Sex, Jealousy and Open Manipulation


I went out with my wife and 3 of her hot friends last night and OMG what a rush!

Normally, the emotion of jealousy is negative and drives a wedge between 2 people. Tempers flair, people judge and we end up acting like little Johnny on the 5th grade playground.

However, there is a way to USE the emotion of jealousy to your advantage. Last night I did JUST that! Don’t worry, I told my wife exactly what I was doing before I did it. To the emotional side of our brain, it didn’t matter. We had a great time. Here’s how it worked…

The male ego would love a harem. Think a sheik and 23 dancing girls in his tent. That guy might have 12 wives and STILL he gets 23 dancing girls…ah the good old days. This boosts our ego and if women were not so independent nowadays, we still might be able to get away with that!

From a female perspective, she wants to know that SHE is the most desireable and sexiest woman in the world to her man. Some overly jealous women can’t bare the thought of their guy looking at other girls. I use that undeniable quality to increase the love with my wife and the passion of that love.

Before we went to the club with my wife and her three hot friends, I told her about my fantasy of going out with 3 hot women, dancing, drinking, and then all of us coming back to our hotel suite. We would party some more and ALL the girls would be giddy and a little bit “handsy”. After a few minutes of harmless teasing, I would look her friends in the eye and say, “You are lovely, but I really need to fuck my wife now.”

This fantasy accomplishes a huge ego boost for the both of us. I get the harem that I always desired and she is selected as the ONLY one from a flock of very desirable women. She is the prettiest, the best, and the one I love. This ONLY works, of course, with complete honesty and communication. The stage must be set with the right players, the actors must know the script, and even though we all know it is a show, we are turned on nonetheless.

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Sexy Weather Thunderstorms Inside & Outside!


Guys, there are scientific AND romantic reasons you can have BETTER sex whenever you want! A thunderstorm just blew through our area and my wife and I opened up the patio doors, let the air in (and a little rain) and simply banged our brains out!

I am over 40 (so is she) and we are having more sex than most newlywed 20-something year olds. We didn’t always have this passion, but after we almost divorced, we took a few simple, well thought out, and specific steps to increase our sex, passion, and lust for each other. For details, click here.

The thunderstorm did a few things:

1. The ionization of the atmosphere makes the air fresh, clean, and crisp. Not that the smell of sex is bad, its just that we all know how clear the air is after a thunderstorm. It revitalizes your senses and heightens your pleasure!

2. The lightning, thunder and rain showers all add additional atmosphere to our session. We even adjusted our rythmn to the thunderclaps! (sort of like movin’ to the sound of music only different) When we saw the lightning, we added and extra push and tried to time it to the 3-5 second delay of the thunder…pretty funny, really.

3. Romance…ah after the storms passed and we were left with the gentle rain shower, our lovemaking became more gentle and soft. I slowed down considerably and we focused on each and every nerve ending in our body. By focusing on each other our rythmn became totally in sync and we climaxed easily together.

The bottom line is, while most people are running around rolling up their windows and checking the gutters, we took advantage of the malestrom and used the power of the weather to support and encourge the power of our sexual appetite. Go for it! For more tips, ideas, commentary visit today!

Use Your Headboard for Traction


Sometimes the smallest thing can make the BIGGEST difference. Last night as I pounded my wife, I did a 180 degree turn, put my feet on the headboard and pounded her so hard she screamed in pain.

This is very different from the normal position that gave her a headache when, during intercourse, she banged HER head on the headboard and nearly had a concussion.

It is not technically in the Kama Sutra manual, but using your headboard (or just the wall, Felix!) to gain some extra traction can make your Johnson seem an extra inch or two in length. You’ll probably have to re-adjust each other a few inches towards the wall every so often, as the sliding affect will normally push you both away from the traction you achieve by this technique.

For an extra bit of support, try a pillow under her ass during this method. It’s an age-old trick for smaller guys, but it will make all you average guys out there have sexual intercourse like a porn star!

Well, it’s 4:30 AM and I hear her soft moans of desire calling me back…for more details on how to make your wife incredibly hot, sexy, and horny visit and I will throw in a couple of FREE reports for you. Visit my other blog entries as well. There are stories, techniques, and commentary here that is not in the book and definitely worth the read.

Make Your Wife HOT


She used to be HOT! What happened? She can be HOTTER than before. Here’s how…

Sex, love, intimacy are all things we crave and go “ga-ga” over. Unfortunately, kids, responsibilities, and routine are in direct opposition to what our relationships were like BEFORE we were married. OK, Chump, I guess you have a choice to make. You can either look for that “ga-ga” feeling elsewhere (in a bottle, being a workaholic, or Stacey in accounting) or you can simply DATE YOUR WIFE AGAIN!

Oh, I know what you are thinking (but DEFINITELY not saying). “Yeah, that makes sense, but my wife is frumpy, older, and just not the hot sex-kitten she used to be. I had the same situation. I turned it around and created the hottest wife imaginable. I am the envy of my friends and I am actually sore from having so much sex. I don’t meant to brag, mind you. But after a few of my friends saw what had happened, I decided to write a book and blog a little on the subject in order to give back. Besides, it keeps me sharp! After creating this skinny, bubbly MILF, I have to make sure I can keep her! Here are a few tips.

1. It starts with YOU! Your communication and lack of attention is disgusting. When was the last time you sent her flowers for no reason? When was the last time you stared into her eyes for 2 minutes without talking? When was the last time you sent her to a spa for a day with her friends. You see, prince charming, you may have found a princess, but in order to keep her from becoming the frumpy, old queen, you have to KEEP TREATING HER LIKE A PRINCESS! GET IT!

2. Communication is going to be dicey. If your wife has put on too much weight and dresses more like a mom, then you have to communicate to her what is important to you, what you like, how it will improve your relationship and what YOU are going to do FIRST! That’s right. If she put on a few pounds and you did too, well, the first step is to set a good example. Go to the gym and get back to your ideal body weight. This will inspire her to do the same. If she dresses like June Cleaver, then you go out and buy her some sexy outfits. Don’t worry about how they look at first, your communication must build her up. Her self-esteem may not be too high. Tell her how wonderful she looks (even if she doesn’t). She knows exactly what she looks like and the more you shower her with praise, the more she will live up to your accolades.

3. Finally, ACT like you are in love with her. Give her praise, spend extra time with her, give her a simple gift of a card or a flower once in a while, and when you are out with your friends, embarrass her by telling her friends, how much you love her and how wonderful she is. This public announcement of your honor and love is extremely powerful.

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Have your WIFE for dessert


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Take her out to dinner-TONIGHT! Don’t wait for a special occasion. Don’t plan out some romantic getaway. When you both get home, regardless of what you have planned, tell her that you have something SPECIAL for her and that you have to get out….NOW!

The urgency and anticipation of the secret will drive her crazy. Surprises are always welcome and your ability to “build up”‘ the anticipation is critical. If you need to get a sitter, do that in advance of course. Other than reservations, don’t plan out a thing. Make it as spontaneous for you as it will be for her. Surprises, attention, and security are all emotions that create a passionate relationship and WILL turn an average wife into a smokin’ hot MILF extrodinaire. How do I know? Because I did it! For details click here.

Go to a decent restaurant and DO THE FOLLOWING:

1. Slide her chair back for her and make sure she is seated comfortably.

2. Ask her what she is in the mood for, but be sure to order for her.

3. During dinner stare at her and compliment her on how ravishing she is.

4. When it is time for dessert, ask for it “to go”. Get something that is creamy, smooth and that you both enjoy.

5. If the kids are awake and up and about, DO NOT GO HOME! Drive immediately to the closest hotel in the area (nothing too sleezy). Don’t make reservations and don’t waste time bickering on price. You are only there for a few hours anyway.

6. Once you check in, get the dessert out, slowly undress her, and move her closer to the bed. As you both lie down, get out your desert, and gently apply it to all the areas of her body you want to kiss, touch, and eat. Don’t just paste the obvious areas, champ. Try her belly, arms, neck and legs. Don’t worry. You’ll get to the more sensitive areas in a while. The idea is to make it an experience.

Enjoy your meal, enjoy your desert, enjoy your wife, and enjoy a fulfilling, passionate, and sensual evening. For more ideas, strategies, and techniques that are guaranteed to make your wife hot, visit

Dirty Talk if you Dare


There is something very special about talking “dirty” during intercourse. If you’ve not done this with your wife, you REALLY need to start. If you have a shy wife, then you need to understand this topic and implement the creativity even more so. If you already talk about “Thrusting your manhood into her sweet wetness”, then you are probably OK. Maybe you have a great thesaurus of flowery words that can make your woman squeal with desire with your breathless tones. You may be that impressive…read on anyway.

You may learn something.

We know that sex, stimulation, and love is 90% psychological. Our brains tell our bodies to get wet, hard, or take out the trash. This brain of yours is 1,000,000X more powerful than the world’s largest supercomputer, yet we can fool it as easy as telling our 4 year old about the Easter bunny or almost as easily as telling our wife that “Nothing bad happened at Bob’s bachelor party.”

Your brain is SO easily fooled, that you can shine a light through a moving stream of celluloid film, and whatever some over-paid, neurotic actor said and was recorded on that piece of celluloid can create a physical reaction in your body (laughter or tears or both if the movie was Marley & Me). Our brains can be tricked, influenced, and even made to believe that the government is trying to help us by taking over GM…uh….well maybe not all of our brains can be influenced so easily.

For a more satisfying sexual experience, you can create the most INCREDIBLE fantasy with your wife by simply talking about it. You don’t have to be an accomplished actor or even that good looking to pull this off. Your brain will be fooled into thinking that you and your wife are the most dynamic, sexy, and professional lovers in the world. All you have to do is speak it into existence.

Take a visual vacation from your wife, watch a porno movie, read some dirty magazines, and basically get yourself worked up to a frenzy of testosterone that makes your pants look like a tent. Remember some of the lines, images, specific girls, situations, and fantasies that struck a chord with you. Now comes the fun part. Be sure to do this right, or you might end up with a frying pan smacked across your face. Take the SAME material, share it with your wife and ask her to go through it. She may giggle, give you a raised eyebrow or better yet, say, “Oh that stuff…yeah, it’s OK. Let me show you something REALLY kinky!” The result will be that you two can SAFELY share fantasies and what turns you on. Some people are too shy to do this…LOSERS! Try again with some PG rated chick flick and graduate to some soft porn where you don’t see any penetration. It may take some time to move up to “Debbie Does Dallas” but the road won’t be painful! (Unless you watch THOSE kinds of movies!)

Once you both explore the seedier side of sex it’s time to talk about it. You have two choices here. You can get a bottle of wine, sit out on the porch and discuss why you are so bored with each other and want to join the local swingers group or better yet, take advantage of that bottle of wine, hit the sack and try something new. Below are a few suggestions. For more visit .

  1. Atmosphere, mood, and anticipation. After being married for so many years, I am sure you know exactly how to make her orgasm and your foreplay is about 45 seconds. STOP IT! Try a few fantasies such as:
    1. You are on your first date and you have to be a gentleman, even though you both want to do it.
    2. You are in High School and your parents are in the next room
    3. You pick her up at a bar, bring her home and tell her that you are leaving for the Army tomorrow.
    4. You are NOT her husband, but the pool boy and you must get to your next job.

You get the idea…we watch movies and we insert ourselves into the story all the time. The difference is we keep these thoughts to ourselves. How many times have you fantasized about being James Bond, or Indiana Jones? Well, if you are courageous, get the costume and crack that whip. Other than that, get the tuxedo out, order the martini’s and show her who’s the man. The more foreplay the better.

  1. Taking your love-making to a more naughty level by “talking it up” during intercourse. This can really intensify the fantasy and make your passion stronger. Always start with a compliment about her “wet, soft, delicious pussy” or how much you want to “slide yourself deep into her wetness”. Focusing on her, her beauty, and your desire for her will combine taste, vision, smell, touch with words. You are hitting ALL the senses now. Grunting is OK, but come on, guy! You mastered the English language in grammar school…use it when it counts!
  2. After you have been able to show her what a delicious whore she is (meant in a NICE way) you can graduate to “dangerous” or “off limits” fantasies. Readers of my book know that over 73% of men and 17% of women fantasize about lesbian or bi-sexual acts with women. See the problem here? Those numbers don’t match up! Therefore, you have to use the brain trick to get that fantasy into reality. Next time you are in the heat of passion, you can suggest that next week, you are going to have a surprise for HER. Tell her that a 5’ 2” Asian cunnilingus master is going to join you. Let her know that you will be there to watch, learn and join in appropriately. Focus on HER and how this little tart will show her things that are unimaginable. After she comes for the third time, you will dive into her (your wife) and finish her off. It may be important to let her know that you won’t touch Mei Ling and that she has been there ONLY for your wife (Yeah right). If you run into a road block, just erase that scene, start a new one and enjoy. The really GREAT thing about fantasy land, guys, is that you can create or eliminate a character with a word. Reset the stage and start again.

Have fun with this. Don’t worry about the mistakes you make. Be sure to laugh at the embarrassing moments you share. It’s all good-natured, clean fun that you both will have a ball with. Be creative. Be spontaneous. Be safe and keep it “up.”

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Love Secrets: What Women REALLY want!


What do women want? Let me tell you a secret, my friend, if you think they want Mel Gibson, you’re right. If you think they want Tom Hanks, you’re right, also. You see there is a strange biological pull that women want. Their bodies want a strong, chiseled man that will produce good offspring. Beauty isn’t JUST in the eye of the beholder. Studies have shown that the “George Clooney” look has a better chance of delivering viable offspring better than Woody Allen. Charm, humor and your BMW aside, women’s bodies desire the strongest genetic potential possible to propagate the species. Flash forward to the 21st century. HELLO! They also want us to be nice, listen more, and pick up our underwear. What’s a man to do? Is it possible to be the strong, “take charge” guy AND be a compassionate “boy next door”?


In fact, once you get CLOSE to mastering the psychological AND physiological needs of a female, you will enjoy MORE SEX, stronger relationships, and quite frankly, you will be happier in your life! Here are some tips to make sure you increase your masculinity, without becoming an emasculated, metrosexual, Oprah-fan.

1. Get in shape.For most men, we have traded in the spear and mastodon hunting trips for the PDA and the office. Women STILL respond to our role as provider. The need to provide for our families hasn’t changed. Only the tools that most of us use have. If you are in an office or other non-physical environment, you HAVE to make time to exercise. You should not exercise just to stay healthy. Look into routines and programs that actually make you look good! You only have so much time during the day, so make the most of it. After you shed 80% of that spare tire around your midsection, get a trainer or program to build that upper body look that will make you feel better and show her that if the economy DOES slide any further into the tar pits, that you will be ready to haul that spear at the neighbors dog to provide a decent meal.

2. Read about relationships.I know, I know…studies have shown that 94% of all relationship books are read by women. (and the other 6% male readers are probably gay) It doesn’t matter. If you WANT more sex and you want a more LOVING relationship, take 15 minutes per day and read about what women REALLY want. You will see that security ranks #1 in their brains. That security comes in the form of financial, family, marriage, and overall stability of their life. The more you can understand that, the better you will be able to communicate it to her in thought, deed, and speech. If you don’t have time to read a book, at least read through my blog and pick up my ebook. You will find the distilled version to what THEY want in a relationship and how to use that knowledge to have a better sex life!

3. Make clear decisions. When asked about where you want to go to dinner or where you should go on vacation, instead of saying, “Where would you like, honey” start voicing your opinion. Take charge. Be a man. Show her you have drive, desire, and the ability to be decisive. You aren’t chasing the mastodon, Henry, so at least you can find your way to the Olive Garden restaurant! It is a small thing, my friend, buy you will be surprised at the subtle reaction in your wife by the little bits of leadership you can show.

4. Listen more. “What?” you say. Yes, numbnuts…LISTEN MORE! If you are like most men, you have mastered the art of selective hearing. It’s time to reverse that somewhat. Take a REAL interest in what you wife may be blabbering about. If you show any kind of non-judgmental interest, you will be shocked at the increased level of interest she will have in your life and your libido. Take a few moments, ask her about her day and ask her to tell you more. Do NOT try to solve any issues she has. Just listen. Try not to fall asleep and you may actually get laid more.

5. Balance yourself. As you can see, women DO want the “take charge” chiseled strength of Mel Gibson AND they want the caring, charmer of Tom Hanks. You can be both (to a certain degree). But believe me when I say that you should NOT try to simply be one or the other. All women desire a combination of these two forces and you have the ability to strengthen yourself where you are weak and loosen up where you are too strong. That could mean you’ll have to cry less, work out more or both. In any event, you’ll notice a change in her AFTER you change yourself. There is no other order to this equation. Start today.

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Abstinence=Great Sex?


How can denying a woman sex lead to more and BETTER SEX?

Well, the first step is going to take some time and rewiring of your puny, male brain. You sex drive is nearly always in the “go” position…hers takes some time to warm up. If you have already read my book (And I strongly encourage you to do so!) then you know that no matter how average, sweet, and attractive your wife is, she was probably hotter when she was younger. I didn’t believe it was possible until a few years ago, but my wife is even HOTTER today than when she was 28. She is thinner, dresses sexier, and her sex drive wears me out on a daily basis. This transformation took research, education, and training-on my part! I outlined this process in my book available on my website.

Three weeks before we were married I had the idea of abstaining from sex before our marriage. Now, I don’t mean to say that either of us was a virgin before the honeymoon. However, by pretending to be “innocent” and by not sleeping together at all for 3 weeks before our marriage, I can tell you that our wedding night was memorable. Now, I am sure that most married couples have great sex on the evening of their wedding. It is a magical time and everyone should claim to have had a terrific time. Imagine how much MORE exciting it could have been for them if they would have abstained from any contact for 3 weeks prior to their wedding day? How much sexual tension can you build up in 3 weeks (or 3 days!).

Every anniversary, we do the same ritual…take a break from our lust for a week or two (It is impossible to go for 3 weeks anymore!) and build up our passions and desires. During this time we tease, titilate, and get each other all hot and bothered, but we do not have sex. On the anniversary night we barely make it out of the restaurant! (Don’t ask about what happened on our last wedding anniversary. Needless to say, we are banned from that place forever)

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Housewife by day, Naughty wife by night


When I was dating, there were girls I had great times with, but didn’t bring them home to meet the parents. The girls I DID bring home, were pre-screened as “marriage material.” What does that mean? For most of us, it meant she had what it took to be a supportive spouse, a good mother, and a pillar of the community. Women who fit this description are usually not ex-strippers or biker chicks. After several years of marriage, many of us long for the days of yesteryear. The days of our youth and our wild dates with that slutty cocktail waitress, or a band tramp are most likely great memories, with plenty of excitement.

What if you could train your WIFE to publicly be that adoring wife, but privately be a band groupie or professional escort? (Not for real, but for image purposes) There is a slow and precise method to pulling this off. It takes several weeks to perhaps a few months depending on your wife, her upbringing, sexual desires, and comfort level. Details of this process can be found in my book.

Here are a few first steps:

1. You must let your wife know that you are bored and show her your concern for your marriage. Don’t do anything drastic, just let her know that you realize that your marriage needs to be spiced up. Don’t say that she is boring….only that the marriage needs a jolt.

2. Talk to her candidly about her fantasies, desires, and anything she has thought about but not done. Many women are not very experimental here. If she doesn’t have any, you’ll need to give her some. Get an issue of Cosmopolitan, or some other woman’s magazine that talks about such issues. You can also try a romance novel or sexy movie. (For a list of “sure thing” movies, visit my website)

3. Once she is emotionally and intellectually stimulated, you can move on to satisfying those desires. Take your time and do NOT bring up any of your desires yet. You’ll have to give before you receive so be a good sport and deliver first.

There are dozens of ideas, psychological triggers and moments you can create when you understand what a woman actually wants. Her desire for security and to be “heard” overshadows their sex drive. Be sure to acknowledge those emotional needs first. Once you really tap into that, she’ll recognize that your desire for a secure marriage is important to her and that aspect alone will surely turn her on!

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Don’t Change Wives, Change Positions!


Duh! But it goes WAY beyond missionary to doggy. For anyone who has been married more than a year, even trying a new position every day will eventually expire your creative juices (Pun intended). When it comes to changing positions, you have more than simply your physical variables. Sure you can move this way and that, but what about changing something OTHER than yourselves?  Interested? There are hundreds of ideas, strategies and influential tricks you can use by clicking on my website. For instant success, read on…

Change your pillows. Putting a pillow underneath your wife can deepen your penetration by up to a full 1.5 inches depending on how you measure it, and how she stretches and reacts.

Change your headboard. Headboard…what a dumb idea. What about a footboard! Now, you can get some traction. Do a 180 degree move on your bed and use your headboard or wall as a fixed object to work from. You’ll go deeper, appear stronger and I guarantee everyone will benefit.

Change location. This isn’t as obvious as it seems. Less than 3% of married couples ever get a hotel room in their own home town and fewer still have done it in their own car! Go to the drive-in, or after a great dinner, go to the park, beach, or library! Changing location and bordering on havin sex in public can be extremely thrilling! Don’t forget other areas of you own home including the kitchen, closets and other rooms. Experiment!

Have an affair. People START affairs because of a lack of attention, communication and/or sex. The thrill and danger obviously accelerates the excitement. You can have an affair WITH your spouse by simply taking on a new role, personality or doing it in a local hotel.  It takes some play acting, but who cares? You are married and probably have had plenty of embarrassing moments before. Create a new name, check into a cheap hotel and get out of there in under an hour! Be creative!

Change your pace. If your love-making style resembles a rabbit, try slowing down and moving as SLOWLY as possible. If you traditionally are a gentle lover, mimic the rabbit. The more varied you are in your style, the more interesting you will be to her, and you’ll discover new things about yourself as well.

Change your dress. Rent a tuxedo, uniform, or other outfit and play dress up. Most adults have no imagination and are embarrassed to do things like this. What have you got to lose? Giggle about it, split a bottle of wine, or simply test the waters with a hat or a tool belt. Needless to say, nurses outfits work better on her than you!

For more ideas on putting the spice back into your marriage, and making your wife the smokin’ hot trophy wife of your dreams, visit my site at I guarantee your relationship will be saved, improved, and if you really apply yourself, you will be the adonis she craves and will want every night.