Writing about sex can sometimes just make you horny!

But it wasn’t always that way. For many years (especially when the kids were little) my wife’s energy, enthusiasm and overall sex appeal had just about disappeared.

At the time it seemed like the right thing to do…take a back seat to the kids. They came first and my wife was working 24/7 to raise them with very little sleep. After a few years, we both entered the rut of parenting and resigned ourselves that our sex life was going to be towards the bottom of our “to do” list…way down there, at the bottom…yuk.

I tried being helpful, funny, extra charming, etc. To no avail. My sex life was regulated to a fortunate Sunday morning every week or two. In fact, our kids Sunday school was called, “The Sunday Morning Miracle”

That’s the name I gave to our sex life.

After we had drifted apart sexually, emotionally and even physically, we nearly divorced. It wasn’t until we realized how stupid we both were that we decided to turn on the sex-daily!

Now I know that life, jobs and kids get in the way. But it is similar to the emergency instructions on an airliner which clearly states, “Please put your oxygen mask on FIRST before assisting others.” The reason they do this is simple. If you can’t take care of yourself, then you will be UNABLE to help others.

If Mom and Dad aren’t happy, how can they conceive of raising happy kids?

So if you want to stay married, have a terrific sex life and learn how to not be just the master of your domain, but the master of HER domain, shoot me an email and let me know when you’d like to have the next sex workshop (It’ll be in Vegas-for sure!). You and your wife are invited for an evening of openness, non-judgmental communication and a kick-ass party after we are done with the workshop.

In the meantime, please feel free to preview our book on How to Make Your Wife Hot!

After 20+ years of marriage, you would be foolish to think that things wouldn’t get stale. In order to keep your love, lust and laughter alive, you have to proactively seek out new and exciting things to do with and TO each other! Having sex in different and/or unusual places is just one thing that can do the trick. Here are a few places my wife and I have done the deed. Feel free to add to this list! (Comments welcome) If you want to make them private, visit my website and email them to me. Here we go:

• Walk-in closet on the floor or standing up
• Kitchen Counter top (against it AND on it)
• Front seat of car (in driveway or on the highway going 70)
• Kids room (weird, keep the lights off)
• In the dark room, processing pictures (before digital cameras, I know)
• On the beach (watch out for that sand…why do you think they call it sandpaper!)
• In the ocean (Bouncing is easier with the buoyancy of the water!)
• In the hot tub (heat will tire you out quicker)
• On the windowsill (6 inches of ledge was all I needed for that tight little ass)
• In the pool (Great compromise between hot tub and ocean)
• On the couch downstairs with the kids upstairs
• In the bathroom (Mirrors can come in handy)
• On an airplane (Officially it was a blow job, red eye under a blanket)
• On the deck in the back yard (after a great barbecue with neighbors)
• In the bathroom at a friend’s party (No really…we didn’t want to get caught)
• On my desk in the office (I am the boss, so no fear of disgrace
• In my chair at the office (Before I was the boss, so the fear of discovery was exciting!)
• In the stall of a bathroom (A very clean one!)
• In the dressing room at Nordstrom’s (Quickie!)
• On a motor boat while underway (Make sure you trust the captain)

I will save the details of these locations, logistics, and crazy stories for more blog entries. For the slightly shy, there are steps you can take to prevent embarrassment. For the outgoing, there are steps you can take to embrace the danger and laugh at the situations you create at a later time. All in all, it is ALWAYS fun and exciting to try new things! For more ideas, advice and tips, visit my website at www.makeyourwifehot.com.

Think you’ve heard it all? As a popular blogger and author, I’ve had some of the strangest questions asked of me and my hot wife. She wasn’t always hot, of course. 2.2 kids and 20 years of marriage takes its toll on anyone. We did have a fork in the road a few years ago and we both underwent some serious “reprogramming”. I remembered what it meant to “date” and put her on a pedestal, and she learned how to dance on a pole! To hear more about it, click here.

Now, for the 7 dumbest questions I have ever received:

7. It takes my wife almost an hour to orgasm and I’m tired after 20 minutes. What do I do?

Uhm…you need to learn about foreplay, dude. It shouldn’t take her that long. Oh, regarding your stamina…try going to the gym. You are probably out of shape.

6. My wife isn’t hot at all, Doug. But, she is VERY horny. I love her, but her weight gain has made her less appealing than ever before. I don’t know what to do.

You can do what I did and get an escort for a few years, suffer the embarrassment of an affair, and endure 2 years of counseling…OR YOU CAN TALK TO HER!!! Try going to the gym yourself, then take her shopping, and let her know in the nicest way possible that she IS hot. She will live up to your encouragement.

5. I want to get my wife a naughty costume for Halloween. She refuses to dress up, even in private.

Dress up yourself, you pirate! She will get in the spirit of being a wench even without the costume when you dangle your scabbard in front of her.

4. I love blow jobs, but am not into going down on my wife. I know that seems like a double standard, but it just doesn’t do anything for me.

Hello, Felix! Perhaps you missed the point. Going down on your wife is for HER pleasure!!! Just imagine you are painting the Chinese alphabet with your tongue. In fact, put some of your 4 basic food groups down there and have a snack.

3. My wife used to have long hair. As she got older, she cut it shorter and shorter. It’s not a big thing, but she looks less sexy to me. What do I tell her?

Go out and buy 2 different colored wigs. She likes the short hair, you only need the long hair when you are banging her.

2. I want to have sex in a public place, my wife is horrified at the thought. How do I get her to go to a secluded beach or park and seduce her?

A) You can take her to a secluded place, slip ecstasy in her Kool-Aid and have a ball or B) Start off by simply fondling her at the park on a few visits…get her used to it, then cut her off for a month, and next time you take her there, bring flowers, a diamond, a new BMW, and renew your wedding vows right before you unzip your fly.

1. I only like 2 positions and my wife wants to try a new position almost every other day. I think it’s best to stay with what works. What do you think?

I think you are a dork.

Of course, my answers were a little kinder. But the essence of the questions is based on fear and rejection. Think about that. You are already married, so real rejection probably isn’t in the cards. What do you have to fear? Trying new things is sometimes uncomfortable. However, it really depends upon your attitude. Get in the spirit of FUN! Accept that you will create some embarrassing moments. That is half the fun. You will end up with some great laughs and some terrific new sexual experiences. For more fun, go to www.makeyourwifehot.com.

OK guys, we’ve all heard that women need to feel loved in order to HAVE sex and men have sex in order to feel loved. Sounds trite, right?

WRONG!

Most women are wired this way. There is a clear, one-way path to getting sex and LOTS OF IT!

You have to make your wife feel special, loved, admired, respected, adored, and secure. You don’t have to do all of these all of the time (That would seem psychotic!). However, you have to patiently create these feelings in her BEFORE you can expect her to have sex with you! To begin with, you may have to simply connect with her on some superficial, simple things. For example:

Go shopping together. This can be for groceries, curtains, clothes, or any personal items. If you go clothes shopping, be sure to give her some VERY adoring, jaw-dropping moments as she models for you.

Express an interest in what SHE is into. If she is into a hobby, craft, or volunteer program, ask her about it. You don’t have to take up needle point, just talk about what she is into. Show sincere interest.

Let her talk. More importantly, when you let her talk, don’t try to solve any issue she brings up! Women simply need to talk and be heard. Even if they ask what do you think, resist the temptation to give a “solution.” Rather, you should empathize and state how you understand.

Give her specific compliments. Broad flattery is useless. Specific compliments on her hair, eyes, or how well she pulled off something at her job is going to give you loads of credit in the “He cares” bank account.

Only AFTER you have deposited enough into this “He cares” bank account, can you expect to make any withdrawls. Be sure to not brazenly ask for this…keep depositing your emotional support until your account is overflowing and she feels a strong compulsion to give you what you need. Remember, she needs love in order to have sex. So give her all the emotional love, support, adoration, affection, and patience in the world. Once you accomplish that, you will be able to have sex more often…then you will feel loved!

For more tips, advice, and a step by step system to make your wife hot, go to www.makeyourwifehot.com.