With the proliferation of MILLIONS of sex websites, it is sometimes difficult to filter the good porn from the ridiculous. Many people use video porn or erotic novels to stimulate and enhance their love life.

Great.

However, do you realize there are some really GREAT sites out there that can actually teach and educate us on advanced techniques? I know everyone thinks they are fabulous lovers, but in reality, only a fool believes he/she knows it all. All good teachers (yours truly included) is in a constant state of experimentation, discovery and erotic search mode.

The more variety, spontaneity and fun you put into your sex life, the more your love life improves. Many people get this backwards. While there is a time for romance, tenderness and communication, exceptional lovemaking rarely leads to divorce.

Instead of searching online for “porn” or “amateur porn” try search terms like “kama sutra” “advanced cunnilingus” or more specific items of curiosity. You’ll find a whole new world of videos, techniques and reading that will open your eyes…and her legs.

I encourage you to add YOUR favorite educational porno sites in the comments section below. Together we can build a list that committed couples can refer to over and over and over and over again…

Doug Steponin

http://www.makeyourwifehot.com

Stop watching porn!

I confess that I have never, ever actually watched a complete pornographic movie. Oh sure, I’ve put a few movies on and the wife and I have used the imagery and titillation to arouse the mood. But we never watched the entire movie…sorry about the ridiculousness of it, but there isn’t much difference from the first 10 mintues to the last!

But, seriously, has there ever been an ‘artistic’ movie around sex?

Sure, Doug…”9 1/2 weeks” “Gone with the Wind” and…uhm…Screech! Wait. I said SEX not ROMANCE!

You see, artistic sex is a lost art in the United States. Our microwave society has generated a new breed of instant gratification when it comes to everything including fast food, lottery millionaires and love on demand.

Artistic sex reminds me of a symphony. When two people go at it like dogs they are procreating. Nothing wrong with that if you want to make puppies. But a true artful lover enjoys the warm up, the dance, the fast interlude, the steady and slow pacing and the cymbal crash at the end of the song. Artful lovemaking always reminds me of classical music with its depth, variety of pace, rhythm, crescendos, frequency and amplitude. Listening to good classical music is actually terrific training for becoming and artistic lover.

If you are into rap music, then all the skills you need are available for $4.99 per download. Bang like animals and enjoy your repetitive boredom of sameness.

Don’t be embarrassed by the fact that 90% of us usually have sex in the same 2 or 3 positions. Heck, we know what creates an orgasm for our partner and ourselves. After a few years, however, don’t you want to try something new?

I don’t mean JUST a new position. You can get any number of the kama sutra positions from this blog and our new edition of www.makeyourwifehot.com coming out next year. (Complete with tasteful images for you and your spouse) You spouse will be thrilled that you consider more than just a new position. Your assignment is to create a new experience!

A good start is the book “500 Lovemaking Secrets” by Michael Webb. Michael has been featured on Oprah, CBS, NBC and dozens of other magazines and media. His advice is solid and he has a wealth of details he reveals in this book.

So don’t settle for simply a new toy, gizmo, position or underwear. Create a new experience that can transform not only your sex life, but your love life as well. Who knows, somebody should be writing that tasteful sexual movie one day…why not you!

To order Michael Webb’s “500 Lovemaking Secrets” simply click here. There is a money back guarantee, so you have nothing to lose and everything to gain!

I remember the first time my wife and I watched porno together…yeah…it was a riot! We couldn’t help but laugh at the incredibly complex dialogue in the film. “Do me…yeah..harder” We didn’t expect Oscar material, of course. However, we did expect some kind of foreplay/build up that would make the actual scenes somewhat interesting….HA!

It is interesting to note that the advent of the Internet and amateur porn has done a real service to adding the spice to relationships. Initially, we saw amateur porn as a dilution and slippery slope (pardon the pun) towards lower quality visual stimulation. We took a break for a few years and didn’t watch much at all. The stuff that was out there was simply more of the same…oooh….ahhhh…yeah…..just not very creative or interesting. We focused on some very high level psychological triggers and endorphin rushes that gave both our orgasms HUGE increases in power that I clearly describe in my book.

Last night we were surfing some sites together and found a few stimulating and interesting sites that caused our hearts to flutter and our libidos to be aroused.

Security camera footage.

Now, I know that many of these “scenes” were probably set ups, but the really interesting ones may have been actual security cameras that actually caught co-workers on tape…what a hoot! These scenes gave us just the right mix of laughter and voyeurism that made us excited and curious to see if they were going to get caught. You see. the excitement of getting caught can heighten sexual stimulation.

Perhaps you remember what it was like to mess around in High School downstairs while your parents were upstairs. Or remember the time you were at the drive-in theatre and a light flashed in your car? Any situation that involves a bit of danger naturally hightens our defensive response of fight of flight. This added amount of adrenaline obviously can make sex VERY satisfying and more thrilling than your run of the mill missionary bedroom flavor encounter.

So next time you need some extra juice to put in your MILF’s love tank, get out a porno movie, or google sites that have sexy hidden camera moments…it may give you a rush or at least give you some education on where to look for cameras, before you bend your wife over in the copier room.

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In the world of seduction, pornography and sex we all know that the brain is the most powerful part of our bodies. Without the orchestrated release of endorphins, chemicals, blood and synaptic messages there would be nothing.

The cheap and easy method of stimulation is physical and visual. We can be touched or touch another and stimulate our bodies. Viewing pornographic material is another method of stimulating that very special part of the brain.

There is, of course, an “old school” method that works equally well (If not better) than looking at boobs or people in a sexual romp who are obviously acting! You guessed it…read.

I recently read a terrific short story on wordpress about an interview of a young woman and her trip in an elevator with a perspective employer. It is simple, seductive and so well organized that I am suggesting it to ALL of my readers as an exercise in seduction and stimulation for married couples (or any couple for that matter)

Here it is:
http://theindianloveguru.wordpress.com/2009/06/16/going-down/

I’m telling you, if you haven’t read the Kama Sutra or studied any other eastern culture, you are missing out on thousands of years of experience. The USA was founded by the puritanical pilgrims, for God’s sake. For the sexually open and honest, read more eastern works on sexuality. You’ll never feel cheap again! (Unless you want to)

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