Make Your Wife Hot

"Put down that mouse and touch my kitty."

Most people consider the idea of sex to be a manifestation of the intangible feelings of love. The angels sing, the fireworks begin and feelings of euphoria abound. Sex and love are inexorably intertwined. There are more songs and books written about love than any other topic. However, the topic of sex being used for medicinal purposes is summarily avoided.

Not anymore.

For the past 3 months I have been diligently been writing a full length book. Ask anyone who has written one; it takes the patience of Job, the stamina of an Olympic athlete and the creativity of Walt Disney to complete a book. In short…it’s tough!

What makes it even more difficult is the amount of time writing, re-writing, adding and editing. There are dozens of ways to say one thing. Which way is best? What does this have to do with sex, love and marriage.

Everything.

The stress of making a living, tackling a big project or striving towards a lofty goal can take its toll on anyone. The bigger the goal or project, the more stress an individual may feel. While sex is designed to make babies and express love, medically it can be a tremendous reliever of stress! Don’t believe me? Here is a quote from Columbia University’s Center for Health:

“Endorphins are a group of substances formed within the body that naturally relieve pain. They have a similar chemical structure to morphine. In addition to their analgesic, or pain-relieving, effect, endorphins are thought to be involved in controlling the body’s response to stress, regulating contractions of the intestinal wall, and determining mood. They may also regulate the release of hormones from the pituitary gland, notably growth hormone and the gonadotropin hormones.

Some researchers have learned that strenuous exercise releases endorphins into the blood stream. Others have found that endorphins are released during orgasm, as well as during laughter. Endorphin release may occur with frequent sex and masturbation.”

The bottom line is that sex (I will leave masturbation out of the conversation for now) is a DEFINITE stress reliever. Massages are nice. Exercising is important, but nothing beats the endorphin rush of a great orgasm. Hell, even a mediocre orgasm will take the edge off an otherwise stressful day.

Last week as I was putting in a long 14 hour day, my wife came in with that “look” in her eye and closed and locked my door. As it turns out, we BOTH needed to take the edge off. She didn’t talk about foreplay. She didn’t ask me a single question about “how its going?” or other irrelevant conversation. She looked at me and without saying a word, stripped off my clothes and went down on me.

It didn’t matter that she would be late for an appointment. It didn’t concern me that the kids were in the next room. When I hiked her dress up and pushed her on the couch in my office, her climax was almost instant. By the time we moved to my desk for her 2nd round, she nearly slid off the glass top.

The next time your spouse shows signs of stress, tell them the doctor has a prescription for them…then lock the door and turn off the lights.

"Stop touching yourself. Get your wife to do it."

The mystery of the orgasm never ceases to be a topic of interest. Even if you are clinical enough to research the definition, explanation or chemical function of the orgasm, you will probably come back to how it applies to you (pun intended). Of course, muscular contraction and increased blood flow are notable physiological clues to having an orgasm. The fluid released in both male and females is a physical reminder of the climax itself. But what about the untold facts? Are you curious about the speed of sperm? Do you wonder who has had the most documented number of multiple orgasms? Continue on, dear reader, and you can fill your head (another pun) with more useless facts that will make you the hit at your next cocktail party (pun #3).

• When a man orgasms, the volume of semen is approximately 10 cubic centimeters. During his lifetime, this equates to approximately 14 gallons. If you masturbate more than once per day (It’s OK. The economy was slow and you were out of work) this could increase to more than 20 gallons. Yum.

• You may know about the G spot (Click on my other posts on the details of stimulating this special patch of powerful nerve receptors). Did you realize that men also have a G spot? In fact, there are three areas in men that resemble the G spot in a woman. They are called frenulum, perineum and the prostate gland.  Careful ladies…most men need a stiff drink before you experiment in there!

• Ask a man when the appropriate time for an orgasm is and the most common answer is “now.” For women, many refuse or avoid sex during their period. Something about messy sheets resembling a murder scene gives them the creeps. Only the pre-med students know that the increased blood circulation around the groin actually increases orgasm pleasure. Get a towel and turn off the lights!

• According to the Kinsey report, the average speed of male ejaculate is 28 mph. While this is faster than Carl Lewis, it is still not as fast as a cheetah. The sperm of course, don’t travel that fast on their own. In a single hour they may only travel 4 to 5 inches. Of course 3 to 4 inches for those little guys equals is equivalent to an ironman competition for you or me. No wonder most of them die.

• Your last breath may not be your last action. If the sacral nerves in the spinal cord are oxygenated and stimulated, then there isn’t any reason why a dead person can’t climax. I am not sure if there is any benefit to this, because neither party would truly enjoy it, unless one of you are into necrophilia.

• A woman’s influence on the male orgasm is powerful. Research has shown that the more “vocal” women create orgasms in their male partners on a more consistent basis. On average male’s orgasm 59 percent of the time while their partner is screaming in ecstasy, and only 2 percent of the time while she’s lying on her back organizing her shopping list in her head.

• Many women are capable of multiple orgasms. The most female orgasms recorded by Dr. William Hartman and Dr. Marilyn Fithian. The world record was 134 orgasms in a single hour or more than 2 per minute. What makes this feat even more amazing is that she was alone, in a doctor’s office with these two scientists watching her every move. I guess there is a job for everything.

Creating an orgasm isn’t rocket science. Creating powerful, screaming, pounding multiple orgasms takes some patience and study. Be sure to register for our free book, The 4 minute rolling orgasm by registering on the right side of this page.

For more details on creating an ONGOING relationship with a wife who is hot, sexy, fun and full of energy, check out http://www.makeyourwifehot.com today. The book comes with a full step by step plan on how to create a smokin’ hot MILF for your wife and an intimate connection that will make you the envy of your peers. Women, don’t despair…the book requires him to become a prince charming FIRST, before he can expect any changes out of you!

In the end, everyone wins!!!

You wouldn’t race a VW bug in the Indy 500 and you wouldn’t drive your Mercedes coupe to pick up wood chips, so why do you think that all of your sex positions are designed for the same feeling? You have a wonderful arsenal of different positions for the three of you (That’s for me, her and us!) Moods, energy levels and a variety of desires can make your sex average to downright earth-shattering if you are in sync with all of the forces in play.

In this series of articles, we will explore a variety of sexual positions, their strengths, weaknesses, when they are best introduced and more importantly I’d like YOUR FEEDBACK on how they work, the pace you took and the results you had when exploring them. Come on…it’s time to share the love!

1. Missionary Of all the positions, guy on top, girl on bottom, this is a standard and favorite for you, her and the couple (Y,H,C). Here’s why: When a man is on top, he can thrust the penis. This is simply the way we were built. It works pretty well and the power, control and penetration is very satisfying for the man. For many women, however, clitoral stimulation is not optimized. Her vaginal stimulation is decent, but the REAL feeling she receives is that of being slammed. When a woman is being dominated (Meant with all due respect, of course) her feminine side is revealed. Women WANT a strong and powerful man to desire them. This need of being with a powerful man means that her offspring have a better chance of being successful. Sorry to make it so anthropological, but at the core of feelings, that is where it comes from.

Your pace and variety will be important here. Men who watch too much porn believe that having sex like a rabbit is the only way to go. If you vary your pace, frequency and rhythm of movement you add some variety to the session and you actually stimulate different nerve endings in yourself and your partner. Go ahead and slam it home like your a jack hammer. Just don’t forget to try a few slow and steady moves to add a little variety.

In order to give her a powerful orgasm with the missionary position, you’ll have to add some clitoral stimulation (over 70% of women orgasm with clitoral stimulation). Here are some ways to do that during sex in the missionary position.

1. Put a pillow under her rear. Get her body to curve upwards. This will bring your penis closer to the roof of her vagina and give you an opportunity to stimulate her G spot. Moreover, you can use your hand or fingers to stimulate the clitoris and bring her to orgasm when she is ready.

2. Get her to assist you. During pre-orgasm, gently glide her hand over to her clitoris to bring her to climax. By making this a true team effort, you’ll both be happier and more satisfied. If she is embarrassed to touch herself in front of you, you may have to take this maneuver in steps.

3. Toy assist. There are cock rings and smaller vibrators than can fit nicely around her clitoral region during sex. Be sure to buy 2 or more of these at a time. Your chances of getting the perfect appliance that works for the two of you is rare. It unlikely that if she already has a toy, that it’ll work for the two of you. Most women who pack a vibrator friend use it while on their back WITHOUT you around. Introducing your body on top when her “friend” is working won’t be the same. With a new position, comes a new appliance. Variety is the SPICE of life!

We’ll cover more positions from now until the holidays. Be sure to check in every day, leave your comments and pick up a copy of my FREE ebook, the 4 minute rolling orgasm by registering on the right side of my blog.

-Doug Steponin

Ah…the elusive “G” spot. What is it? Where is it? What sex positions can we use to maximize stimulation of the “G” spot once we find it? How can I use it to give my wife an orgasm that shakes the world?

Read on and be sure to share this post with her! You definitely can’t accomplish this without some basic understanding the “G” spot, where is located and most importantly, how and WHEN to work it.  As with learning anything new, you’re bound to make a few mistakes, but hey…these mistakes are guaranteed to be fun! So, let’s become a master at painting the canvas which is your wife’s beautiful body.

WHERE IS THE G SPOT?
The g-spot is a bean-shaped, spongy mass of nerve tissue that resides under the frontal vaginal wall. In order to locate it, make sure she is wet, because you’ll have a harder time if you treat this as a lab experiment instead of an advanced erotic move. Position a pillow under her rear or simply allow her to lay on her back with her hips slightly lifted or propped up. Put a finger inside her vaginal wall towards the front of her body (belly-button side). Reach in as far as you can go, and bend your finger in a “come here” motion. Then slide your finger along the vaginal wall until you find a rough-textured area. The g-spot should feel ridged or nubbly compared to the rest of the vaginal canal and is generally found about 2 inches in, although it can lie pretty much anywhere along the front of the vaginal canal – even as far back as the cervix. It’s really more of an area then an actual “spot.”

Now that you know WHERE it is, what do you do with it? Well, that depends. Some women enjoy g-spot stimulation and some women don’t. Be aware that how much she enjoys it may also depend on where she is in her menstrual cycle. The sex positions we’ll cover here all allow for maximum penetration and depending on how your penis curves, should allow for some stimulation with your penis.

HOW DO I STIMULATE THE G SPOT?
If your penis naturally curves upward, you may have a slight advantage to hitting this area. If you don’t, then any position that maximizes contact with the front of her vaginal wall should work. Woman-on-top-facing-you works well, she can also slightly lean back to take advantage of more front-vaginal contact. The missionary position works well if you prop her hips up, or use a pillow. You can also get some traction if she’s laying on the edge of something and you’re standing on the floor. You may not even need to prop her hips up. By standing, you have more control over the angle as you penetrate her.
If your angle isn’t hitting this spot, keep trying a variety of positions to get the penis towards the top of the vaginal wall. A popular position is the one illustrated below.

Courtesy of SexInfo101.com.

If it’s not working for you, put a pillow or two under her rear to lift up her hips. Don’t give up. It takes some couples weeks of experimentation to find out what works for them. If the penile stimulation won’t rock her world, move right over to using your finger or fingers. To manually stimulate the g-spot, you will need to experiment with different pressures and motions. Talk about what works for her. Move your finger(s) in that “come hither” motion works well for most. Because the g-spot is located inside of the vaginal wall, you may need to exert a fair bit of pressure to stimulate it.

You can also try a “tapping” motion to stimulate the “G” spot. Tap the area with your fingers and try varying the speed and firmness of the tapping. Working the area in circles like she teases her hair is another method. Everyone is different so don’t be afraid to try a variety of motions. There is an excellent video on this topic available by clicking here.

Making your wife HOT is simpler than you can imagine. You can have the sexually-charged lifestyle you want. All that is required is some patience, creativity and a spirit of fun! Check out my book, Make Your Wife Hot today and get the full program to not only creating a great sex life, but a fulfilling relationship all around.

WHEN DO I WORK THE G SPOT?
After you’ve found it and been able to stimulate the “G” spot, it is important to use this powder keg of pleasure judiciously. You probably shouldn’t hit it at every chance you get. If you don’t create some anticipation every once in a while, you will be creating Christmas for her every day.

Not a good plan.

Just as you might get bored of a blow job every morning and sex twice a night, (well maybe it would take a while but eventually you WOULD get bored!) you don’t want to excite the “G” spot at every chance you get. Nor do you want to hit the spot each time you have sex.

As you are beginning your sexual encounter wait for the pre-orgasm cycle of sex before switching positions or changing your penis for your finger. (To understand more of the pre-orgasm cycle, register for your FREE book, “The 4 Minute Orgasm” by filling our your email on the upper right) When she is a minute or two from an orgasm; that is the perfect time to stimulate her “G” spot and send her over the edge. Her orgasm will most likely be uncontrollable and you more likely to get her into a rolling, multiple orgasm rhythm for a while by saving the “G” spot stimulation for the pre-orgasm cycle.

The key is to be patient, creative and open to exploration of your wife’s body. Together you can create “off the chart” sex for the rest of your lives. Start today by reading up on how to understand your woman, and you’ll start to enjoy all the sex and adoration you desire within days! Click on the book below…

Focusing on creating a super hot wife; a MILF that you can’t wait to get home to is important. This emphasis on her not only pleases you, but her, as well. In fact, if you’ve read my book how to Make Your Wife Hot, you realize that the key to creating a sexually-charged relationship full of mind-blowing sex with YOUR hot wife depends more on what you think, do and say than nagging her to lose that extra 20 pounds or try on the cat woman outfit.

Guys, it is up to you to LEAD! I hope you understand that your wife, regardless of how long you’ve been married or how unsatisfying your relationship may be, wants to please you. She may be a bitch or cold as ice, but deep down inside she desperately longs to be that sensual, seductress you married so many years ago. This post is dedicated to her. (And you!)

Copy or print this post any way you desire. Your mission is to woo her. Your job is to romance her, your responsibility is to show her you love her. Now comes the fun part….you can also get what YOU want in the process! We have focused on her emotional needs and desire for security in many posts. If you’ve been working on your relationship at all, you know that sex is 90% mental. Let’s now focus on how to get HER to please YOU! Here is a short playbook prepared by my wife. Please share it with your girl…

-By Chris Steponin

I am not a sluty wife, but my husband likes to think I am HIS private concubine. As a marketing professional, I used to be disgusted with his labeling me as his private whore. It was demeaning and cheap.

Once I realized his fantasy had nothing to do with MY self-esteem, I warmed up a little bit. In a few months, I actually ENJOYED being incredibly sensual, sexy and naughty for him. Private whore…hmm…it is definitely a character I have no experience with in my past. Thanks to his balance of respect and desire for eroticism, I now enjoy being the professional, suburban couple in the daytime and a naughty temptress at night! Let’s explore that hunk’s body…

Compared to male body, female body has a greater variety of erogenous zones. Sorry boys. But there is a general misunderstanding by many women that a man’s only erogenous zone is located  in his pants. This area represents only a small percentage of his erogenous zones which has dozens of hot spots. So let’s “touch” a few of them right now…

His Head: No; the one on his neck
His scalp and ears areas are packed with nerve endings. Many men enjoy having their hair ruffled and stroked. Running your fingers through his hair can be a libido-increasing act. Scalp massage is a stimulating and is a seductive touch to do with your guy. We all enjoy getting our hair washed at the salon. He’s no different. His ears are also hot spots for your tongue, whispers and kisses. Whispering erotic fantasies, slight sucking and playful biting on his earlobe will stimulate necessary blood flow to the area south of the border.

His Chest: Hairy or not here you cum
The chest is one of the sexiest part of a man’s body. Stroking a hairy chest and playing with his nipples is an exciting thing for most women. Circling his areola, gently kissing the nipple and caressing the muscles of his chest can be exciting for both of you. You should also flip your hair onto his chest and drag it slowly down to his now erect manhood. Yeah…that works.

His Back: You’ll be lying on yours soon enough
A man’s back is often overlooked. A strong back is sexy for us, but is also very sensitive for him. Trial and error are part of the deal, here. Kiss it, scratch it, bite it caress it, etc. We all love a good massage on our backs and taking the stress out of his back will release any remaining tension in his body so he can focus on you.

His Butt: Cute, sensitive and spankable
The buttocks and anal region are one of the most intimate and erogenous zones of a man. Slowly running your fingers along his buttocks and teasing his crack may make him squirm and tingle. Stroking and massaging his buttocks before during and after sex is a good way to “double down” on his pleasure. The more combination moves you can come up with, the better. Play with his butt: pinch and slap a little, then snuggle your belly and breasts to his bottoms.

WARNING: Most men are reluctant to ask their lover to play with his anal hole and prostate.. Stimulating this spot can be very pleasurable, especially if you use a top-quality anal lubricant. Fingering his anus requires advanced Tantra techniques and should only be done with plenty of lubricant, training, and a possible bottle of scotch. Be warned, however, that the proper application of these techniques can cause extreme orgasms and euphoria!

Between a Rock and Hard Place
Both men and women have a perineum – an area with highly sensitive skin packed with pleasure receptors, located between the anus and genitals. This region should be touched with extra attention and love. Gentle and careful stimulation by licking and kissing this smooth flesh can provide external stimulation to his prostate and even the root of his cock. Gently push on the perineum like you’re ringing a doorbell, and release. Push – release, and so on. Massage in circular and rhythmic motion for extra benefit.

Good luck. By following some of these ideas, many men (including myself) have actually achieved multiple orgasms. I encourage you to print this out and discuss it with your wife, when the time is right. Try warming her up with a nice dinner, a rose-petal covered bed or a day at the spa. After she reads this, you’ll be banging your smokin’ hot wife until the sun rises the next day.

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The g-spot is a bean-shaped, spongy mass of nerve tissue that sits just under the frontal vaginal wall. Composed of tissue that closely resembles the corpora cavernosa erectile tissue in a man’s penis, the g-spot swells in size when a woman is aroused.

It’s named after gynecologist Ernst Grafenberg, who discovered it in 1944. But it goes back farther than that, being mentioned as a “sacred spot” over one-thousand years ago by shamanic elders who were the forerunners of today’s practitioners of tantric sex.

Is the g-spot: a magical ticket to sexual bliss? It’s a controversial subject, and there are divided opinions on its very existence. Some women love g-spot stimulation, some don’t, some are ambivalent, and some women don’t seem to have one.

So, how do you find out if your lady might enjoy stimulation of this mythical buried treasure?

To locate her g-spot, it’s best for her to be aroused, as it will be easier to find in an erect state. Have her lay on her back with her hips slightly lifted or propped up on a small pillow. Put one or two fingers inside her vaginal wall towards the front of her body (belly-button side). Reach in as far as you can go, and crook your fingers toward you in a “come hither” type movement, sliding your finger/s along the vaginal wall until you find a rough-textured area. The g-spot should feel ridged or nubbly compared to the rest of the vaginal canal and is generally found about 2 inches in, although it can lie pretty much anywhere along the front of the vaginal canal – even as far back as the cervix. It’s really more of an area then an actual “spot.”

Once you’ve determined that she has one, what do you do with it? Well, that depends. Some women enjoy g-spot stimulation and some women don’t. Be aware that how much she enjoys it may also depend on where she is in her menstrual cycle.

Often, the first sensation a woman will feel with stimulation of the g-spot is an urgent need to pee. This sensation usually passes fairly quickly, however, so if you’re both patient you can get past it and to the good stuff. It may be a good idea for her to make sure her bladder is empty before stimulation!

To manually stimulate the g-spot, you will need to experiment with different pressures and motions. Communicate to find out what is most pleasurable for her. Moving your finger/s in that “come hither” motion works well for a lot of women. Because the g-spot is located inside of the vaginal wall, you may need to exert a fair bit of pressure to stimulate it. Don’t be afraid to use a firm touch.

Using the fingers in a “tapping” motion works very well to stimulate the g-spot. Tap the area with your fingers and try varying the speed and firmness of the tapping.

Try to “work” the area with small circles. Each woman is different and may appreciate different stimulation techniques.

Also try using your other hand on the outside of her body and apply soft, downward pressure just above her pubic hairline. This may increase the stimulation by “sandwiching” the area between both hands. Don’t count out toys that are specifically made for g-spot stimulation. It can take some of the guesswork out of stimulation.

As for stimulation during sex, there are positions that can help you make intimate contact. If your dick naturally curves upward, you may have a built-in ability to stimulate her g-spot! If you don’t, then any position that maximizes contact with the front of her vaginal wall will work well. Woman-on-top-facing-you works well, she can also slightly lean back to take advantage of more front-vaginal contact. The missionary position works well if you prop her hips up – and works even better if she’s laying on the edge of something and you’re standing on the floor. You may not even need to prop her hips up. By standing, you have more control over the angle your dick goes in at. For advanced techniques at stimulating her brain along with her body, visit www.makeyourwifehot.com.

Remember, each woman will have her preferences. Experiment and find out what works for your lady. She may really enjoy it, she may be annoyed by it or find it uncomfortable – or she may not even have one.

As women age they may respond more positively to g-spot stimulation. This is because their estrogen levels begin to decline and this causes their vaginal lining to become thinner, allowing easier access to the g-spot.

Importantly, some women can even ejaculate with g-spot stimulation! But keep in mind that the g-spot is not some kind of “magic button.” Just as with any other part of the body, some women will find its stimulation highly arousing, while others won’t. Don’t get too caught up in the semantics or treat it like a holy quest. Just enjoy the sexual exploration.

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There is something very special about talking “dirty” during intercourse. If you’ve not done this with your wife, you REALLY need to start. If you have a shy wife, then you need to understand this topic and implement the creativity even more so. If you already talk about “Thrusting your manhood into her sweet wetness”, then you are probably OK. Maybe you have a great thesaurus of flowery words that can make your woman squeal with desire with your breathless tones. You may be that impressive…read on anyway.

You may learn something.

We know that sex, stimulation, and love is 90% psychological. Our brains tell our bodies to get wet, hard, or take out the trash. This brain of yours is 1,000,000X more powerful than the world’s largest supercomputer, yet we can fool it as easy as telling our 4 year old about the Easter bunny or almost as easily as telling our wife that “Nothing bad happened at Bob’s bachelor party.”

Your brain is SO easily fooled, that you can shine a light through a moving stream of celluloid film, and whatever some over-paid, neurotic actor said and was recorded on that piece of celluloid can create a physical reaction in your body (laughter or tears or both if the movie was Marley & Me). Our brains can be tricked, influenced, and even made to believe that the government is trying to help us by taking over GM…uh….well maybe not all of our brains can be influenced so easily.

For a more satisfying sexual experience, you can create the most INCREDIBLE fantasy with your wife by simply talking about it. You don’t have to be an accomplished actor or even that good looking to pull this off. Your brain will be fooled into thinking that you and your wife are the most dynamic, sexy, and professional lovers in the world. All you have to do is speak it into existence.

Take a visual vacation from your wife, watch a porno movie, read some dirty magazines, and basically get yourself worked up to a frenzy of testosterone that makes your pants look like a tent. Remember some of the lines, images, specific girls, situations, and fantasies that struck a chord with you. Now comes the fun part. Be sure to do this right, or you might end up with a frying pan smacked across your face. Take the SAME material, share it with your wife and ask her to go through it. She may giggle, give you a raised eyebrow or better yet, say, “Oh that stuff…yeah, it’s OK. Let me show you something REALLY kinky!” The result will be that you two can SAFELY share fantasies and what turns you on. Some people are too shy to do this…LOSERS! Try again with some PG rated chick flick and graduate to some soft porn where you don’t see any penetration. It may take some time to move up to “Debbie Does Dallas” but the road won’t be painful! (Unless you watch THOSE kinds of movies!)

Once you both explore the seedier side of sex it’s time to talk about it. You have two choices here. You can get a bottle of wine, sit out on the porch and discuss why you are so bored with each other and want to join the local swingers group or better yet, take advantage of that bottle of wine, hit the sack and try something new. Below are a few suggestions. For more visit www.makeyourwifehot.com .

1. Atmosphere, mood, and anticipation. After being married for so many years, I am sure you know exactly how to make her orgasm and your foreplay is about 45 seconds. STOP IT! Try a few fantasies such as:
   1. You are on your first date and you have to be a gentleman, even though you both want to do it.
   2. You are in High School and your parents are in the next room
   3. You pick her up at a bar, bring her home and tell her that you are leaving for the Army tomorrow.
   4. You are NOT her husband, but the pool boy and you must get to your next job.

You get the idea…we watch movies and we insert ourselves into the story all the time. The difference is we keep these thoughts to ourselves. How many times have you fantasized about being James Bond, or Indiana Jones? Well, if you are courageous, get the costume and crack that whip. Other than that, get the tuxedo out, order the martini’s and show her who’s the man. The more foreplay the better.

1. Taking your love-making to a more naughty level by “talking it up” during intercourse. This can really intensify the fantasy and make your passion stronger. Always start with a compliment about her “wet, soft, delicious pussy” or how much you want to “slide yourself deep into her wetness”. Focusing on her, her beauty, and your desire for her will combine taste, vision, smell, touch with words. You are hitting ALL the senses now. Grunting is OK, but come on, guy! You mastered the English language in grammar school…use it when it counts!
2. After you have been able to show her what a delicious whore she is (meant in a NICE way) you can graduate to “dangerous” or “off limits” fantasies. Readers of my book know that over 73% of men and 17% of women fantasize about lesbian or bi-sexual acts with women. See the problem here? Those numbers don’t match up! Therefore, you have to use the brain trick to get that fantasy into reality. Next time you are in the heat of passion, you can suggest that next week, you are going to have a surprise for HER. Tell her that a 5’ 2” Asian cunnilingus master is going to join you. Let her know that you will be there to watch, learn and join in appropriately. Focus on HER and how this little tart will show her things that are unimaginable. After she comes for the third time, you will dive into her (your wife) and finish her off. It may be important to let her know that you won’t touch Mei Ling and that she has been there ONLY for your wife (Yeah right). If you run into a road block, just erase that scene, start a new one and enjoy. The really GREAT thing about fantasy land, guys, is that you can create or eliminate a character with a word. Reset the stage and start again.

Have fun with this. Don’t worry about the mistakes you make. Be sure to laugh at the embarrassing moments you share. It’s all good-natured, clean fun that you both will have a ball with. Be creative. Be spontaneous. Be safe and keep it “up.”

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