Don’t Grow Apart…Grow Together

Doug

There are as many reasons for divorce, as there are married couples!  However, you might be surprised to learn that one of the most common reasons for divorce is nothing as dramatic as spousal abuse, or drinking or drug addiction.

Many couples just grow apart.  This issue is very common in couples that marry young, and it is easy to understand.  At age eighteen or twenty, a blushing bride or proud groom has barely come adulthood, and is certainly not mature.

Interests and direction are still evolving.  And, when that evolution begins to slow and the couple find themselves in their thirties or forties, they may suddenly discover that they have grown apart.

Though many young couples think that romance will keep them together forever, a solid relationship – one that will last for thirty, forty or fifty years of married life – is based on friendship, common interests and the ability to adapt and grow WITH the inevitable changes that will happen.

If you find yourself in your forties with nothing in common with your spouse, you may feel like strangers.  You may start to become annoyed at the littlest of habits. Perhaps you’ve run out of things to talk about – other than your children – or you find yourself alone on a Saturday afternoon, trying to remember what to say. You may be bored.

This is not to suggest that you must buy a rifle and get to a practice range if your husband is an avid hunter.  Nor should a husband take up gourmet cooking if that is his wife’s hobby.  Though, some really dedicated husbands and wives HAVE taken on the challenge of jumping in with both feet! It is certainly worth a try and there is no damage by giving it a shot.

If you want to give that a try, more power to you!  Just be sure that it doesn’t backfire.  If you decide to acquire a new interest or skill just to please your spouse, be sure you are really committed to this idea or you will end up resenting your spouse for the time and effort you invest. If you take up a similar interest and you find yourself not enjoying, take the non-judgmental approach and admit that is just isn’t for you.

And try not to waste the investment by simply abandoning the activity.  Your spouse will be very happy to know you have taken an interest but, if you drop out without a reason, it will look as though you really didn’t care all that much! I really enjoyed the book from Amy Waterman, “Save My Marriage Today.” In this book she can teach any marriage how to interact in a constructive manner and actually save the “un-saveable” relationship.

In her book you will learn:

  • How to get your spouse to change their attitude. (I’ve seen the methods employed in this chapter alone help turn around dozens of marriages)
  • Discover the REAL REASON why marriages fail; and what to do about it…
  • A simple but powerful psychological trick that will help you to put your mind in a place of happiness and relaxation. Coming from this position will make it a LOT easier to save your marriage.
  • The single most important thing that you MUST do in order for love to return to your relationship. You’re probably overlooking it – most people do – but it is easy to remedy and will make all the difference in the world towards bringing the love back into your marriage.
  • Discover the truth about trial separations. How to make them work if it is forced upon you and mistakes that most people make that cause them to NOT work.

Visualize a New Future: It’s a year from today (or a lot sooner), and your marriage is so solid and strong that all your friends are remarking how happy you and your partner seem to be. You’ve recovered from the stress you went through last year due to your marriage issues, and you are in a much happier place than you are now. Even better, you know that it would take wild horses to tear you and your spouse apart now.

Today that may sound impossible, but the saying, “It’s cheaper to keep her” wasn’t just talking about finances. The emotional turmoil you avoid is priceless. Click on this link and check out Amy’s book today.


Multiple Orgasms That Work…Even When They Don’t

Doug

Sounds like double talk-right? Well, we are talking about WOMEN, after all! (Easy ladies, we are going to focus on your orgasms, so a little good natured ribbing is OK, right?….uh…I mean, please) This entry in my blog comes after decades of research, many different girlfriends, and of course, one hot wife! Women can be categorized in one of 3 areas. 1) Have had multiple orgasms and know exactly how their body works 2) Have orgasms on a regular basis but only one per session or 3) have never had an orgasm or it is so infrequent, the last one was during the Carter administration.

There are some fundamental physiological, chemical, and mental exercises to help your woman achieve multiple orgasms. To begin with, sex is 90% mental. You can have the most beautiful body in the world, but if there is no “chemistry” or connection beyond a person’s good looks, anyone’s orgasms may be there, but will not be as strong as two people who are in love, have GREAT chemistry, are relaxed and COMPLETELY understand each others bodies. Be sure to read my eBook on making your wife hot, for details. This book will reveal to you the extremely STRONG mental blocks women have and how you can remove them to give her “off the chart sex” and a hunger for more of it…much more.

A woman’s mind must be ready for sex, of course. For a multiple orgasm, she must be more than ready; she must NOT care about it! That would just make her more tense. (Told you they were complex creatures!) You see, if you promise her you can pull it off, her anticipation may be so tremendous, that she actually blocks her body from receiving it. It is similar to someone who knows THEY can shoot 3 under par and telling their buddy to just do it like me and you can shoot like Tiger Woods also. Sounds simple, but it isn’t.

You may tease her with the anticipation of a multiple, but don’t ever promise to deliver. The reason is we are ALL responsible for our own orgasms. We are more connected to our minds and bodies than anyone. Only you can control your own thoughts and actions, which in turn can control your body’s chemical releases.

Mental. Do everything in your power to help your wife relax and be totally into sex. Be sure that you have removed all distractions, set a romantic mood, and fully funded your kid’s college education. This will definitely set her mind at ease so she can concentrate on her clitoris. The more you can do with regards to non-physical foreplay, the better. Don’t overlook her mental state. It is her foundation for love you will go nowhere without doing a first class job, here.

Physical. See if you can get your wife to get a full Brazilian wax job (unless she already has one). Many women have stated that once their box is totally smooth their pleasure doubles or triples! (You never cared to munch on the fur-burger anyway!) Which brings us to the actual technique…you guessed it…Rock Star Cunnilingus!!!!

Technique. The clitoris is where 87% of all women experience their greatest pleasure and sure-fire orgasms. Your technique at painting this spot with your tongue will prove to be your greatest asset. Forget what you see on your favorite porn/whack DVD. That is just a movie, after all. Your job, Felix, is NOT to treat her kitty like a fence to be painted, but rather a piece of fine Japanese tapestry. Use your tongue and mouth like a calligrapher writing his memoirs. Take your time, find her spot and MATCH her energy. When she moans, you moan too. If there is minimal reaction, try humming, a Hall’s Mentho-lyptus, or a mini-vibrator on your tongue (Yes, they actually have these!). As you sense her excitement peaking, the fun begins.

Take her to the “edge of the cliff” of ecstasy but DO NOT FINISH HER OFF! Yes, she will beg and yes, she may be angry. Take her to the edge but don’t stop your artistry…just change your pattern, frequency or area. Then, within a few seconds start over again.

This technique of “almost bringing her to orgasm” seems counter productive, but it works on several levels.

  1. Her pre-orgasm pleasure can be repeated over and over again! Yipee!
  2. Her body gets used to the roller coaster, ebb and flow of pre-orgasm. This will condition her for having multiple orgasms in the future.

Once you have mastered this roller coaster, you may need to repeat it for a few days, weeks or months, continually conditioning her body for the ebb and flow of pre-orgasm. After an appropriate amount of time, she may be ready to use the same rhythm to achieve an orgasm, go right back into pre-orgasm and repeat the process. YAHOO!!! You are now a certified sex slave and as long as she doesn’t tell her friends, you will be safe from becoming a male gigolo.

For more tips, techniques, ideas and frivolity of having a GREAT marriage, more and better sex, and making your wife hot, visit our website at www.makeyourwifehot.com.


Love Secrets: What Women REALLY want!

Doug

What do women want? Let me tell you a secret, my friend, if you think they want Mel Gibson, you’re right. If you think they want Tom Hanks, you’re right, also. You see there is a strange biological pull that women want. Their bodies want a strong, chiseled man that will produce good offspring. Beauty isn’t JUST in the eye of the beholder. Studies have shown that the “George Clooney” look has a better chance of delivering viable offspring better than Woody Allen. Charm, humor and your BMW aside, women’s bodies desire the strongest genetic potential possible to propagate the species. Flash forward to the 21st century. HELLO! They also want us to be nice, listen more, and pick up our underwear. What’s a man to do? Is it possible to be the strong, “take charge” guy AND be a compassionate “boy next door”?

YES.

In fact, once you get CLOSE to mastering the psychological AND physiological needs of a female, you will enjoy MORE SEX, stronger relationships, and quite frankly, you will be happier in your life! Here are some tips to make sure you increase your masculinity, without becoming an emasculated, metrosexual, Oprah-fan.

1. Get in shape.For most men, we have traded in the spear and mastodon hunting trips for the PDA and the office. Women STILL respond to our role as provider. The need to provide for our families hasn’t changed. Only the tools that most of us use have. If you are in an office or other non-physical environment, you HAVE to make time to exercise. You should not exercise just to stay healthy. Look into routines and programs that actually make you look good! You only have so much time during the day, so make the most of it. After you shed 80% of that spare tire around your midsection, get a trainer or program to build that upper body look that will make you feel better and show her that if the economy DOES slide any further into the tar pits, that you will be ready to haul that spear at the neighbors dog to provide a decent meal.

2. Read about relationships.I know, I know…studies have shown that 94% of all relationship books are read by women. (and the other 6% male readers are probably gay) It doesn’t matter. If you WANT more sex and you want a more LOVING relationship, take 15 minutes per day and read about what women REALLY want. You will see that security ranks #1 in their brains. That security comes in the form of financial, family, marriage, and overall stability of their life. The more you can understand that, the better you will be able to communicate it to her in thought, deed, and speech. If you don’t have time to read a book, at least read through my blog and pick up my ebook. You will find the distilled version to what THEY want in a relationship and how to use that knowledge to have a better sex life!

3. Make clear decisions. When asked about where you want to go to dinner or where you should go on vacation, instead of saying, “Where would you like, honey” start voicing your opinion. Take charge. Be a man. Show her you have drive, desire, and the ability to be decisive. You aren’t chasing the mastodon, Henry, so at least you can find your way to the Olive Garden restaurant! It is a small thing, my friend, buy you will be surprised at the subtle reaction in your wife by the little bits of leadership you can show.

4. Listen more. “What?” you say. Yes, numbnuts…LISTEN MORE! If you are like most men, you have mastered the art of selective hearing. It’s time to reverse that somewhat. Take a REAL interest in what you wife may be blabbering about. If you show any kind of non-judgmental interest, you will be shocked at the increased level of interest she will have in your life and your libido. Take a few moments, ask her about her day and ask her to tell you more. Do NOT try to solve any issues she has. Just listen. Try not to fall asleep and you may actually get laid more.

5. Balance yourself. As you can see, women DO want the “take charge” chiseled strength of Mel Gibson AND they want the caring, charmer of Tom Hanks. You can be both (to a certain degree). But believe me when I say that you should NOT try to simply be one or the other. All women desire a combination of these two forces and you have the ability to strengthen yourself where you are weak and loosen up where you are too strong. That could mean you’ll have to cry less, work out more or both. In any event, you’ll notice a change in her AFTER you change yourself. There is no other order to this equation. Start today.

For more ideas on making YOUR wife hot, getting more love, sex, and enjoyment in your marriage, visit www.makeyourwifehot.com and order by ebook. Ladies (if you’ve read this far) we have a companion book for you coming out this summer, so stay tuned!