My wife called me yesterday. She said she would be working late and not coming home until after 9 PM. I was disappointed for a moment, but learned to take these setbacks as opportunities to create some bonus time for me…work or play? Decisions, decisions…

I decided to surprise her with some pampering when she came home. I thought that I would be the one to spoil her after a hard day at work. I became excited about the sexual rewards we would both share after I treated her to some delicious appetizers, a sponge bath and foot massage. The atmosphere would be perfect. I had it all planned out. I would have a good 2 hours to plan and prepare this surprise for her. She would be putty in my hands.

The surprise was all on me.

About 2 hours BEFORE she said she was going to be home, her car pulled in the driveway. Wait a minute! What happened? I wasn’t ready!!! I looked at the car and saw a BLONDE woman driving her car! (My wife’s a brunette) Did she loan her car to a friend? I didn’t know what to think…

Before my mind could reconcile the disconnect between the mystery driver and her car, this absolute bombshell walked into our home with a short skirt, heels and a European accent, she said, “My name is Natasha…your wife sent me.”

My jaw hit the floor and I didn’t know what to do. Double whammy. Before I realized what was happening, this Russian concubine was in my lap and whispering into my ear, “You wife should be here in 2 hours…what should we do in the meantime?”

I said I was 100% loyal and that NOTHING inappropriate would be happening even though the stirring in my pants said otherwise. She slowly gyrated her pelvis in my lap and unzipped her dress. What a dress! The zipper started in the front and wound around to her side in a sexy spiral.

I couldn’t move.

Her breasts were full, round and her nipples protruded like bullets. Her mouth grazed my lips and I was fully hard and unable to stop her advances. She unzipped my pants and those soft full lips moved down from my belly to my cock. I was nervous, excited and physically unable to move away or push her off. It was electric.

After she sucked me fully, I grabbed her soft round bottom and pulled her onto the sofa.

Her moans told me the next hour was going to be unlike anything I have ever experienced. Her lovemaking was strangely familiar to what I was used to. Her demeanor, hair and accent completely foreign. My excitement of this “mail order” affair was like nothing I had ever experienced. She wanted me and my wife had allegedly ordered this concubine.

Did she?

Yes.

How did I know? After about 45 minutes of slow, passionate sex, that blonde wig came off and the accent dissolved away to reveal my sexy bride who turned the tables on me. Of course I knew it was her the moment she came in the room, but the fantasy was complete and I had a guiltless affair. My bride had given ME the surprise of my life!

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There aren’t many icons out there as recognizable as the bunny with the bow tie. The playboy logo has been around for decades and continues to be a thriving brand as it moved from magazines, to online to reality shows.

As a married guy, what can you learn from Playboy?
Doesn’t the little woman get jealous seeing you going ‘ga-ga’ over girls that are young enough to be your daughters?

Well, yeah! As my wife aged the playboy bunnies seemed to some how become younger and their breasts continue to grow! Does this threaten my wife. It used to.

Women tend to personify themselves when men’s eyes stray. The feeling they have in their heart is “I am not good enough”. This creates jealousy and that emotion manifests itself in many evil ways including cutting you off from sex, giving you the cold shoulder or worse, telling you to clean the gutters when “The Girls Next Door” is on television.

There is a simple solution to this challenge.

First of all, you have to bridge the gap between sexuality and love. Men are visual and I’m sorry, but those models are hot. Even a smokin’ hot 40 year old wife can’t always compete with a 19 year old hard body. The message you must convey to your wife is that these images are nothing more than visual stimuli. The image in a video or magazine is no different than a harlequin novel or a fantasy you have with her. The difference is that they LOOK like real people. Remind her that they are not.

When you separate sexual stimulation from love at this level, your wife can begin to realize that we ALL need or want passion and that getting a little help from a sex toy, magazine or video is simply an accessory to love, not a competing image of desire.

Additionally, by encouraging your wife to do the same levels the playing field. My wife is totally turned on by a few foreign accents. My role play as a foreign diplomat isn’t close to Oscar material, but is is sufficient to create an “Affair to Remember” in her mind’s eye.

So go ahead, renew or subscribe today.

Click on the magazine image on the right.

You owe it to yourself AND your relationship to spice it up, make it exciting, and create the sexually-charged passion you BOTH desire.

Share the jokes, articles and visual pleasing images WITH your wife. By including her in your thoughts she won’t see your interest as competition, merely a way to spice things up, keep them interesting and bring your passion to new heights and your intimacy closer.

HA! Who’s not heard that phrase before?

If you’ve been married for more than a few years the odds are pretty good that you’ve either said it, had your spouse say it to you or one of you has thought it without saying it!

What do you DO with information like this? What can you do? What SHOULD you do? It doesn’t matter if you are saying it or hearing it, you cannot go on like this. Time to take some action, champ!

If you are the one who’s saying it; here’s some advice.

Love has several incarnations and even phases in life. The first form of love is those butterflies in your stomach (or bulge in your pants) that make you crazy. You may lose focus on other things, you are giddy, and you basically can’t keep your hands off of each other. “Puppy love” and newlyweds are only separated by age and experience. The feeling of love is intoxicating.

This single characteristic of love, by its very nature, changes over time.

This is not to say that you cannot resurrect those butterflies after 20 years of marriage-you can. However, when it was an effortless act when you first dated, it takes some purposeful thought and habits to keep the love alive.

When someone says, “I love you but I’m not in love with you” your mission is to NOT take it personally. The worst thing you can do is to blame you, your spouse or the economy. The proper response is not to blame, but to take this opportunity to INCREASE your communication, intimacy and chemistry with one another.

Creating feelings of euphoria, excitement and lust are feelings that CAN be created with 1/2 cup of psychology,  2 teaspoons of empathy, a cup of creativity, and a dash of courage.

1. Psychology: Understanding love and “in love” and developing a plan to bring those two ideas together is step one. I will be spending over 1/2 of the time at our Sex Workshop pulling those concepts together in order to increase the quantity and intensity of a couples sexual time together.  I guarantee the day or two you invest in Las Vegas will be worth 100X the investment. Our last workshop was a TOTALLY HOT success. We’ll do another one early in 2010.

2. Empathy: While empathy is an emotion normally reserved for grieving people, I use it here as a specific tool to create or restore a connection between two people. The more you empathize with your spouse, the more you manifest some very important qualities. You open up YOUR heart to his/her desires, pains, frustrations and needs. When you open up to another person-Shazam! They do the same for you! It must be sincere and you must listen more than you talk. That is empathy. It can bring you closer together emotionally and can translate into more intimacy and sex.

3. Creativity: Let’s face it, just because you KNOW how to make her cum, doesn’t mean you need to use that SAME technique the rest of her life! All human beings crave new experiences and discovery. The journey can be just as exciting as the destination (Sometimes MORE exciting!) so get out the porno, velvet handcuffs and play. You may create a few embarrassing moments with your experimentation; so what! You’ve been married for a while, you’ve seen each other naked for years. What’s wrong with spilling the chocolate sauce on her navel, only to realize in the dim lights that it is salsa? Get out the chips and have a party!

4. Courage: Naturally, when a couple has hit a crossroad and realizes their sex live, love and relationship is sliding down, ignoring it won’t make it better. Having the courage to talk-really talk about it and the courage to TRY different things is the main quality you need.

It may hurt to experiment with the dominatrix kit you got for Valentines Day, but it never hurts to talk about your relationship as long as you are open, honest and don’t take any of your spouse’s thoughts personally. Remember, if you aren’t happy, chances are neither is your spouse. You both have some changes to make if you want to be in love again.

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The internet has replaced our imaginations with stories of intrigue, romance and forbidden sexual encounters with clear an unambiguous imagery. Years ago, naughty stories and movies that left something to the imagination gave all of us a different view of the same scenario.

When people watch movies, they often project themselves into the character. “What would I do if I was them…” and things like that. How often have you expressed anger when a character in a horror movie deliberately walks into that dark house instead of simply going to the neighbors and call the police!

My wife and I enjoy watching porn every once in a while, but what REALLY gets both of us off are detailed stories about things that have happened to us in the past. Embellishing real events brings a reality to the fantasy that can drive anyone wild. Instead of projecting ourselves into a fictional character, my wife and I take TRUE incidents that have happened to us and twist the facts, names, and places around slightly. When we reveal these stories as part of our foreplay, the sparks ignite and we find ourselves totally in the moment. My wife are totally commited to creating crazy, passionate sex life for ourselves and love teaching others how to do the same. Click here for a copy of our book.

Recently, my wife told me a story about a long trip on an airplane years ago when our marriage was on the rocks. Enjoy…

It was going to be a long flight and I wasn’t tired. In fact, I was a bit annoyed, having just left home and totally ticked that my husband didn’t take me to the airport and didn’t even kiss me goodbye…things aren’t so good at home. In fact, I often have visions of leaving him…or killing him!

I checked through the gate without much of a delay and boarded the plane on time. Like most flights, the people around me were a mixed bag…families, singles, young and old. Normally, I get some non-descript ordinary person sitting next to me. I am not one for much conversation and since this was a night flight, I actually PLANNED on not even saying hello to whoever sat next to me.

Then he sits down next to me…OMG.

As much as I tried NOT to pay attention, it was impossible not to stare at the man who sat next to me….Mr. Charm. He was young, handsome, chiseled, strong, firm and a smile that could melt the anger and resentment of anyone.

What a dish. If only…No. I shouldn’t think those things. I should catch some sleep like I planned. As much as I tried to settle in and sleep, I couldn’t. Instantly these crazy, ridiculous fantasies explode into my head. What was wrong with me?! I don’t ever have fantasies about strangers! This is stupid…Close your eyes, Chris. Get some sleep.

It doesn’t work.

He notices I am fitful and starts the conversation with that wry little smile that nearly make me instantly wet. We chat a little and he is so full of life and happiness (unlike Mr. Cynical at home). He flirts a little bit in the conversation, but I brush it off. The more we talk, the more I am captivated by that smile and those tightly toned biceps. Why am I having these thoughts?! It is SO wrong.

How can a 20-something man be so gracious and interested in me? He asks me about my life, my goals and dreams. I have never sat so close to someone with so much…I don’t know…charisma. When he asks a question about me it doesn’t come off as conversational or casual. When he asks, the blue-steel eyes of his seem to pierce right through the normal defenses we put up talking to strangers. The connection is instant and unmistakable. Weird.

I ask him about his home, his life, and what he is doing. I figured he was a personal trainer or beach bum. “Consultant”, he replies. Oh, one of those. “Telling people what they already know and charging them for doing it,” I blurt out loud. He laughs with a burst of happiness, “Exactly! Those non-profits waste so much money and every time I save them a few million here or there, sure I get paid a great fee, but I am also reminded of all the REAL good I am doing! When the Cystic Fibrosis charity reduced their overhead by over $2 million last year, that money went straight into more research. I feel as though I donated $2 million.”

I instantly adored this guy.

When the conversation drew to a close, we seemed to know everything about each other, including little bits of our past. What tantalized me the most was his energy and enthusiasm for the future. He was hypnotic. He was bright. He was…oh…incredibly sexy.

The conversation ended casually and naturally and I thought that I drifted off to sleep. The transition to dreamland was fuzzy because I was STILL in my seat sleeping! Normally when I dream I am in high school and freaking out because I didn’t study for a test. This dream was so real! Maybe it wasn’t a dream at all? Perhaps the 2 cocktails, red-eye flight and connection with this guy put me in a new zone. I have no idea. My head slowly falls onto his shoulder, he doesn’t lift it or shrug it off, but gently turns my head to face his and give me the softest, sweetest kiss in the world.

I don’t resist.

We start making out! Is it a dream or is it real? His hand slides across my thigh and I feel the wetness start to flow inside my body. The kissing becomes more passionate and the breathing a little heavier. We readjust the blanket so my legs slowly slide apart. His hand doesn’t go up my thigh, but he keeps teasing me with his caress. I SO want him to finger me, but he won’t do it.

His kissing stops and he looks into my eyes…No…He looks into my lustful heart, locks onto my eyes, stares, saying nothing, just stares and cracks that dreamy smile. We both want more and don’t know if we should risk a trip to the washroom in back of the plane. My nervousness is mostly subsided because I still don’t know if this is a dream or reality.

We kiss some more and wraps his hand around my waist, pulling me close to his body. The heat and tingle of my inside is screaming for him to touch me. His hand gently glides up my leg and he deftly moves around my panties and stimulates my clit. OMG. This is SO WRONG! Why does it feel SO good? I haven’t had and orgasm in over 3 years! I am about to climax and he stops…I grab his hand and whisper in his ear, “Start what you finished, buster.” He does some double finger stimulation and somehow manages to roll one finger around my clit while pressing on my G spot with another. I shudder, moan softly and have the longest, deepest orgasm of my life. I fear the noises I am making will wake the other passengers or alert the flight attendant. I can’t control myself. The fantasy is real! I am totally into this guy and the feelings he has awakened inside of my heart and my body.

OMG…it rolls into a second orgasm and I want to grab his cock and have him slam it inside of my body. The craving is uncontrollable. As I roll down from the 2nd orgasm, I reach for his package and he holds my hand, kisses my ear and whispers, “This is only for you.” I think to myself, “Well, THAT is for me, too!” and move my hand to his pants. He resists and holds onto my hand, preventing me from unzipping his pants. I read his body language, stop my advance to his love stick and enjoy the afterglow of my double orgasm. His firm strong arm still gently lying across my body, light as a feather, but strong enough to hurl an anvil.

What have I done? Why don’t I feel guilty? Is this a dream or did it really happen? I don’t have feelings of confusion, just curiosity and warmth. The warmth of a chance encounter with a guy who has the body of a Chippendale dancer and a George Clooney smile and charm….Wow.

A few minutes later, I enter that realm of sleep/awake where you don’t know what is real or what isn’t. Did I have a wet dream? Did we actually do it? Did I join the mile high club? My blanket is still on me, I am definitely wet. I turn my head to look at this man and he is asleep…fast asleep. Oh…must have been a dream.

After I relax, adjust myself and start to pick up a magazine, I steal another glance at him and see that half-crooked smile appear across his lips…hmmm.

Chris Steponin

http://www.makeyourwifehot.com

If you want your wife or girlfriend to dress sexy, it is definitely THE season to plant the right seeds to get her to feel sexy, dress sexy, act sexy and give you more sexy…(Thanks Borat)

With Halloween fast approaching, now is the PERFECT time to get a shy or reluctant woman to see what it feels like to put on your fantasy outfit. Keep in mind the bottom line for any woman is that deep down inside, she wants to feel sexy. Weight, age, gravity and the economy are all great excuses for not wanting to dress sexy or naughty…forget about it! You are a man and you LIKE sexy outfits! Don’t let her embarrassment or shyness hinder your fantasy! Below are a few tips to insure you don’t push the idea too hard or too fast.

• Don’t start out by buying the French Maid outfit and expect her to be your personal love slave. Most women need to feel valued before they can let their hair down or be your personal whore.
• Use the upcoming Halloween holiday to introduce a non-threatening character or image. Short, personal and quiet hints as to what HER fantasy is a great start.
• Go online and look around at the different options available. Many of the costumes are modeled by 6′ 2″ woman who weigh 92 pounds. She will see that. Remind her that no matter what her size, you find her hot and want to see her in it.
• Go to a Halloween store and let her try on a few outfits. If she won’t come out, go in back with her. If she is still too shy to wear it in public, suggest a private “trick or treat”.

By using the holiday and a public venue to showcase your hottie, you are well on your way to increased role play in the bedroom. You will win regardless because:

1. She will get in the spirit and put on your favorite costume and delight you for hours with her new personality.
2. She won’t be caught dead in public but agrees to wear it for you in private.
3. She won’t wear it in public OR in private, but understands your need for something new and you two can come up with some new role play ideas that she will enjoy.

Have fun and focus on those treats more than the tricks, unless she’s wearing the hooker outfit, then an equal amount of “tricks” is permissible. For more ideas on creating a smokin’ hot wife, and creating a sexually-charged romance, visit www.makeyourwifehot.com today!

Making your wife scream comes in two flavors; ecstasy or anger. The gradual climb from pre-orgasm to orgasm or the “I can’t believe you (fill in the blank)”.

Let’s focus on the former.

Many women are often soft and subtle about their vocalization of sex. Maybe you have a moaner or a woman who enjoys sex, but doesn’t shout, scream, or dig her nails into your back. She’s happy, content and even sexually satisfied.

Every once in a while, you just want a freak in bed.

The overall foundation for hitting this level of sex is going to be communication. You must let her KNOW that you love her, respect her and worship her. Failure to let her know this by word, deed, and feelings is a non-starter. A safe and secure household makes all the difference. Be sure to instill that secure feeling daily.

You are not complaining, mind you. You just crave the variety and excitement that you used to have. Below are 3 strategies to rekindle your passion, fill her with unbridled lust, and buying a set of ear plugs for the kids.

1. Set a good example. 90% of porn shows the WOMAN being vocal and writhing in ecstasy as the man proudly satisfies her. The next time you are making love, work on a simultaneous orgasm. Reading her body and her ascension to climax you should be able to work up enough pace, penetration or fantasy to climax at the same time. When you do this, give her a Tarzan yell or scream. By sharing your euphoria vocally, you let her know how good a job SHE did in driving you wild. By doing this during a simultaneous orgasm, your chances of getting her to scream increase.

2. Get her to reveal her deepest, naughtiest fantasy. You may need a bottle of wine or a night with the Chipendales to pull this out of her, but don’t worry, she’s going home with you. The more you can get her to open up her mind, the better chances you have of opening up her vocal chords. Fulfill her fantasy whatever it is. (Unless farm animals are involved) If it involves Bruce from the last bachelorette party, buy her a private dance and get over it. People can visualize fantasies and create physical and chemical reactions in their bodies that are IDENTICAL to the reaction they would have with the real thing. (Example: crying at a movie or reliving a past event)

3. Ask her to scream. Duh. Sometimes the simplest solutions are the best. Let her know that one of YOUR fantasies and/or desires is for your sex lives to be so uncontrollable that she screams bloody murder as you pump her like there is no tomorrow. Simply letting her know what turns you on, may be enough for her to try this “new” thing! As always, variety is the spice of life, so keep being creative.

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My wife is NOT an exhibitionist. This is a wee bit of an obstacle because having her get a little crazy and dirty dancing in public is a bit of a turn on for me. If you are a fan of my blog and/or book, you know that her transformation from frumpy housewife to smokin’ hot MILF was HUGE!

Sex, lies and videotape was a movie starring a young James Spader and I thought it was a decent film. What my  wife and I do has NOTHING to do with that film, but the essence of role playing, videotaping your wife and getting creative is what this article is about.

We are able to turn on the passion at the drop of a hat and have the intimacy and passionate sex that is normally reserved for the movies. This kind of passion is normally reserved for newlyweds, NOT for a couple celebrating their 21st wedding anniversary.

Getting her to dirty dance at night clubs happens every so often. But if we aren’t in the mood to go out or if we are traveling and there are no “anonymous” places we can go (Not being known helps her to get out of her shell) then we sometimes get a little crazy with the camera.

Now, let’s be clear, we don’t do amateur porn or anything. But, once we start to role play a little bit, our imaginations run wild and after a half hour of having her talk in a eastern European accent and slowly fidgeting with her blouse, I get a little hot and bothered. Setting up the video camera and getting her to really heat things up can be SO seductive!

The first time we did this, honestly, I knew she wouldn’t go for the camera thing. I decided it was better to ask for forgiveness than permission, so I hid it behind some books on the table and let it run. I asked her if “Natasha” was available (This is one of our fantasy Eastern European Courtesan characters she likes to bring to our bedroom) and she said, “Da.”

Once Natasha explained how horny she was, I purposely kept the air conditioning off so she could perspire a little bit. The more Natasha breathlessly whispered how hot she was and how turned on she was, I politely asked her to unbutton her blouse and I would get her an ice tea. Actually I brought her a Long Island ice tea and as she became tipsy, her accent slipped a bit, but her sexual arousal did not.

The entire evening lasted about an hour and the videotape lasted only 45 minutes. This wasn’t a bad thing, because the shot was wide angle and I couldn’t see the soft, moist skin of my wife very well, anyway.

After I confessed that I had taped our interview and seduction, my wife laughed and said, “Natasha doesn’t care, only I do.” So, whenever I want to videotape my wife dancing, stripping, or simply record that sexy accent during a seduction scene, I only have to ask for one of our imaginary friends to accomodate us. This not only turns me on to NO END, but it allows for some serious fantasy-time with other women. And yes, I reciprocate with my wife. I have only 2 or 3 accents that I do decent enough to let her fantasies run wild, but that is MORE than enough to keep our marriage fresh, our love alive and our sexual excitement at its peak.

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I never would have thought that learning to text would INCREASE my sexual activity….but it has!

Guys, if you haven’t learned to text, then spend a few minutes with your teenager and learn…today! You will get an added benefit of being a really cool dad in the process. Texting my wife in the middle of the day, on a train, or during a wedding has added to the ongoing titillation that has created MORE sexual tension and energy in my life than ever before. Below are a few do’s and don’ts to make sure you create the excitement and sexual tension that will make your wife hot! For more ideas, please check out my book. Below are some pointers that have served me well and given me more sex than  I can possibly handle:

DO:
Tease her at odd times. During a boring meeting,  middle of the day, during dinner, or anytime that is unexpected.

DON’T:
Blatantly say you want to have sex. Tease her with nice sayings, hinting towards romance, or a role of a lover.

DO:
Keep your texts short and mysterious. Long texts take away the insinuation or mystery. Less is more.

DON’T:
Always answer your texts immediately. If you need a moment to come up with a great response-take it.

DO:
Be more aggressive. I once asked my wife to remove her panties during a train ride. I didn’t give up and repeated my request for over 45 minutes. If I had been verbally asking, it would have been annoying. Texting, for some reason, removes the annoying part and made it funny.

DON’T:
Use texting to cause any jealousy. If you are not in the same room, any jealousy insinuations may not be taken as humor. Texting removes visual cues that we need to fully understand some humor or wise cracks. Be sure to keep your messages directed only towards your lover.

DO:
Send pictures if you are apart for any length of time. A NEW picture of you gives her the feeling that you want to show yourself to her. Asking her to reciprocate is appropriate and shows her you want her. BONUS for requesting and recieving naughty pictures that are seductive or have any amount of nudity.

Text to your hearts content. Be respectful, but adventureous. The more you surprise her with unusual requests, words, and phrases the better. Don’t worry about when you text or what she’s doing when you send them. The more she gets an UNEXPECTED text, the better your chances of turning that idea into reality when you see her. For more ideas on creating the most sexually-charged relationship imaginable and having a very hot wife, visit my site at www.makeyourwifehot.com.

In the world of seduction, pornography and sex we all know that the brain is the most powerful part of our bodies. Without the orchestrated release of endorphins, chemicals, blood and synaptic messages there would be nothing.

The cheap and easy method of stimulation is physical and visual. We can be touched or touch another and stimulate our bodies. Viewing pornographic material is another method of stimulating that very special part of the brain.

There is, of course, an “old school” method that works equally well (If not better) than looking at boobs or people in a sexual romp who are obviously acting! You guessed it…read.

I recently read a terrific short story on wordpress about an interview of a young woman and her trip in an elevator with a perspective employer. It is simple, seductive and so well organized that I am suggesting it to ALL of my readers as an exercise in seduction and stimulation for married couples (or any couple for that matter)

Here it is:
http://theindianloveguru.wordpress.com/2009/06/16/going-down/

I’m telling you, if you haven’t read the Kama Sutra or studied any other eastern culture, you are missing out on thousands of years of experience. The USA was founded by the puritanical pilgrims, for God’s sake. For the sexually open and honest, read more eastern works on sexuality. You’ll never feel cheap again! (Unless you want to)

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