Make Your Wife Hot

What is the culture of a Hot wife?

For many men and women it means a forbidden lifestyle of a married couple allowing and encouraging a wife to take on additional sex partners. For many men (I mean a great many) this is a common fantasy.

For most couples, however, the emotional stress and jealousy is too great for a relationship to survive, let alone thrive. Don’t despair if you have the fetish, but not the open relationship with the wife. There are plenty of role play and fantasy games you can enjoy together to simulate the hot wife experience without the emotional baggage of a third player in the bedroom. In fact, the more you understand and manipulate the emotional and psychological triggers of sexuality, the easier it will be to heighten the stimulation of a cuckold relationship without the baggage or frustrations associated with the introduction of a third party.

For those of you who have the confidence and communication of a full-fledged cuckold situation, congratulations. This article is for the rest of us…those who would love the excitement and passion of seeing our wives with a bull, but lack the compatibility for the agreed upon affair.

Exploring the culture in detail, many forums show the man being dominated by his wife. The dominatrix fantasy is a logical extension of the culture. There is nothing embarrassing about this. However, there are more men who simply enjoy the pornographic experience of seeing their wife with another man, who are not into being dominated by their mistress. For most men with this fantasy, it is simply an extension of pornography. Only this time, their wife is in the movie! (Or live show as it were) Every person, no matter who they are, has specific fantasies and scenarios that create sexual stimulation. Some are common, some are not. Some fantasies are called fetishes and can make the average person raise an eyebrow or shake their head in disgust. However, EVERY person has thought about creative sexual techniques or stimulation.

Be grateful if you and/or your partner can discuss it openly and honestly. You are a rare breed.

If you would like to join our group of free-spirited, honest lovers, and your partner is a bit shy, don’t lose hope. There are specific strategies you can use to travel down this path. How far will your fantasies go? Will you be able to turn them into reality? That will ultimately be up to how well you manipulate the conversations, actions and relationship.

Ultimately, the biggest challenge will be how well you manipulate your own mind.

For the majority of couples, however, jealousy, STD’s and emotional challenges prevent most men and women from living out this fantasy. Here are a few ideas to re-create the culture, mood, and excitement of your own, personal and sexually-charged cuckold relationship.

1. Set the mood for an affair. Creating the right atmosphere is critical in any sexual situation. Candles, music, and atmosphere do more to turn us on then words which are temporary. With the right mood, a couple can become aroused and stay aroused longer. Find out what scents turn your partner on and use them sparingly. If your fantasy takes place in a crowded bar or seedy hotel, go there. Nothing sets the mood and re-creates the fantasy better than a well dressed set. Like James Cameron did for the filming of the Titanic, build the perfect set for your affair. You don’t have to be an Oscar-nominated actor to get in the spirit of things!
2. Create the PERFECT partner. The fantasy of another man with your wife can be both her fantasy and yours. Chances are one of you may be embarrassed to admit being attracted to another type of person. It’s OK. Nobody can be everything to anyone. So you married a blonde…of course you want an affair with a brunette. Variety is the spice of life! My wife is crazy for accents so find out what country or accent turns your wife on and practices it. The better job you do of recreating her “mystery” lover, the more realistic your fantasy will seem to the both of you.
3. Be courageous. You are probably experimenting with some new stuff here. Of course you are going to make some mistakes, say the wrong thing or embarrass yourself. Get over it! Practice makes perfect. You are already married and have had embarrassing moments before. Just make them all in private in case one of your fantasies is sex in public places. You’ll want to get that right the first time, just in case it is your last!
4. Be forgiving of yourself and each other. I am assuming that the hot wife culture appeals to only one of you. (If it appeals to both of you, be safe and smart about your emotions and health) Since this topic is rife with jealousy, be sure to discuss it outside of the bedroom when the time is right. My wife and I had to see a few movies and have some calm discussions about sexuality before she was comfortable bringing our “fantasy man” into the bedroom. In her mind, if the roles were reversed (And they were sometimes!) she wanted to be the #1 girl. I understood completely and always talked up our bi-sexual fantasy girl as the warm up person. Sure, she would play with both of us during intercourse, but I always dismissed her after a while and focused on my wife. The same is true for her fantasy man.  Be respectful and forgiving of your partner during this time of discovery.

In conclusion, don’t be embarrassed about the hot wife culture. It is a very common fantasy and one that can be explored safely with the two of you. In fact, there are many advantages to keeping this fantasy a fantasy! With an imaginary playmate there is no uncomfortable moments of Q and A. There is no jealousy. The fantasy person can instantly teleport into and out of our bedroom whenever we want and neither of us can catch an STD!

Wonderful!

If you and your wife are both prepared to take it out of the world of fantasy and into the real world, have plenty of discussions and go ahead and role play it out a few times before you do it for real. Like test pilots flying simulators, you’ll cover some of the issues, but not all of them! For more ideas, strategies and tactics for creating a smokin’ hot wife, visit http://www.makeyourwifehot.com today!

This headline STINKS!  Just because I’m a guy I can’t “improve”? Just because my solution to her comment that, “We don’t talk enough”  is my, “I think more oral sex will work”  I am shunned from my wife….well, uhm…yeah!

Men are really simple creatures. Women are not. (At least that is what men THINK) In reality, both genders are very simple, If we study human history and biology we can solve half of the equation of mis-communication between us.

From an anthropological and historical sense, men are the providers. We used our strength to “kill mastodon…bring back to cave…make more people”.

Our female counter parts spent millions of years nurturing and caring for the young. It is only in the past 100 years or so that these roles have merged, crossed over and otherwise co-mingled. Think about the time line. 100 years divided by 1 million years of evolution is 1/10,000. That’s like being told for 50 years that the world is flat, you lived it, you breathed it, your parents were both told that, etc. and then in less than a second it all changed. The earth has always been round, don’t you see?

Men produce billions of sperm per year. Why? In order to propogate the species, of course! Women prepare 1 egg per month…hmmm….I’m no math genius, but isn’t there something wrong here? Yes, I know that many of our guys can’t swim, some are warrior sperm designed to attack and kill other guys sperm. But, the fact remains that men can reproduce into their 70’s, women peak late 40’s/early 50’s and our urge to reproduce at all costs is why our species proliferates the planet.

Now, all of a sudden women tell us we have to search our feelings? UH, my feelings are centrally located in my pants, my dear. It’s not my fault. Blame evolution, God, or that last Mastodon kill that made me feel so virile!

In all seriousness, we CAN talk, share our feelings and connect with women. It’s just not that easy to accomplish. And for that we can blame the media, our fathers, and anyone else who has uttered the words:

• “Be a man.”
• “Suck it up.”
• “Semper Fi”
• “There’s no crying in baseball!”

The list goes on and on. Men are conditioned from a very early age not to cry, express their feelings, or shed any emotion. Is that evolution or environmental conditioning? Probably both, My Fair Lady. (Or “Trading Places” if you are into 80’s movies)

So in order for us to relate emotionally vs. physically and if a woman wants us to express our inner feelings we have to take a break from our manliness and listen.  If you are a woman and you desire a deeper connection or simply wants to avoid arguments, the simplest strategy is to be attentive to our needs, relax, and don’t ask, (at least not directly) “how we feel.” That is a chick question and we seriously don’t know how to answer it. Sorry. We CAN improve our communication, however. It takes patience and a bit of manipulation on your part (Shouldn’t be a problem-right?) Since men are visual and pretty much walking hard on’s, appeal to that aspect of ourselves and you can pry all the information you want out of us. Professional spies have done this for years. You can too! You don’t have to even feel guilty about it. I am not suggesting sleeping with the enemy, here. I am suggesting being that incredibly hot girlfriend you were when he met you! You once were. Perhaps 12 years of marriage, 2.5 kids, a mortgage, sleepless nights, and piano recitals have made you both forget what it was like to be boyfriend/girlfriend and date each other. Since you are smarter than he is, go ahead and start. Put on your sexiest outfit, kidnap him after work, go to a cheap hotel, and rock his world. Don’t even try to tell me that won’t affect him in a positive sense!

Guys, if you REALLY want to have sex with a smokin’ hot MILF and be sore every other day, you HAVE to learn the skills of communicating on a deep, emotional level with your woman. It isn’t as simple as saying, “I really love you” or “You are everything to me.” Words are a great start. But women are smarter than us, of course. You need to increase your emotional strength and communication.

Bottom line is, you have to lead.

My book, Make Your Wife Hot, has been reported to have a chauvinist title. DUH! Of course! It is oriented to men. However, I am not afraid to admit this, guys…my wife and I co-wrote it. Clearly 1/2 of the content is emotionally-based strategy and tactics that women clearly want and need.

In fact, we surveyed and polled nearly one hundred couples and women to come up with the essence of sex in a relationship, from a woman’s perspective. We did this because (generally speaking) guys want more sex.

Actually, women do too. They just call it love. Men crave sex in order to “feel” love and woman crave love in order to have sex. It’s simple but so many men get the order wrong. They think that their sexual prowess in the bedroom will make a woman swoon and be loyal to them forever. BUZZ! WRONG! If that were true, you wouldn’t see so many average looking guys with smokin’ hot wives. (The opposite is rarely true-sorry ladies)

Women crave security. This security can come in many forms from financial, spiritual, emotional, physical, etc. Going back to the Mastodon example, as long as Thor brought back enough meat to feed the little ones, life was bliss (or at least survivable). Now that supermarkets are in vogue, financial security has largely replaced brute strength. That’s why rich-middle aged male celebrities often end up with supermodels.

NOTE: If you are a middle aged woman threatened by that statement then you DEFINITELY need to read my ebook. You have more experience, sex appeal and confidence than any supermodel…your hubby knows it. Reading my book and applying the principles will make him yours-forever.

So, guys, do yourself a favor. Start reading an occassional self-improvement book or relationship book. You will understand that women aren’t really that complex. She will shower you with sex (and love) every time she catches you reading that book, listening to her talk or sees you picking up your underwear. All of these activities are a turn on in some fashion. DO IT!

For more ideas, strategies and tactics on creating a sexually-charged relationship for life, visit www.makeyourwifehot.com.

After 20+ years of marriage, you would be foolish to think that things wouldn’t get stale. In order to keep your love, lust and laughter alive, you have to proactively seek out new and exciting things to do with and TO each other! Having sex in different and/or unusual places is just one thing that can do the trick. Here are a few places my wife and I have done the deed. Feel free to add to this list! (Comments welcome) If you want to make them private, visit my website and email them to me. Here we go:

• Walk-in closet on the floor or standing up
• Kitchen Counter top (against it AND on it)
• Front seat of car (in driveway or on the highway going 70)
• Kids room (weird, keep the lights off)
• In the dark room, processing pictures (before digital cameras, I know)
• On the beach (watch out for that sand…why do you think they call it sandpaper!)
• In the ocean (Bouncing is easier with the buoyancy of the water!)
• In the hot tub (heat will tire you out quicker)
• On the windowsill (6 inches of ledge was all I needed for that tight little ass)
• In the pool (Great compromise between hot tub and ocean)
• On the couch downstairs with the kids upstairs
• In the bathroom (Mirrors can come in handy)
• On an airplane (Officially it was a blow job, red eye under a blanket)
• On the deck in the back yard (after a great barbecue with neighbors)
• In the bathroom at a friend’s party (No really…we didn’t want to get caught)
• On my desk in the office (I am the boss, so no fear of disgrace
• In my chair at the office (Before I was the boss, so the fear of discovery was exciting!)
• In the stall of a bathroom (A very clean one!)
• In the dressing room at Nordstrom’s (Quickie!)
• On a motor boat while underway (Make sure you trust the captain)

I will save the details of these locations, logistics, and crazy stories for more blog entries. For the slightly shy, there are steps you can take to prevent embarrassment. For the outgoing, there are steps you can take to embrace the danger and laugh at the situations you create at a later time. All in all, it is ALWAYS fun and exciting to try new things! For more ideas, advice and tips, visit my website at www.makeyourwifehot.com.

I went out with my wife and 3 of her hot friends last night and OMG what a rush!

Normally, the emotion of jealousy is negative and drives a wedge between 2 people. Tempers flair, people judge and we end up acting like little Johnny on the 5th grade playground.

However, there is a way to USE the emotion of jealousy to your advantage. Last night I did JUST that! Don’t worry, I told my wife exactly what I was doing before I did it. To the emotional side of our brain, it didn’t matter. We had a great time. Here’s how it worked…

The male ego would love a harem. Think a sheik and 23 dancing girls in his tent. That guy might have 12 wives and STILL he gets 23 dancing girls…ah the good old days. This boosts our ego and if women were not so independent nowadays, we still might be able to get away with that!

From a female perspective, she wants to know that SHE is the most desireable and sexiest woman in the world to her man. Some overly jealous women can’t bare the thought of their guy looking at other girls. I use that undeniable quality to increase the love with my wife and the passion of that love.

Before we went to the club with my wife and her three hot friends, I told her about my fantasy of going out with 3 hot women, dancing, drinking, and then all of us coming back to our hotel suite. We would party some more and ALL the girls would be giddy and a little bit “handsy”. After a few minutes of harmless teasing, I would look her friends in the eye and say, “You are lovely, but I really need to fuck my wife now.”

This fantasy accomplishes a huge ego boost for the both of us. I get the harem that I always desired and she is selected as the ONLY one from a flock of very desirable women. She is the prettiest, the best, and the one I love. This ONLY works, of course, with complete honesty and communication. The stage must be set with the right players, the actors must know the script, and even though we all know it is a show, we are turned on nonetheless.

For more ideas, stories, and strategies to make your wife the red-hot MILF she can be, go to www.makeyourwifehot.com. Your fantasies can come true. But, you have to plan them out, prepare the players, and not be afraid to make any mistakes (because you probably will-that’s half the fun!)

Sometimes the smallest thing can make the BIGGEST difference. Last night as I pounded my wife, I did a 180 degree turn, put my feet on the headboard and pounded her so hard she screamed in pain.

This is very different from the normal position that gave her a headache when, during intercourse, she banged HER head on the headboard and nearly had a concussion.

It is not technically in the Kama Sutra manual, but using your headboard (or just the wall, Felix!) to gain some extra traction can make your Johnson seem an extra inch or two in length. You’ll probably have to re-adjust each other a few inches towards the wall every so often, as the sliding affect will normally push you both away from the traction you achieve by this technique.

For an extra bit of support, try a pillow under her ass during this method. It’s an age-old trick for smaller guys, but it will make all you average guys out there have sexual intercourse like a porn star!

Well, it’s 4:30 AM and I hear her soft moans of desire calling me back…for more details on how to make your wife incredibly hot, sexy, and horny visit www.makeyourwifehot.com and I will throw in a couple of FREE reports for you. Visit my other blog entries as well. There are stories, techniques, and commentary here that is not in the book and definitely worth the read.

We get stimulated 90% from what we see and 10% from what we hear. Why then do you leave the lights off, Felix?

Sure it FEELS good to have sex, but watching you and your partner do the deed certainly adds to the excitement (provided you are both in decent shape! If one or both of you are not, click here to correct the situation) One technique of sex named by somebody with too much time on their hands, is the Hawaiian muscle fuck. This technique is when the man slides his penis between the woman’s boobs.

Men are obsessed with breasts. The multi-billion dollar plastic surgery industry is supported largely by breast implants. If you live in California or South Florida, you can probably say that implants are now MORE common than natural breasts…modern medicine, what a miracle! The Hawaiian Muscle Fuck (HMF for short) is a great way to share with your partner her magnificent achievement and to get an extra dividend from the five grand you invested in those cannons. HER extra stimulation is going to be when she watches you slide your member between those melons and cum all over her chest (and hit her chin if you’ve got the range). This visual stimulation certainly adds to the pleasure for both of you. It allows you a change of scenery from your typical missionary and doggie positions and if you are real artist, you can even add some colored lube and paint a path to victory on her chest.

What if your girl isn’t so endowed? What’s a guy to do?

First choice; Start saving up for a breast job. There are some small framed women who look pretty good with average sized boobs. However, in all of recorded history, no one has ever said, “Gee your breast job looks bad. You were much prettier with a smaller chest.” That is not to say some women have breasts large enough to make Jabba the Hut attractive, we are referring to small chested women who are interested in the HMF technique. Strategy number one, get a breast job. You will both learn to appreciate modern medicine.

If a breast job is not an option for financial, ego, or stupidity, then you are not out of the game, Dexter! Just follow the following game plan.

1. Get plenty of lubrication. You’ll be needing it.
2. COMPLIMENT your woman on her breasts. You’ve already made her feel bad about the breast job idea for the past 2 years. If that option is off the table, you have to start over with building her up with what she’s got.
3. ACT like her breasts are huge. Give her auditory support (since she may not need underwire support) of her beauty. Pay specific attention to her chest and stare at them often.
4. Once you get started, you may find that the lack of cleavage won’t be enough to bring you to orgasm. Play around with the rest of the field. Add some oral, traditional sex, dirty talk, and advanced foreplay to the mix.
5. When you are about to orgasm, be SURE to go to the HMF and finish off there. She will really dig the visual of you pumping your load onto her. She will most likely spread it around like she’s icing a cake…that’s fine. Just be sure to clean her up when you’re done. It’s a nice gesture and she’ll think you are a prince.

For more in depth ideas on making your wife hot, having steamy sex, revitalizing your marriage, and creating the relationship of your dreams, visit www.makeyourwifehot.com.  

I read a story today about a mistress who shot her lover…nothing new right? Well…the story is compelling for many reasons, primary of which is how STUPID guys are!!! Read the short AP story here and follow my commentary and how YOU, dear reader, can get the girl, have hot sex, and not end up broke, dead, or worse…humiliated!

Here’s the direct link:

http://www.google.com/hostednews/ap/article/ALeqM5gpqcE6O8-Ft3K8r3N5mOoFO2R_5gD98RA91O0

Don’t read further without reading the story above…my comments won’t make sense without the background.

Here are a 3 quick tips on having an affair:

1. Don’t promise to marry your mistress…ever. Even if you are passionately in love with her, 90% of the time, you’ll change your mind. More likely, you’ll probably be MORE excited if she stayed your mistress-right? Most guys FAIL at dating their wives and they end up with the “excitement” of an affair and mistress. Be honest…but not too honest, otherwise you can bet your latex suit you’ll get shot by that temptress!

2. Never role play where you get tied up and leave a loaded gun in the drawer. This is really Darwin at work! HELLO? We’ll cover the dominatrix stuff later, but geez…leaving a gun around during this type of action is not smart. I am not even going to talk about David Carradine.

3. Putting $1 million in a bank account for your mistress is OK as long as you don’t ask for it back. That really tends to irriate people, especially women. If you set up a slush fund for your tawdry affair, just make it a monthly deposit. There is an old saying that we shouldn’t gamble with anything you aren’t prepared to lose.

There are more reasonable and wickedly exciting ideas available on my blog and website at www.makeyourwifehot.com. Take a peek…who knows, you may learn something that will not only get you off more often, but it could even save your life.

Hey guys, if you want to save $12 AND get your wife to be the nympho that you desire check this out!

Take her out to dinner-TONIGHT! Don’t wait for a special occasion. Don’t plan out some romantic getaway. When you both get home, regardless of what you have planned, tell her that you have something SPECIAL for her and that you have to get out….NOW!

The urgency and anticipation of the secret will drive her crazy. Surprises are always welcome and your ability to “build up”‘ the anticipation is critical. If you need to get a sitter, do that in advance of course. Other than reservations, don’t plan out a thing. Make it as spontaneous for you as it will be for her. Surprises, attention, and security are all emotions that create a passionate relationship and WILL turn an average wife into a smokin’ hot MILF extrodinaire. How do I know? Because I did it! For details click here.

Go to a decent restaurant and DO THE FOLLOWING:

1. Slide her chair back for her and make sure she is seated comfortably.

2. Ask her what she is in the mood for, but be sure to order for her.

3. During dinner stare at her and compliment her on how ravishing she is.

4. When it is time for dessert, ask for it “to go”. Get something that is creamy, smooth and that you both enjoy.

5. If the kids are awake and up and about, DO NOT GO HOME! Drive immediately to the closest hotel in the area (nothing too sleezy). Don’t make reservations and don’t waste time bickering on price. You are only there for a few hours anyway.

6. Once you check in, get the dessert out, slowly undress her, and move her closer to the bed. As you both lie down, get out your desert, and gently apply it to all the areas of her body you want to kiss, touch, and eat. Don’t just paste the obvious areas, champ. Try her belly, arms, neck and legs. Don’t worry. You’ll get to the more sensitive areas in a while. The idea is to make it an experience.

Enjoy your meal, enjoy your desert, enjoy your wife, and enjoy a fulfilling, passionate, and sensual evening. For more ideas, strategies, and techniques that are guaranteed to make your wife hot, visit www.makeyourwifehot.com.

What do women want? Let me tell you a secret, my friend, if you think they want Mel Gibson, you’re right. If you think they want Tom Hanks, you’re right, also. You see there is a strange biological pull that women want. Their bodies want a strong, chiseled man that will produce good offspring. Beauty isn’t JUST in the eye of the beholder. Studies have shown that the “George Clooney” look has a better chance of delivering viable offspring better than Woody Allen. Charm, humor and your BMW aside, women’s bodies desire the strongest genetic potential possible to propagate the species. Flash forward to the 21st century. HELLO! They also want us to be nice, listen more, and pick up our underwear. What’s a man to do? Is it possible to be the strong, “take charge” guy AND be a compassionate “boy next door”?

YES.

In fact, once you get CLOSE to mastering the psychological AND physiological needs of a female, you will enjoy MORE SEX, stronger relationships, and quite frankly, you will be happier in your life! Here are some tips to make sure you increase your masculinity, without becoming an emasculated, metrosexual, Oprah-fan.

1. Get in shape.For most men, we have traded in the spear and mastodon hunting trips for the PDA and the office. Women STILL respond to our role as provider. The need to provide for our families hasn’t changed. Only the tools that most of us use have. If you are in an office or other non-physical environment, you HAVE to make time to exercise. You should not exercise just to stay healthy. Look into routines and programs that actually make you look good! You only have so much time during the day, so make the most of it. After you shed 80% of that spare tire around your midsection, get a trainer or program to build that upper body look that will make you feel better and show her that if the economy DOES slide any further into the tar pits, that you will be ready to haul that spear at the neighbors dog to provide a decent meal.

2. Read about relationships.I know, I know…studies have shown that 94% of all relationship books are read by women. (and the other 6% male readers are probably gay) It doesn’t matter. If you WANT more sex and you want a more LOVING relationship, take 15 minutes per day and read about what women REALLY want. You will see that security ranks #1 in their brains. That security comes in the form of financial, family, marriage, and overall stability of their life. The more you can understand that, the better you will be able to communicate it to her in thought, deed, and speech. If you don’t have time to read a book, at least read through my blog and pick up my ebook. You will find the distilled version to what THEY want in a relationship and how to use that knowledge to have a better sex life!

3. Make clear decisions. When asked about where you want to go to dinner or where you should go on vacation, instead of saying, “Where would you like, honey” start voicing your opinion. Take charge. Be a man. Show her you have drive, desire, and the ability to be decisive. You aren’t chasing the mastodon, Henry, so at least you can find your way to the Olive Garden restaurant! It is a small thing, my friend, buy you will be surprised at the subtle reaction in your wife by the little bits of leadership you can show.

4. Listen more. “What?” you say. Yes, numbnuts…LISTEN MORE! If you are like most men, you have mastered the art of selective hearing. It’s time to reverse that somewhat. Take a REAL interest in what you wife may be blabbering about. If you show any kind of non-judgmental interest, you will be shocked at the increased level of interest she will have in your life and your libido. Take a few moments, ask her about her day and ask her to tell you more. Do NOT try to solve any issues she has. Just listen. Try not to fall asleep and you may actually get laid more.

5. Balance yourself. As you can see, women DO want the “take charge” chiseled strength of Mel Gibson AND they want the caring, charmer of Tom Hanks. You can be both (to a certain degree). But believe me when I say that you should NOT try to simply be one or the other. All women desire a combination of these two forces and you have the ability to strengthen yourself where you are weak and loosen up where you are too strong. That could mean you’ll have to cry less, work out more or both. In any event, you’ll notice a change in her AFTER you change yourself. There is no other order to this equation. Start today.

For more ideas on making YOUR wife hot, getting more love, sex, and enjoyment in your marriage, visit www.makeyourwifehot.com and order by ebook. Ladies (if you’ve read this far) we have a companion book for you coming out this summer, so stay tuned!