So you’ve had a long night. Maybe you’ve had a few drinks and that has made you extra horny. Your long day at the office was fulfilling, but your 2nd wind expired about an hour ago. You and your girl are walking in the door and you are both considering calling it a night…problem is, you are both a little turned on.
Tired and turned on…sounds like the making of a lackluster sexual encounter.
With the proper pace, rhythm and conservation of energy, you can both achieve a blissful orgasm without having to pound her for an hour or ask her to be on top because your back hurts. The following positions are uniquely suited to conserve energy for the both of you, while delivering satisfying sex and potential orgasms whenever you want them.
1. Cowgirl. When the trail boss is weary, it’s time for the cowgirl to pick up the pace and work it a bit. Have your girl sit on you as you lay back and just take it. For some variety, don’t forget to try the reverse cowgirl-you’ll get a nice view of her backside and depending on her angle, you’ll hit some new spots that’ll make her yell “Yee Ha!”
Explore how allowing her to be in control can not only conserve YOUR energy, but give her the exact stimulation she needs to pop her cherry. I highly recommend this popular book, by Dr. Sadie Alison. Something about sex books written by women…kinda kinky-right?
2. Pacing. Many men (and women) are aroused by vigorous sex. Anyone who has watched porno must think that vigorous, rapid-fire sex is the one and only method for the highly orgasmic couple. In fact, nerve-endings can be stimulated just as easily with a slow pace than with a rapid one. In fact, an excruciatingly slow entry can add anticipation and a false sense of length to lovemaking. Change up your pace, steady and slow can create heightened excitement and save your energy.
3. Wheelbarrow. When your woman is on the bed and you standing on the floor at the edge of the bed, pick up her legs and hold them like the handles of a wheelbarrow. By controlling her body and with your feet firmly planted on the ground you can easily penetrate her with minimal energy. This not only allows for a deeper penetration move on your part, but if you can toss her legs over your shoulders (adding a pillow under her behind helps) you can even keep your arms down, grab her thighs instead of her ankles and really ‘relax’ as you have sex. This is a terrific position to conserve energy, penetrate a bit deeper and control the pace.
There are over 60 positions outlined in the Kama Sutra and I will be referring to each and every one of them as the days go on. As this is a PG rated blog, you’ll have to request pictures for downloading. I won’t be posting full nudes here. I will have two FULL books full of drawings and photos for your reference and continue describing the benefits and techniques of artful lovemaking. Simply register for my FREE book on “The 4 Minute Rolling Orgasm” and you’ll get the cliff notes on the Kama Sutra at no cost! For the full book (recommended) click here. The benefits of using a variety of positions are not only adding some variety to your love life, but you will notice a massive increase in pleasure and arousal. I guarantee it!
Saving energy to last longer, positions for people who are overweight and best positions for your fetishes will be discussed. Your comments are always welcome and in the meantime, be sure to treat your woman like a princess! Marriages last because people continue to date after they are married.
Now go and surprise her with some flowers, a foot massage or an unusual sex position that will make her scream, cream and tingle with delight! If you need some more ideas, check out my book “Make Your Wife Hot” today. You’ll find a clear strategy to increase your wife’s sex appeal, influence her to lose weight (without getting in trouble), drive her libido up to YOUR level and change your marriage into a sexually-charged, intimate relationship you’ve always wanted.
You wouldn’t race a VW bug in the Indy 500 and you wouldn’t drive your Mercedes coupe to pick up wood chips, so why do you think that all of your sex positions are designed for the same feeling? You have a wonderful arsenal of different positions for the three of you (That’s for me, her and us!) Moods, energy levels and a variety of desires can make your sex average to downright earth-shattering if you are in sync with all of the forces in play.
In this series of articles, we will explore a variety of sexual positions, their strengths, weaknesses, when they are best introduced and more importantly I’d like YOUR FEEDBACK on how they work, the pace you took and the results you had when exploring them. Come on…it’s time to share the love!
1. Missionary Of all the positions, guy on top, girl on bottom, this is a standard and favorite for you, her and the couple (Y,H,C). Here’s why: When a man is on top, he can thrust the penis. This is simply the way we were built. It works pretty well and the power, control and penetration is very satisfying for the man. For many women, however, clitoral stimulation is not optimized. Her vaginal stimulation is decent, but the REAL feeling she receives is that of being slammed. When a woman is being dominated (Meant with all due respect, of course) her feminine side is revealed. Women WANT a strong and powerful man to desire them. This need of being with a powerful man means that her offspring have a better chance of being successful. Sorry to make it so anthropological, but at the core of feelings, that is where it comes from.
Your pace and variety will be important here. Men who watch too much porn believe that having sex like a rabbit is the only way to go. If you vary your pace, frequency and rhythm of movement you add some variety to the session and you actually stimulate different nerve endings in yourself and your partner. Go ahead and slam it home like your a jack hammer. Just don’t forget to try a few slow and steady moves to add a little variety.
In order to give her a powerful orgasm with the missionary position, you’ll have to add some clitoral stimulation (over 70% of women orgasm with clitoral stimulation). Here are some ways to do that during sex in the missionary position.
1. Put a pillow under her rear. Get her body to curve upwards. This will bring your penis closer to the roof of her vagina and give you an opportunity to stimulate her G spot. Moreover, you can use your hand or fingers to stimulate the clitoris and bring her to orgasm when she is ready.
2. Get her to assist you. During pre-orgasm, gently glide her hand over to her clitoris to bring her to climax. By making this a true team effort, you’ll both be happier and more satisfied. If she is embarrassed to touch herself in front of you, you may have to take this maneuver in steps.
3. Toy assist. There are cock rings and smaller vibrators than can fit nicely around her clitoral region during sex. Be sure to buy 2 or more of these at a time. Your chances of getting the perfect appliance that works for the two of you is rare. It unlikely that if she already has a toy, that it’ll work for the two of you. Most women who pack a vibrator friend use it while on their back WITHOUT you around. Introducing your body on top when her “friend” is working won’t be the same. With a new position, comes a new appliance. Variety is the SPICE of life!
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Ah…the elusive “G” spot. What is it? Where is it? What sex positions can we use to maximize stimulation of the “G” spot once we find it? How can I use it to give my wife an orgasm that shakes the world?
Read on and be sure to share this post with her! You definitely can’t accomplish this without some basic understanding the “G” spot, where is located and most importantly, how and WHEN to work it. As with learning anything new, you’re bound to make a few mistakes, but hey…these mistakes are guaranteed to be fun! So, let’s become a master at painting the canvas which is your wife’s beautiful body.
WHERE IS THE G SPOT? The g-spot is a bean-shaped, spongy mass of nerve tissue that resides under the frontal vaginal wall. In order to locate it, make sure she is wet, because you’ll have a harder time if you treat this as a lab experiment instead of an advanced erotic move. Position a pillow under her rear or simply allow her to lay on her back with her hips slightly lifted or propped up. Put a finger inside her vaginal wall towards the front of her body (belly-button side). Reach in as far as you can go, and bend your finger in a “come here” motion. Then slide your finger along the vaginal wall until you find a rough-textured area. The g-spot should feel ridged or nubbly compared to the rest of the vaginal canal and is generally found about 2 inches in, although it can lie pretty much anywhere along the front of the vaginal canal – even as far back as the cervix. It’s really more of an area then an actual “spot.”
Now that you know WHERE it is, what do you do with it? Well, that depends. Some women enjoy g-spot stimulation and some women don’t. Be aware that how much she enjoys it may also depend on where she is in her menstrual cycle. The sex positions we’ll cover here all allow for maximum penetration and depending on how your penis curves, should allow for some stimulation with your penis.
HOW DO I STIMULATE THE G SPOT?
If your penis naturally curves upward, you may have a slight advantage to hitting this area. If you don’t, then any position that maximizes contact with the front of her vaginal wall should work. Woman-on-top-facing-you works well, she can also slightly lean back to take advantage of more front-vaginal contact. The missionary position works well if you prop her hips up, or use a pillow. You can also get some traction if she’s laying on the edge of something and you’re standing on the floor. You may not even need to prop her hips up. By standing, you have more control over the angle as you penetrate her.
If your angle isn’t hitting this spot, keep trying a variety of positions to get the penis towards the top of the vaginal wall. A popular position is the one illustrated below.
If it’s not working for you, put a pillow or two under her rear to lift up her hips. Don’t give up. It takes some couples weeks of experimentation to find out what works for them. If the penile stimulation won’t rock her world, move right over to using your finger or fingers. To manually stimulate the g-spot, you will need to experiment with different pressures and motions. Talk about what works for her. Move your finger(s) in that “come hither” motion works well for most. Because the g-spot is located inside of the vaginal wall, you may need to exert a fair bit of pressure to stimulate it.
You can also try a “tapping” motion to stimulate the “G” spot. Tap the area with your fingers and try varying the speed and firmness of the tapping. Working the area in circles like she teases her hair is another method. Everyone is different so don’t be afraid to try a variety of motions. There is an excellent video on this topic available by clicking here.
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WHEN DO I WORK THE G SPOT?
After you’ve found it and been able to stimulate the “G” spot, it is important to use this powder keg of pleasure judiciously. You probably shouldn’t hit it at every chance you get. If you don’t create some anticipation every once in a while, you will be creating Christmas for her every day.
Not a good plan.
Just as you might get bored of a blow job every morning and sex twice a night, (well maybe it would take a while but eventually you WOULD get bored!) you don’t want to excite the “G” spot at every chance you get. Nor do you want to hit the spot each time you have sex.
As you are beginning your sexual encounter wait for the pre-orgasm cycle of sex before switching positions or changing your penis for your finger. (To understand more of the pre-orgasm cycle, register for your FREE book, “The 4 Minute Orgasm” by filling our your email on the upper right) When she is a minute or two from an orgasm; that is the perfect time to stimulate her “G” spot and send her over the edge. Her orgasm will most likely be uncontrollable and you more likely to get her into a rolling, multiple orgasm rhythm for a while by saving the “G” spot stimulation for the pre-orgasm cycle.
The key is to be patient, creative and open to exploration of your wife’s body. Together you can create “off the chart” sex for the rest of your lives. Start today by reading up on how to understand your woman, and you’ll start to enjoy all the sex and adoration you desire within days! Click on the book below…
In the Kama Sutra there are sex positions which are named after Nature: flowers, birds and animals. Some names of the sex positions sound very nice and exotic, some do not. We’ve all heard of Doggy-style. What about a Peacock-style? Or a Swan-style? The very words denote love, beauty and artistic flair.
Time to learn about the birds and the bees….Kama Sutra style!
According to the size of a man’s penis (the lingam), man is divided into three main types: the hare man, the bull man and the horse man. According to the depth of a woman’s vagina (the yoni), a woman can be a female deer, a mare or a female elephant. Thus, there are three equal unions between lovers of corresponding dimensions, and six unequal unions, when the dimensions. Equal unions: hare-deer; bull-mare; horse-elephant. Unequal unions: hare-mare; hare-elephant; bull-deer; bull-elephant; horse-deer; horse-mare. Unequal doesn’t mean they don’t work, it just means more creativity and modification to your position may be necessary to achieve stimulation. Many men are self-conscious if their lingam is below average in length or girth.
Take a few lessons from the Kama Sutra and you’ll realize than even if you have a teeny-weenie, you can create passionate, fulfilling lovemaking with your woman regardless of size.
Of course, we are all looking for stimulating sex, and Kama Sutra positions are surefire way to create the connection you want!. Below you’ll find 17 Kama Sutra sexual poses as translated by Indra Sinha. I do not provide pictures here on this blog, but they will be available to my online members in the very near future. If you want to spice things up in the meantime, click here.
Markata – The Monkey. Lying down position. The woman grasps her ankles and raises high her lotus feet; you strike her to the root, kissing and slapping open-palmed between her breasts: this is Markata (The Monkey) Making monkey noises is optional and only advised after you’ve mastered her coconuts.
Vyomapada – Sky-foot. Lying down position. Your wife lies on the bed, grasps her own feet and draws them up until they reach her hair; you catch her breasts and make love: this is Vyomapada (Sky-foot) This position is especially helpful for extra deep penetration and is strongly recommended for men with less than average sized penis. You probably don’t want to be too proud of your knowledge of this position, but even a man less than 5” can feel like a stud with this!
Kaurma – The Tortoise. The sitting position. Seated, mouth to mouth, arms against arms, thighs against thighs: this is Kaurma (The Tortoise) This position sounds soothing and it is, because it is difficult to realize any serious motion, penetration or movement. I guess that’s why they call it the tortoise!
Mayura – the Peacock. The sitting pose. Seated, the lady raises one foot to point vertically over her head and steadies it with her hands, offering up her yoni for lovemaking: this is Mayura (The Peacock) This is a really great position for creating some special movements in a woman’s vagina. As she raises and lowers those peacock feathers (Her leg) her movements can carry a man’s penis inside her with little effort.
Padma – the Lotus. The sitting position. If, sitting facing her, you grasp her ankles and fasten them like a chain behind your neck, and she grips her toes as you make love, it is the delightful Padma (The Lotus) This is another deep penetration position. While it may lack the thrusting power of the Sky-foot, it is sensual and easier on a less than limber woman than the Sky-foot.
Kirtibandha – the Knot of Fame. The sitting pose. Sitting erect, grip your lover’s waist and pull her on to you, your loins continuously leaping together with a sound like the flapping of elephants’ ears: this is Kirtibandha (The Knot of Fame) Don’t dismiss the sounds of the flapping elephants ears. That smacking sound can be quite stimulating and adds to the excitement. Remember physical+visual+aroma+audio stimulation is the key to a complete experience.
Jaya – Victory. The sitting pose. Kneeling between her thighs, tickle her breasts and under her arms and print deep nailmarks around her nipples: thus Jaya (Victory) is expounded. Of course, making marks is only for women with high pain thresholds. Hey, if she’s given you children, of course she has a higher pain threshold than you. Just be prepared to get some of her nails in your back later!
Dhenuka – The Milch Cow. The rear entry position. She bends well forward and grips the bottom of the bed or her ankles, her buttocks raised high; cup your hands and squeeze her breasts together: this is Dhenuka (The Milch Cow) Like the monkey, be respectful. There should be no fake “milking” of the cow until after she is in post-orgasm stage. Last time I made a joke during sex, we both lost it!
Svanaka – The Dog. The rear entry position. If you mount her like a dog, gripping her waist, and she twists round to gaze into your face, experts in the art of love say it is Svanaka (The Dog) Most men enjoy doggy-style for the pure freedom of entry, penetration and handles. Be sure to ask your wife to turn around occasionally during your thrusts. Pulling her hair is only for advanced lovers.
Hirana – The Deer. The rear entry position. If the lady, eager for love, goes on all fours, humping her back like a doe, and you enjoy her from behind, rutting as though you’d lost all human nature, it is Hirana (The Deer). Since deer don’t make much noise, one can get confused by calling this a variation of the doggy-style. Don’t confuse these styles, and leave the antlers on the wall. They are too sharp to play with safely.
Marjara – The Cat. The rear entry position. If she lies on her stomach and you seize her ankles in one hand, lift them high and make love, tilting her chin back with your other hand, it is Marjara (The Cat) Putting a pillow under her rear can also add to the penetration with this feline frolic. Purring on her part is required, but you have to be good smooth and gentle enough to let it come naturally from her loins.
Aibha – The Elephant. The rear entry position. When your mistress lays breasts, arms and forehead to the carpet, raising her buttocks high, and you guide your penis into her yoni, it is Aibha (The Elephant) For advanced lovers, try tying your elephant down and dominating her. Bondage need not be threatening or painful. The restraints can mimick dominance with empathy. Be gentle (unless she likes it rough).
Hastika – The Elephant. One more rear entry position. You lift her ankles high; she draws up and extends her legs as though she were crawling through the air: this is Hastika (The Elephant). This can also be a deep penetration position. Well endowed men need not apply. For average guys in the 6” range, however, she may feel as though you’ve grown an inch! Now trumpet like an elephant, you stud!
Nagabandha – The Elephant. And one more rear entry position. Lying on her side, facing away, your woman offers you her buttocks and your penis penetrates her: this is Nagabandha (The Elephant) With a side position, she can watch more of the action. Too much doggy style means either you are too rough, too often or you don’t like your woman’s face that much.
Hansabandha – The Swan. Role reversal position. She sits upright upon you, her head thrown back like a rearing mare, bringing her feet together on the bed to one side of your body: this is Hansabandha (The Swan) Before there was cowgirl, there was the swan. I think swan sounds prettier, but reverse cowgirl sounds better than reverse swan. Advantage of the swan is the view of your woman’s bouncing breasts as you make love-yum.
Hansa-lila – Swan Sport. Role reversal position. If she strides you, facing your feet, brings both her feet up to your thighs, and works her hips frantically, it is known as Hansa-lila (Swan Sport) Swan sport sounds more athletic than reverse swan and if your woman has a nice butt, this is a great visual to enjoy during lovemaking.
Virsha – The Bull. Role reversal position. If you lie flat on your back with legs stretched out and your lover sits astride you, facing away and grasping your feet, it is called Virsha (The Bull) Reverse cowgirl sounds an awful lot like The Bull. Bonus points if she wears cowboy boots and a sexy cowboy hat like Debra Wringer did in Urban Cowboy.
Enjoy the variety of life, ladies and gentlemen. You need not need a variety of lovers to be fulfilled. Your creativity and playfulness can create the erotic stimulation and raw excitement you crave. For more ideas on making your wife hot, visit http://www.makeyourwifehot.com today!