steamy exploit” blog entry, it is important to try to understand and properly maneuver your emotions and communication with your wife. The ability to speak her language is MORE than half the battle to get more sex, joy and fulfillment in your marriage. My book on this topic if chock full of strategies, ideas, and techniques to take control of your relationship, get more satisfying sex, and turn any housewife into a smokin’ hot MILF!

Let’s start with a basic understanding of the way most women think.

They don’t have grudges; just like a computer,  the pop-ups happen for days, months, or even years on any issue.

Men are visual: Women are verbal. Remember that Maxim has more photos and Cosmo has more stories.

Women don’t compartmentalize like men. If we have an argument right before going to work, a man can go to work and be effective. A woman has unresolved issues that do not leave her mind…sometimes for a very long time.

SOLUTIONS:
Guys the only way to “rewire” this computer, restart the clock and have a pleasant day is to do three things:

1. Rethink your assumptions about how she thinks. Don’t use YOUR framework for discussions, arguing, and communication to further the conversation. Your brain isn’t wired the same way. Really try to understand her process. Listen, listen, and then, listen some more. Don’t judge.

2. You may not be the issue, even if you are affected by the issue. So often we think WE are the cause of the rift. While that may be true, clarify first. Ask her if you did anything wrong and if so, get it out. Once a woman gets stuff off her chest, she usually feels better.

3. Be the hero. If an issue comes up from the past or if she can’t let something go, be a champ and let her know that its OK to hold those thoughts. Just as we can’t NOT think about a pink elephant when those words are read or spoken, her ability to “let an issue go” or “close that annoying pop-up” in her brain is impossible. After you listen and encourage more talking, take some action. Do the dishes, help the kids with their homework, or give her a foot rub. Any gesture to ease her suffering will make her feel better and give you the tools to gently rewire that brain and get on the path to joy and happiness.

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One Response to “I Know What Your Wife is Thinking”

  • Cindy Says:

    I liked your analogy regarding women and their way of thinking…[Just as we can?t NOT think about a pink elephant when those words are read or spoken, her ability to ?let an issue go? or ?close that annoying pop-up? in her brain is impossible.] This, much to our dismay is SO true. Could we change it – we surely would! But just as men judge how much they are loved by the amount of sex they get (one has nothing to do with the other in a woman’s mind) Women judge how much they are loved by words spoken (which has nothing to do with it in a man’s mind). Once something is said…it’s there…permanently, to be replayed over and over again in the mind in times of doubt. You seem to understand this. Good for you!

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