Make Your Wife Hot

Are you curious about morning erections? Most men have the experience, with some regularity, of waking up in the morning with an erection. Why is this? Is it nature’s way of preventing you from wetting the bed? Is it a love hangover from that dream with your secretary?

Morning erections, colloquially referred to as “morning wood” and scientifically defined as nocturnal penile tumescence (NPT) are a healthy and normal physiological response that most many men experience. Waking up with “wood” may be better described as the finale to a sequence of erections during sleep. It is simply the one you remember…unless you had a wet dream.

Men average between three and five erections during a good night sleep. The erections can last from 25 -35 minutes each.

Causes of Morning Erections

It is a common myth that morning erections are caused by a full bladder. This is untrue. (Do you get them during the day before you have to pee?)

Hormone levels seem to rise during sleep and waking up with a hard on is a clear indicator that your testosterone levels are normal.  Your evening erections are also associated with an increase in heart rate. It isn’t known for sure if the erections are a result of the other physiological changes. One guess is that these erections are the bodies way of making sure everything is in good working order.

A challenge in many relationships occur when over-achieving men work 10-12 hours per day and are too exhausted in the evenings to engage in vigorous intercourse. The following morning ‘BING’ you and your johnson are awake and if you are fortunate enough to have a lady next to you, your one-track mind is in full gear.

The challenge may occur because you don’t have the skills in communication or foresight to eliminate morning breath or create a similar response with your girl or didn’t allow enough time to prepare for this inevitable DAILY event! In fact, because of its nearly daily occurrence, many men overlook the golden opportunity they have to use this time to create effortless sex! Here are some simple steps you can take to maximize nature’s Viagra.

Use Your Morning Erections

1. Put some strong mints on the nightstand. Morning breath is a real libido killer. Getting up and brushing your teeth can also work, but by then, you’ll probably go to the bathroom, lose your erection and be back to routine sex. That is not what this post is about!

2. Bathroom breaks. Most women (and men) have to pee first thing in the morning. Training you body to change this routine isn’t very difficult and the methods we suggest nearly always work. A) Reduce fluid intake after 9 PM. This may handicap you guys who need a few drinks to make love to the old lady, but hey, that’s what light switches are for. A better solution is to take the time to make your wife hot! Click here for my step by step guide on transforming your soccer-mom spouse into your private whore. By reducing fluid intake in the evening and eliminating it from 9 PM on, your body will have less of a desire to pee in the early morning. However, a quantity of urine WILL be produced. Which brings us to timing. B) “Accidentally” set your alarm for 4 AM. Nudge the little woman to turn it off, or do it yourself. But be sure to make a bit of noise and turn the lights on. That way she can wake up, also. By both of you peeing around 4 AM, you have cleared the path for another few hours of sleep and “TA DA”…no need to pee.

3. The set up. To really seal the deal on your morning jaunt, have sex in the evening prior and/or at the 4 AM point when you both pee. However, do NOT give your woman an orgasm. By bringing her right to the edge (especially at 4 AM) you will leave her wanting more at 7 AM when your free erection is ready for action. Depending on your stamina, you may hold back yourself.

So, with 3 simple steps, a little preparation and a whole lot of fun, you can transform as many of these wake up call erections into passionate, morning exercise for the both of you!

For more ideas, strategies and tips on creating a passion-filled, lustful relationship with your girl visit http://www.makeyourwifehot.com today. She may be average, but your mission is to create a sex machine! Go for it!

One day you wake up and don’t feel in love anymore…yuk.

Do you want to get your wife back? Why? Are you in love? How can that be, chump…I mean if she’s left (Either physically or emotionally) then is that love? Isn’t true love when BOTH parties feel the same way? Isn’t your emotion more out of desperation of loss or being alone than her? How can you love someone who doesn’t love you back?

“Hey there…watch my video below…”

Love is pretty confusing, of course. Just when we think we have it all figured out, the world, our relationship, our health or attitude changes. Some people argue and bicker, ever realizing what the true issue is or what outcome they are after during a fight.

What is worse than fighting? What is worse than arguing or being jealous?

Indifference.

This indifference is actually worse than fighting. You see, the opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference. There are worse things than hate. Hate has emotion attached to it. It isn’t love, but it is an emotion nonetheless. There are strategies to transfer this emotion to a sexually charged evening! (see my post on make up sex…it works!) Get your wife back by thinking, believing and acting in love. It may sound simple, but it is not.

When indifference creeps into your head and heart, you are in serious trouble. Take some reflective time and go back to your past. Recall what you did, who you were and where you were when you felt in love. Go back and recall what circumstances created the thought “I want to spend the rest of my life with her.” Your circumstances may have changed, of course. But that doesn’t mean it is impossible to USE the past to rebuild a new future.

There are no guarantees that your heart or her heart will restore itself to the incredible lust, mystery and passion when you first met, of course. But, by thinking loving thoughts, reminding yourself of the feelings that went with those thoughts and acting “as if” they were all real, you’ve created the perfect storm to revitalize your love and create permanent change in her heart.

This may be the most difficult thing you’ve ever attempted. Getting your wife back isn’t easy, of course. Certainly “falling” in love wasn’t hard. But rekindling the passion, lust and mutual true love between 2 people may be more difficult than curing cancer. When it comes to love, we have more to fear than death, we could lose the chance to live.

Decide. Commit. Act.

After you have closed the escape hatch of an affair, divorce or indifference, face your spouse and commit to acting in love. Commit to doing the things you did naturally when you did feel in love. Once you start to act in love, the chances are much higher that your feelings will follow your actions.

Sometimes we can all use a little help to rekindle that feeling. There are some who claim that the feeling of “love” can’t be controlled….it just is. Well, here’s a clue to help you out if you fall into the trap of “I love my spouse, I’m just not IN love with them.” syndrome. Get a copy of the popular book, “The Magic of Making Up” and learn how thousands of people have taken a hopeless situation and not just survived, but THRIVED with it after a break-up, affair, or a slow drift apart. Click here to order your copy today.

Watch the video below and create some clear, simple and straightforward actions you can take to get your wife back, rekindle your love affair and have a hot wife again.

Passion, living life to its fullest and creating outstanding memories for yourself is not limited to your honeymoon or vacation sex! You have the ability and knowledge to create off-the-chart sex, lust and passion whenever you want! The tools are simple and the path is clear. Make the commitment today, follow the video, read this blog and make your wife hot and your life hotter!

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"What did you say?"

One of my favorite online magazines is AskMen. Just as we all enjoy Glamour for the pictures, AskMen always has great content, tips and advice for single and married guys. Remember when using these tools that SINCERITY is more important than volume! Only sincere compliments work, so be factual and be romantic! Below are 10 things that you can always use to make YOUR life better and your relationship smoother…

Number 10 “How was your day?” When you ask her how her day went, her interpretation is that you are thoughtful and eager to know about her 9-to-5 routine. Be warned though: This question gives her license to talk at length about all the little dramas that occurred throughout her day. So be ready to set aside some time to listen to her stories.

Why it makes you look good: To her, it’s the thought that counts. Asking about her day shows that you’re receptive, interested and open to listening to her. You’re giving her an outlet to vent and acting as her confidante. Sure, you might have to listen longer than you want to, but once she’s done talking shop, she’ll be talking about you.

Number 9 “How do you feel about [anything]?” Asking this question tells your lady that you’re genuinely concerned about her feelings. And, as both Oprah and Dr. Phil have proven beyond a shadow of a doubt, women love to express their feelings on every topic imaginable. Know, however, that you’re setting yourself up for a lengthy and deep conversation about whatever the topic may be. So don’t ask this if you’re planning to watch a game that night.

Why it makes you look good: It’s all about showing the compassionate side. Once she understands that you’re devoting attention to her it will make all her feelings about you that much more intense. So, if you were just kind of attractive before, you’ll become a stud in her eyes. If you were a friend before, now she’ll want more. Get the picture?

Number 8 “You’re really smart.” By acknowledging her intelligence, you’re communicating that you recognize her brains, as well as her figure. This makes a woman feel appreciated for all her assets, not just the parts that fit in a thong or a bra. It’s a mark of respect from her man.

Why it makes you look good: First off, she’ll appreciate that you are capable of thinking above the waistline. Women love a cordial man, and there’s no better way for you to show off your gentlemanly qualities than to praise and distinguish her smart.

Number 7 “I can’t believe how sexy you look!” Straight up, this tells her that you find her attractive, and to a lesser extent, that you want some. But, if you’re in a relationship, she’ll hear more than that — namely, that you’re still lustfully appreciating her fine ass. No woman could fail to be flattered by that compliment.

Why it makes you look good: This line is particularly effective in long-term relationships, as you’re assuring your woman that she’s still hot. In return, this makes her want to share her hotness with you. Any questions? Didn’t think so.

Number 6 “You’re prettier than your girlfriends.” Putting her on a pedestal among her peers gives her an ego boost that she can secretly lord over her gal pals. It’s high praise in the world of women, and will score you some big flattery points.

Why it makes you look good: Aside from making her feel aesthetically superior to other women, this little remark will make her cognizant of how much you value her. She’ll also feel less threatened by her friends when they are around you. She’ll feel good about herself and consequently will want to reward your good taste. There is a potential flip side, however: the jealous partner may take this only as evidence that you’re checking out her friends.

Number 5 “You’re great in bed.” Simply put, this line makes her feel like a goddess. Hearing it suggests that her sexuality has been elevated in your eyes and makes her feel like she really knows how to satisfy her man. It could also help to knock away any inhibitions she might have in the bedroom.

Why it makes you look good: Praising her performance indicates that for you, sex isn’t just about getting your rocks off. You appreciate every aspect of the experience itself, particularly the extra efforts she puts towards it. (Blogger’s Note: For more tips on what women REALLY want, check out this site. Keep in mind the content was written by my wife AND myself, but the context is male oriented)

Number 4 “I want to spend my life with you.” This is a heavy line; it’s not many degrees away from proposing to her. So be prepared for the consequences if you utter it. But also keep in mind that risk often carries reward — once you tell her this she’ll be doing mental backflips of joy. Other phrases that work in a similar vein but are less committal are, “Only you can make me so happy,” and, “I wouldn’t want to be with anyone else.”

Why it makes you look good: All women love to hear a formal expression of enduring commitment from their man. Brother, to her, you’ll practically receive a permanent halo after this.

Number 3 “You’re my best friend.” You’re telling her how you feel above and beyond a sexual context. It means you’ve placed value upon your friendship and want to do things with her that other men may not have had an interest in. She’ll feel overpoweringly connected to you after you say this.

Why it makes you look good: These words change you from being just the guy she’s doing to the guy she is doing things with, too. It rockets you to the top of the suitor list because you’ve openly declared the F-word: friendship.

Number 2 “You’ll make a great mother.” Most women look forward to having babies one day. Most also agonize over whether they will do a good job of it. By saying this you affirm to her that she’ll be a success. Furthermore, you satisfy her internal need to be pacified on the subject. Coming from her man, these words will make her the happiest she can be.

Why it makes you look good: Indirectly, you just confirmed to your woman that you’re thinking about making babies with her. Obviously, this is great music to her ears. From this point onwards, she’ll be ever more receptive to your advances.

Number 1 “You make my life complete.” This tells her that she’s the only one for you. All women want to hear this line from their men. It says that you’ve accepted her completely and that she has become an essential, indispensable ingredient in your life. That’s an unbelievably gratifying thought to your woman — she’ll be smiling for days.

Why it makes you look good: This basically says that you need her in your life, and that you couldn’t live without her. Women fall head over heels for this kind of stuff. honorable mention “I love you.” The “three little words” that all the chick flicks place so much importance on can have a serious impact. If you’re in a long-term relationship, it’s good to say this every now and then.

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Well, today marks my 21st wedding anniversary. INCREDIBLE!
Like many of you, not all 21 have been a bed of roses. With 3 kids, a business that collapsed, a separation, my midlife crisis, affairs and child medical issues, our family therapist stated that the odds were definitely against us. Our “Train wreck” was virtually unsurvivable.

With patience and an open mind, we pieced together remnants of our past, our values, and our needs and pressed forward. Where most people give up out of an excessive amount of pain, we pushed forward. Our book and blog explain it all.

We didn’t always know what the outcome would be. Our hearts very often sought the escape valve of divorce. The separation often gave both of us required space to collect our thoughts and garner some introspection without the pressures of being a “couple.”

There is no “end” of course. We continue to talk, laugh, love and lust for one another. The past issues are constantly in our psyche. We can never eliminate our mistakes-only learn from them.

Increasing sexual desire and pleasure after sleeping with the same person for 22 years (yeah…premarital sex) isn’t easy. My personality craves excitement, adventure and “newness.”

My wife and I nearly divorced not because of my cheating, but because we didn’t know how to communicate the REASONS I strayed from my vows of marriage. Now that we can talk about ANYTHING without judgment or emotion, we have created a new and stronger bond than ever before.

There is no “end” to this story. There is only a new day, every day that we can crawl into bed, whisper something really naughty, break out the new toy or new chapter in the Kama Sutra, and bang each others brains out.

When all else fails in a marriage, try vigorous, passionate, off the chart sex. Couples who have a sexually charged, intimate relationship rarely divorce.

For more ideas on how to create a smokin’ hot MILF for your wife, check out my ebook at www.makeyourwifehot.com. The title is chauvinistic, but the content was written by my wife and me. We both know the benefits of her sex appeal. She feels better about herself and I love…absolutely LOVE having my mistress, my girlfriend and my wife all be one and the same.

There is something very special about talking “dirty” during intercourse. If you’ve not done this with your wife, you REALLY need to start. If you have a shy wife, then you need to understand this topic and implement the creativity even more so. If you already talk about “Thrusting your manhood into her sweet wetness”, then you are probably OK. Maybe you have a great thesaurus of flowery words that can make your woman squeal with desire with your breathless tones. You may be that impressive…read on anyway.

You may learn something.

We know that sex, stimulation, and love is 90% psychological. Our brains tell our bodies to get wet, hard, or take out the trash. This brain of yours is 1,000,000X more powerful than the world’s largest supercomputer, yet we can fool it as easy as telling our 4 year old about the Easter bunny or almost as easily as telling our wife that “Nothing bad happened at Bob’s bachelor party.”

Your brain is SO easily fooled, that you can shine a light through a moving stream of celluloid film, and whatever some over-paid, neurotic actor said and was recorded on that piece of celluloid can create a physical reaction in your body (laughter or tears or both if the movie was Marley & Me). Our brains can be tricked, influenced, and even made to believe that the government is trying to help us by taking over GM…uh….well maybe not all of our brains can be influenced so easily.

For a more satisfying sexual experience, you can create the most INCREDIBLE fantasy with your wife by simply talking about it. You don’t have to be an accomplished actor or even that good looking to pull this off. Your brain will be fooled into thinking that you and your wife are the most dynamic, sexy, and professional lovers in the world. All you have to do is speak it into existence.

Take a visual vacation from your wife, watch a porno movie, read some dirty magazines, and basically get yourself worked up to a frenzy of testosterone that makes your pants look like a tent. Remember some of the lines, images, specific girls, situations, and fantasies that struck a chord with you. Now comes the fun part. Be sure to do this right, or you might end up with a frying pan smacked across your face. Take the SAME material, share it with your wife and ask her to go through it. She may giggle, give you a raised eyebrow or better yet, say, “Oh that stuff…yeah, it’s OK. Let me show you something REALLY kinky!” The result will be that you two can SAFELY share fantasies and what turns you on. Some people are too shy to do this…LOSERS! Try again with some PG rated chick flick and graduate to some soft porn where you don’t see any penetration. It may take some time to move up to “Debbie Does Dallas” but the road won’t be painful! (Unless you watch THOSE kinds of movies!)

Once you both explore the seedier side of sex it’s time to talk about it. You have two choices here. You can get a bottle of wine, sit out on the porch and discuss why you are so bored with each other and want to join the local swingers group or better yet, take advantage of that bottle of wine, hit the sack and try something new. Below are a few suggestions. For more visit www.makeyourwifehot.com .

1. Atmosphere, mood, and anticipation. After being married for so many years, I am sure you know exactly how to make her orgasm and your foreplay is about 45 seconds. STOP IT! Try a few fantasies such as:
   1. You are on your first date and you have to be a gentleman, even though you both want to do it.
   2. You are in High School and your parents are in the next room
   3. You pick her up at a bar, bring her home and tell her that you are leaving for the Army tomorrow.
   4. You are NOT her husband, but the pool boy and you must get to your next job.

You get the idea…we watch movies and we insert ourselves into the story all the time. The difference is we keep these thoughts to ourselves. How many times have you fantasized about being James Bond, or Indiana Jones? Well, if you are courageous, get the costume and crack that whip. Other than that, get the tuxedo out, order the martini’s and show her who’s the man. The more foreplay the better.

1. Taking your love-making to a more naughty level by “talking it up” during intercourse. This can really intensify the fantasy and make your passion stronger. Always start with a compliment about her “wet, soft, delicious pussy” or how much you want to “slide yourself deep into her wetness”. Focusing on her, her beauty, and your desire for her will combine taste, vision, smell, touch with words. You are hitting ALL the senses now. Grunting is OK, but come on, guy! You mastered the English language in grammar school…use it when it counts!
2. After you have been able to show her what a delicious whore she is (meant in a NICE way) you can graduate to “dangerous” or “off limits” fantasies. Readers of my book know that over 73% of men and 17% of women fantasize about lesbian or bi-sexual acts with women. See the problem here? Those numbers don’t match up! Therefore, you have to use the brain trick to get that fantasy into reality. Next time you are in the heat of passion, you can suggest that next week, you are going to have a surprise for HER. Tell her that a 5’ 2” Asian cunnilingus master is going to join you. Let her know that you will be there to watch, learn and join in appropriately. Focus on HER and how this little tart will show her things that are unimaginable. After she comes for the third time, you will dive into her (your wife) and finish her off. It may be important to let her know that you won’t touch Mei Ling and that she has been there ONLY for your wife (Yeah right). If you run into a road block, just erase that scene, start a new one and enjoy. The really GREAT thing about fantasy land, guys, is that you can create or eliminate a character with a word. Reset the stage and start again.

Have fun with this. Don’t worry about the mistakes you make. Be sure to laugh at the embarrassing moments you share. It’s all good-natured, clean fun that you both will have a ball with. Be creative. Be spontaneous. Be safe and keep it “up.”

For more ideas, techniques, commentary and advice about making your wife hot, visit our website, www.makeyourwifehot.com and be sure to read my blogs both past and present! Your comments are welcome.

How can denying a woman sex lead to more and BETTER SEX?

Well, the first step is going to take some time and rewiring of your puny, male brain. You sex drive is nearly always in the “go” position…hers takes some time to warm up. If you have already read my book (And I strongly encourage you to do so!) then you know that no matter how average, sweet, and attractive your wife is, she was probably hotter when she was younger. I didn’t believe it was possible until a few years ago, but my wife is even HOTTER today than when she was 28. She is thinner, dresses sexier, and her sex drive wears me out on a daily basis. This transformation took research, education, and training-on my part! I outlined this process in my book available on my website.

Three weeks before we were married I had the idea of abstaining from sex before our marriage. Now, I don’t mean to say that either of us was a virgin before the honeymoon. However, by pretending to be “innocent” and by not sleeping together at all for 3 weeks before our marriage, I can tell you that our wedding night was memorable. Now, I am sure that most married couples have great sex on the evening of their wedding. It is a magical time and everyone should claim to have had a terrific time. Imagine how much MORE exciting it could have been for them if they would have abstained from any contact for 3 weeks prior to their wedding day? How much sexual tension can you build up in 3 weeks (or 3 days!).

Every anniversary, we do the same ritual…take a break from our lust for a week or two (It is impossible to go for 3 weeks anymore!) and build up our passions and desires. During this time we tease, titilate, and get each other all hot and bothered, but we do not have sex. On the anniversary night we barely make it out of the restaurant! (Don’t ask about what happened on our last wedding anniversary. Needless to say, we are banned from that place forever)

For more ideas, strategies, and psychological triggers you can develop to make your wife hot, visit my website at www.makeyourwifehot.com.